What is the best way to feel better when you argue with your boyfriend/girlfriend?

[gayekip]

Do you have any specific suggestion for me?

[caring__1]

You can communicate or you can argue, but you can't do both at the same time. When you argue, you want to be heard; when you communicate, you want to hear the other person. It's your choice, but you'll probably feel better if you learn effective communication skills rather than insist you're right and are entitled to what you want. People assume their lifetime spent talking qualifies them to communicate, yet talking and communicating are totally different. Find a professional who can teach you the difference.

When we communicate, we show the other person their thoughts and feelings have value to us, and we want to clearly understand them by seeing things through their eyes. In communication, we seek clarification, showing that desire to understand, rather than make judgments of the other person. If you want to communicate, never accuse, assume, blame, criticize, demand, rationalize, yell or tell people what they should or shouldn't do. None of those common behaviors will ever give you positive results.

The other person's perspective makes just as much sense to that person as our perspective makes to us. If all you want is to come to an agreement, then take on their perspective and tell them they're right and you're wrong. If you insist on being right, you're putting the other on the defensive by insisting that person is wrong. What do you hope to accomplish?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Realize that whatever you're arguing about is most likely stupid and meaningless, and don't be afraid to let him win for the sake of the relationship.
After my girlfriend died, I couldn't think of one single thing that I got mad at her for, other than talking to another guy, that was actually worth getting upset over.
I even overreacted to her talking to that dude, because nothing happened.

Death puts everything into perspective, but unfortunately it's already too late for me. It's not too late for you

[WanderingLoveWizard]

And letting him win doesn't make you weak. It makes you strong

[PrettyPriya]

Well, it really depends on what you are arguing about. Some context to that might give me a better idea of what to offer as a suggestion. You can always use the update box and update the question with some information about what you and your boyfriend are having problems with.

Honestly, my spouse and I do not get into arguments. Sure, we disagree on things but we have good communication and respect for one another. We usually arrive at a compromise of some sorts when we have a disagreement. When I get frustrated, I just take some time to think about what is important.

Usually, after doing that, I almost laugh at how silly our disagreement is. Most are. Most couples argue over the tiniest of things that don't matter. Yes, there are always major things that come up that two people have different opinions on.

Looking back, most disagreements we have had are over relatively dumb and insignificant things. My best suggestion, without further context, is to really think about what you are arguing about and whether it is truly important or worth arguing over.

[Anonymous]

Just slap on his face and cut him off from your life. you will feel better.

[OlderAndWiser]

Make sure that you have a constructive discussion focused on solving the problem rather than fixing blame or calling names.

[Pinay_ako]

Apologize and have angry sex afterwards

[zayndan]

Hang out with your other friends, and do things you enjoy until those feelings subside.

Also sometimes after an argument instead of focusing on how I feel, I toss aside my feelings and just live as though nothing happened. Talk to my girlfriend as though all is well after we apologize to each other

[Walt832]

My girlfriend randomly does it intentionally. She argues and leads to rough sex 😂. 🤷‍♂️. I am like oh well. I don't know I guess is a stress relief 😂😂 for her. Then during the week or weeks she is super sweet 😳.


So i am like 🥴🤭🤭🤭. If it works 🤷‍♂️. I ain't complaining 🤣.

[Anonymous]

Have sex.

1 of 2 things will happen-well first of all you're about to have one of the best fucks you'll ever have in your life.

But when it's over you're either going to be able to speak to eachother calmly and rationally

Or you're just not gonna want to talk but you'll probably feel a little less of a disconnect. This is a sign that at least one of you (probably both) still need to reflect on the situation and haven't fully sorted out how you feel.

[invalid1]

Yeah, hmmmmm.
Play video games, sing, pray. Vent out your primal urges for violence.

[shades777]

Arging is usually a road to nowhere, communicating is much better

[TotallyAlmost]

I always remind myself that I only argue with people with whom I feel close.

[Greenbins]

I usually go fuck someone else.. that always cheers me up

[Anonymous]

Go out and watch a movie and a movie theater by yourself

[Luckycharms12]

Say sorry work it out then fuck

[Tyrael]

Make up sex.

[In_Trance]

Orgasms

[brandon1122]

Talk to him