Are you capable of being happy in a relationship with just anyone (someone you barely know)?

[Anonymous]

I have never been capable of developing an emotional attachment based on appearances or over short periods of time/a matter of weeks or months.. very curious how people can go so far as to commit themselves into serious relationships with ultimately strangers?

yes

no

[Anonymous]

Hmm, this question is a bit confusing because are you talking about relationships of convenience (like arranged marriages) or someone who commits to someone based off looks? I’m guessing you mean the second one and if so then I wouldn’t say they are strangers to one another, they just aren’t compatible outside of physical attraction. Someone who is either shallow, self conscious or both will commit themselves to a person based off looks because they care too much what others think. Much like people get obsessed with looking perfect (great bod, skin, clothes, etc), a person can feel that way about who they’re seen in public with. As far as the physical attraction, sometimes that can be mistaken for love when it’s lust. Like they won’t mesh mentally and personality wise but the magnet to one another is too strong. They fulfill that physical desire, not the mental which matters more.

[Asker]

I am ultimately describing entering into a commitment/relationship based off infatuation, lust or limerence. Regardless I have never been capable of actually enjoying nor investing in such a construct with no real understanding of who they are as an individual, but most people seem to do this everyday and be completely content and that is just beyond any understanding I have of a real connection.

[Opinion Owner]

I see it too but it’s either with younger people (maybe mid to early 20s) or some bachelor guy with a failed marriage or even in his 30s-40s won’t settle down. Maturing is knowing that looks fade, and that hot person won’t look like that forever so it’s better to be with someone because you connect on a higher level. To be fair though, I also think the people who stay with someone out of infatuation have convinced themselves that it’s real love, but they just don’t know any better.

[Simslover92]

I used to think I could but I would prefer to be with someone I've been friends with first like my current relationship.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, as long as she is not obnoxious or high maintenance.

[Asker]

You are able to be vulnerable with people you don't even know you can trust?