Love is always unevenly loaded. No two people love each other evenly. And in the beginning there will be one person in love and the other undecided at that moment. So in the beginning I’m ok with the other not repeating the words. If they said it in the past but then stop it becomes a something different. It would crush me. It’s only 3 simple words but the meaning is not simple. Wars have been fought over it, nations have crumbles because of it or the lack of it. So if you love someone tell them, you never know… you might just stop a war 😊
When I have felt it I have said it but I have put my fingers to the girls lips and said not now. To say those words almost demands the same words back; so I have not wanted to.
But it is like pulling a cork out of a champagne bottle, it doesn't go back in. One person says it which makes it easier for the other person to acknowlege the same emotion. So while I have said not now, it has been.
In reality, you have to have permission to love. The interactions between a guy and a girl have established that permission and just the verbal acknowledgements of the emotions has yet to happen.
It doesn't mean they don't love you if they don't say it back to you. Which was in my case. My boyfriend would always tell me he loved me. Never did we hand up the phone ☎️ without him saying "I love you baby".
I always wanted to say it back, but the first few times I said it back to him, I didn't hear from him for a couple of days, or he'd get all embarrassed.
That's ma story!
Anytime I’ve said that to someone I said it without expectation of them saying it back to me and prepared myself for that outcome so that I would be okay. I’m fortunate that the guy has always said it back even if it wasn’t right away. Honestly it was a worse feeling for me if someone told me they loved me and I didn’t feel it back.
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I would much rather they be honest and not say it when they don't mean it than lie. If there's an imbalance in feelings in the relationship, I would want them to communicate it's there so we can both make the best decisions going forward. So, if they don't say it back and we have not clarified, then I would ask how they feel with no hard feelings.
u many times they would just hug, or kiss me... or say the adored me, or joked that they didn't, or just didn't feel like say anything because they were upset
I never took it the wrong way, because they sure did
now, if you mean when you say this first, and they don't say it back... I do guess that would suck big time, but I've never been there
I think females don't like guys and men using those words so loosely when she feels 1) she doesn't know him well enough, 2) she doesn't feel the same and or 3) she feels he's saying it to get in bed with her. Here's the thing, if im talking to a girl for 10 months -- we've met, exchanged numbers, talk about deep topics, made each other laugh, etc, built a rapport and personal connection, gone on dates, I believe it can be said then.
Well, not so. I am really jaded abiut "I love you". It has mostly been lies. A tactic to bed me generally so I actually become very distrustful of men who tell me this. Sorry.
Depends. If we’ve been in an actual relationship for a while and he can’t say it then that’s a red flag but I don’t pressure if we just started seeing eachother. I’d be more concerned if he said it too soon, saying ily holds weight
Love is selfless. It is something that is given freely without the expectation of receiving. If you say I love you with the inward hope or expectation it will be said back, you’re doing it wrong
love is just a 4 letter word... it's how they act towards you that counts... and how they make you feel.
Not true. It’s hard for many people to say for lots of different reasons.
I love you. It's said too often. It's not said often enough.
This is a true story.
ME: I am falling in love with you.
HER: Your'e crazy
It was humiliating.
If they don't say I love you back, I would feel upset and feel kinda crappy.
Sometimes I don't mind hearing it back because I know that person loves me they are just shy or don't like saying it
don't mind, they'll say it eventually
Like a fool. And idiot for loving them.
I don’t find those easy words at all
It is only words.
Feels terrible
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