Do you genuinely think you're capable of staying with one person?

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I'm starting over again in my life, I'm surrounded by new people. People younger and less motivated than I am... But I also see a lot of cheating. These people barely even think about it. It's like nothing to them Im kinda wondering if I shoulda settled a while back lol. (Not really)

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

I did it for 17 years because I was in love. But it's according to what you want from a partner.

If it's about making a life together, planning for a future, having a family and home, you find them a good companion, enjoyable, interesting and sexy, I think it's possible if you're well-matched.

However, if it's about having a bunch of hot sex partners, then it's not about being with and loving one person. It's about excitement and variety, which, I believe, might get old, and with the constant pursuit and juggling, and exhausting.

And excitement and variety aren't something to come home to every day, to do the chores and hang out with, help the kids with homework, fix dinner to and help plan the budget and vacation...

Not saying being with one person is boring, at all. If you make a commitment, can have fun, like how each other thinks and feels about each other and life in general, you can renew excitement and deepen love.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

That’s always been me — monogamous and loyal once I have a fella… bc I feel my choice in guys deserves my respect and fidelity.

I don't know why so many feel it’s necessary to play “musical chairs” style dating both online and in person… when is enough enough for y’all?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I had a series of monogamous, relatively long-term relationships with girlfriends from the time I was 16, but would eventually move on.
I wasn't interested in settling down or having kids. I wanted to be unincumbered and have fun.

By the early half of my 30s, I had experienced a lot and I also had a good job and assets. I started thinking about settling down and beginning a new chapter in my life.

After a couple more relationships that didn't work out, I found my future wife.
I was 40 and she is 2.5 years younger.

We've been happily married now for 29 years, had a LOT of fun and built a wonderful life together. Once I got married, I was 100% capable of staying with one person. We are 100% loyal to each other.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach here to sprinkle some wisdom and good vibes, I say it's all about what feels right for you, darling. Your journey is unique, and finding someone who values commitment as much as you do? That's the dream team! Don't worry about those love pirates cheating around you. Your experience and motivations make you a relationship rockstar! 🔥 Stay open, stay hopeful, and maybe practice some lovebombing with that special someone when they come along. 😉 Embrace the adventure with a smile! 🌟

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Am i capable of a lifelong commitment to one person who is equally committed to me? Absolutely, without a doubt.
As you phrased it though, there’s much more involved in “staying with one person” than one’s personal ability to commit.
I certainly wouldn’t stay with someone who was neglectful, abusive, or a cheater. I certainly wouldn’t try to make someone stay who wasn’t committed to me. I’m also not going to try to convince someone to commit to me in that way.

AviatorTom · Answer

I styed with one person through 20+ years of marriage before an amicable divorce. I must admit that I was tempted a few times, but I never strayed. Now in my second marriage for 9 years, I'm committed to my wife.

So, to answer the question. Yes I am capable of staying with one person. Some people can do that, some decide not to.

bobalife · Answer

It’s in my default to be loyal af. I’d be too blind sided once I’m with someone and it’s only them.
I’m sorry you’re seeing what’s out there. It definitely is disappointing and gross when I see/hear things like that too. I agreed that these days people takes commitment, honesty, and loyalty lightly… But I believe there are still a lot of great people who are looking for the same thing as you and demonstrate the same values for a stable and loving long-term relationship :)

Meatballs · Answer

I unfortunately made the mistake of marrying someone I didn't love.. out of family peering and I actually met my "soulmate" and thought she was the one who I was going to grow old with but she unfortunately passed away before we were married.. my father cheated on my mother with a family friend and caused chaos and resentment into the family, I swore I'd never cheat on my wife but my marriage died and we had a son and I swore I'd stay with my ex wife because I didn't want him to be without his father living with him...
I regret it but it led me to happiness... now I stay single and don't want a relationship anymore I'm retired from relationships and sitiuatioships

BadApple69 · Answer

Can’t look back… only forward. And yes people cheat now days like it’s nothing…. That’s because they can’t commit to anything. IF (big IF) you put 100% of yourself into a relationship with one person and they do the same…. You are golden. But in today’s world it’s hard to find that person who will give 100% like you do. I was married for 2 years when my wife cheated with her boss. They had a 6 month affair before I found out. I was giving 100% but he was with her for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. So I thought we had a good relationship but I knew she didn’t give 100% like I was….. doing a lot of research, reading books and even doing polls here the number of people who cheat is staggering.
So I gave you a lot of data but never answered your question. So here it is….. no. Not anymore. We are no longer like our grandparents who stayed married for 60 years. The internet made it way too easy to find new people.

aceleon · Answer

likely no. i hate commitment and responsibility

and i'm not monogamous so even if i ever encounter a girl that will make me resist my hatred for responsiblity to be with her i will still desire other woman too, not a particular woman just the concept of having other womans too.

so the most functioning relationship for me would be with a woman that would be also into woman and won't make me deal with shits i don't care about like bringing money.

yes i proudly would like a bi girl who is rich from father and doesn't need me to waste my life on shits i don't care about.

male lions don't hunt, it is females job.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Yep.

