Do you ever feel like you are not compatible with anyone?

[Anonymous]

I totally feel like I'm not compatible with anyone. And more times then I can count I feel like I should just give up. But because I still have feelings I keep trying. Life feels like hell.

[_Maya_]

No. I don't feel like that since I have had four serious relationships with all but one lasting quite a while. My girlfriend is very compatible with me. There are certain things that we have that are exactly the same and others that are opposite but actually work to our advantage if that makes any sense. I won't get into the details on that but basically the things that we are opposite on bring us closer in ways. I have never felt when I was single that I wasn't going to find someone eventually. I just tend to not push myself into relationships just because.

[NathanDavis]

I did many years ago, when I was very young, a teen...

more like, I was not capable of bonding good enough with anybody in the first place, so never mind a compatibility or affinity in a relationship

[Asker]

What was your relationships like as a teenager?

[NathanDavis]

as a young teen? none of it... lol

after I turned 16 and in high-school... well, to be rather brief it was fine, because she was similar to me, and we would share our "issues" and we grew up together and through them, so yes, it was definitely part of growing up and getting out of those issues

[Asker]

Sounds like things weren't so bad for you. I spent all my school years scared to death of people. People wanted to kill me, for no reason but for the fun of it.

[NathanDavis]

well... to me it was almost 8 years of "fear" lol

[Asker]

I was having anxiety problems, but never quite broke down. After graduation, I decided to take a year off, and just stay home and do stuff at home. During that time I started liking a girl at church, and for a bit I thought she liked me. I was also trying to find a job. I guess everything together put me over the edge, and I got the shakes really bad, and couldn't make them stop for days. I was throwing up. Finally mom took me to the doctor, and the doctor who examined me, told me that I was starting to have a nervous break down, and had to put me on medication. It took a month of that medication to get me to the point where I could function again. After that things were up and down emotionally, I finally got a steady job, the same one I'm in now. But things are not solved. I'm still damaged.

[bededazzle]

yeah no one gets me lol

[amalncjs]

Yes I feel like this all the time, I find a lot of women attractive but every time I get to know them better I realise we are not compatible. A lot of guys may feel this way but never even be able to admit/recognise this feeling. I think it’s best to invest all the love you have into your friends and really explore the value that different friendships can contribute to your life, remember that finding someone compatible is not a rushed affair. You simply have to love yourself and then you will find more options open for you because you don’t have as much needs since you already have fulfilling relationships with friends and yourself :)