What is a first love?

[Anonymous]

I don't really understand what it is. Can you have a first love without being in a relationship?

I had a huge crush on a guy when I was 13. He was 17 at the time. I would talk to him everyday for hours, and I thought about him day and night, everything reminded me of him, I fell in love with him for every text he sent, I thought he was literally perfect personality and looks wise. I would imagine a future with him. Us getting married, having children, being in love, cuddling, I would imagine being his house wife and I would imagine us being old together and die together. I also talked about him to everyone I knew, and I wrote all about him in my diary. I also collected pictures of him, and started at his pictures for hours. I think I liked him for 11 months, but yeah he didn't like me in that way. I ner had a relationship with him, never kissed him or anything.

Was it my first love or not? Or is a first love the first person you have a relationship with?

[Anonymous]

A first love is generally considered to be the first person you have a romantic and/or sexual relationship with, but it can also refer to an intense emotional attachment to someone that involves feelings of infatuation, attraction, and longing.

Based on what you've described, it's possible that you experienced a first love in the sense that you had intense feelings of attraction, infatuation, and attachment to this guy when you were 13. However, since you did not have a romantic or sexual relationship with him, it may be more accurate to describe this as a crush or infatuation rather than a first love.

It's important to remember that love and attraction can take many different forms, and that there is no one "right" way to experience these feelings. What's most important is that you honor and respect your own emotions and desires, and pursue relationships and experiences that are healthy, consensual, and fulfilling for you.

[Asker]

So if someone asks if I had a first love what should I respond with?

[Opinion Owner]

You can respond honestly based on your own feelings and experiences. If you feel that you had a strong emotional connection with someone and experienced romantic feelings towards them, even if you were not in a relationship with them, then you could say that you had a first love. It's important to remember that everyone's experiences are unique and there is no right or wrong answer to this question.

[ColHathi]

Sorry, but these two responses were probably generated entirely by ChatGPT.

[MementoMori777]

Yea that definitely sounds like love, mostly that picturing a future shit, the fact that you are still thinking of him now means he was your first love, first loves hit different

[Asker]

I hate that he was my first love then. I want my first love to be the person I will marry, but I guess that's not possible now. I do not like him anymore by the way, it was just a thought that came up randomly. I am now 15, I turn , 16 later this year.

[MementoMori777]

That's good, you got over it, that means you are ready for when you fall in love for someone else, and I don't think the other person would care too much as long as you love them at the moment right