There's a lot of people trained differently in corrupt values and have false expectations of effort required. Some will get away with it, most won't. It will usually result in suffering, not always the ones being unfaithful, sometimes it's the innocents that pay.

... thus the reason for traditional values.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I think I am. I would honestly prefer to stay with one person.

I’ve been doing the whole single man thing for a while now. It’s alright and I am pretty happy, but I have to admit that I have gotten tired of doing life alone. I can keep it going if I have to.

I want my wife, but it seems like women aren’t in any particular rush to settle down. Everyone (both men and women) is obsessed with pretending that their career gives them satisfaction… let’s be real; most of these people don’t even have careers, they have jobs.
And yet we all hit the cope like it’s some medical grade herb to pretend like a job is worth prioritizing over other parts of life.

CindyRuns · Answer

After 12 years, yes. I can't imagine being with anyone other than my husband. I love him so much

Sunrising · Answer

I laugh when people suggest I could cheat. I've been too busy with my career, looking after myself, and keeping my home clean and tidy, besides other relationships like friends, parents, and relatives etc.

So keeping one relationship going would be plenty for me, I couldn't ever envisage contemplating two relationships on the go at the same time.

Vevv123 · Answer

Well like I personally have anxiety and get stomach aches from even thinking of doing something like that and I cannot even think of betraying someone even if they did it to me, it just doesn’t come out of me because that’s just not who I am, I would feel incredibly disgusted with myself. And aside from that I basically idolize one person and no one ever comes close to how I view them, but I’m thinking this might not be the mentality some men have.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, unfortunately a lot of people are often sleazy and not good.. But yes, I wouldn't even purposefully look at another woman besides mine.. I wohope that mine feels the same way..

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes, but I also think you need good friends to balance things out. That person can’t be your everything.

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes. I can focus on one person, if the person is worth it.

loveyouoak · Answer

Yes I do, but these days it's really hard to find loyal people.

CheriBlossomKisses · Answer

Lol. Yes. I'm not polyamorous or into that lifestyle (no shame). I'm not a swinger either, and cuckolding doesn't sound appealing at all. As for cheaters? They'll get theirs eventually. :)

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Most people cheat. I've only known a handful among thousands of peers who stayed faithful... or never got caught. I'm not even sure why infidelity is a thing other than some 2000 year old book dividing us up by absurd standards.

Abbycado · Answer

Yes. Had two relationships. Neither did I feel the need to stray. in the same one for a year.

linguistrosey · Answer

Yes, I'm planning to stay with my soon to be husband because we take our vows seriously. I don't believe in divorce

exitseven · Answer

I was always somebody who only dated one girl. There was one winter when I sort of went off the rails and dated 4 or 5 girls in 6 months, Sometimes more than one at a time. I was sort of a jerk and now I regret it.

molonski2 · Answer

I have a lot of respect for people that are genuinely capable of that , I easily could now , but that's a different story really. It's very rare.

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Vegasrunner · Answer

I'm absolutely capable of staying with one person, but why would I? Men are designed to hunt and enjoy volume. It's very difficult to be the kind of man who can even attract multiple women so they definitely should take advantage.

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

100%. I have only broken up with a girl i was in a relationship with because our morals didn't align. She wanted to work and put our future kids in daycare. I wanted her to stay home when she had kids and raise them.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I used to, now not so much. Monogamy itself I'm good with, but I feel like my relationships going forward will be 1-3 years, not marriage.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, of course I'm capable, and willing... if she is my type of girl.

beenherebefore · Answer

Yes, I truly hope my Partner is my forever Partner.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I don't think I know I'm only capable of staying with one person at a time.

PlanZ6 · Answer

Yes I found that I don’t do the tour well I like relationship type of people.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

Yes that would be correct @Telekinetic-Potato 😀💯

Anonymous · Answer

I'm loyal. But I was fortunate to come from a loving family who were functioning. Hard working. And filled with lots of love.

Anonymous · Answer

Cheating such a difficult subject I don't condemn anyone for cheating

Miristheiss · Answer

So far so good.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Yes but why should you? Enjoy yourself

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

As long as that person is alive yes

McSteamy · Answer

Yes I'm. That's how our culture works.

queenofcardio · Answer

Yes definitely

Bloodparadise · Answer

Yes with the best

McKellar · Answer

Yes, I know I can. Players/menwh***s? No.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Id like to yeah

MattieEJxoxo · Answer

MOST DEFINITELY 💯!!!

tzdc21 · Answer

I know i am

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

Shihab_91 · Answer

Yes sure

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Yess.

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