What was the toughest decision you've ever had to make?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Mine was the decision to not get back with a woman after we separated.

I had girlfriends from the age of 16. But when I was 36, I met a 30 year old named Petra. She is the first woman I ever loved with my heart and soul. She loved me, too. We wound up living together for over a year.

We separated for reasons that I didn't fully comprehend at the time and are too complicated to explain. No cheating or anything mean was involved.

After we separated, I felt like my guts had been kicked out. I sometimes felt nauseous. When I was alone, there were times when I would double over and bawl. It was the greatest pain I had ever experienced.

After a few months, she called me and tried to get back together. The only reason I didn't was because I didn't think we would be make it as life-long partners and I couldn't handle the pain of breaking up a second time. It was like being a heroin addict who had gone cold turkey and didn't want to go through that again.

Part of me says that I should have fought for her. She was wonderful. But in the long run, things worked out better for me.

I met my future wife three years later. We've been happily married now for going on 26 years and she couldn't be a better wife.

Petra wound up dying from a sudden medical problem at the age of 55. I still love her and will never forget her.

razelove · Accepted Answer

Whether to stay in school going after a masters/phd or get back into working and making babies with my wife. I knew she would have been behind me with either decision, but that the longer I would have waited to start making those babies, the more it would affect her, even if she wouldn't hold it against me or blame me in a conscious way for it.

I turned down the scholarship, got to work as a lab tech, and knocked her up with the swiftness. I don't regret it at all. I'm more inclined to believe that though more money could have been made with the school, it's far more likely our relationship wouldn't have made it through, as she would have probably wanted to go after a masters too, and then there'd be student loans involved, longer to own a house, on and on.

MOO212014 · Accepted Answer

I've had to let my family go because they had so much negative energy and it was consuming me physically and mentally I wasn't able to focus on my personal life and everything now that I do not have to worry about them I feel a little better its obvisouly crappy because its family but they had so much negative thoughts about me I rather leave them in my past and move forward and be happy and not feel heavy...

arodriguez664 · Accepted Answer

Leaving my dad to live with my mom. My dad really relied on me emotionally and I felt responsible for his well-being. He married an awful woman who abused me. He never stepped up for me or defended me. It got to a point where i tried to commit suicide. A decision had to be made. That was the hardest phone call I ever made.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I thought it was hard. I used to fear it. But can’t make me choose work over family. So yea I made that choice after almost 20 years. It was scary but I’m not scared anymore

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Deciding to re-open a solo general practice in 2007.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

The interment location of my wife when she passed away. I live about 2.5 hours from the town we grew up in and her parents wanted her to be there with them, so they could visit her. I would have preferred her to be closer to where we are (myself and daughter), so we could visit her more often.

I mulled it over and finally decided to let her be closer to her parents. I figured as they got older, it would be tougher for them to make the 2.5 hour trek to our area, so she is with them.

My daughter agreed and I was so proud of her, it must have been an exceptionally hard decision for her, because I know it was for me.

We go back up every month or so to visit everyone, and we visit her whenever we go up.

exitseven · Answer

I had a wife and 3 kids to support and I had a crappy sales job that did not pay enough for all the hours I used to work. The company had a couple of setbacks and lost a couple of key accounts. I was not sure it would be in business in a couple of years. I was awake the while night and by the time the sun came up I had a whole plan where I was going to go to grad school and get a masters degree in computer science and go into the IT field at 37 or 38 years old. If I could not find a job after I would probably end up having to work 3 fast food jobs to support my family.

melanieeeB · Answer

First think that came to my mind is, contemplating if I should tell my mom that her love of her life of 15 years cheated on her with a too young girl or not...
In the end I did...
I'm still not sure if that was the right decision tho I could have confronted him and threatened him to get his shit together and finally act right and be disgusted at him secretly cause now my mom is all alone and I think I destroyed something for her and she refuses to meet someone new

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Pursuing my career. I gave up a few things that made me happy but would ultimately hinder my goals. I've since grown to love the decisions that lead me here

abc3643 · Answer

This is a good question.

I think it was in November 1986 when I broke-up with my second girlfriend. It was the first time I had ever broken up and we were together for over two years. I knew I'd break her heart and I felt very bad about it. I understood all about broken hearts since I had one for almost 3 years after my first girlfriend dumped me.

I am still in touch with them.

Agape93 · Answer

Deciding to keep living when I routinely want to blow my head off. My resolve slips now and then, but it doesn't amount to much. But one day, that slip is liable to be permanent.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I have had to make so many tough decisions. Deciding when it's time to have the plug pulled on my mother's respirator was the hardest one.
I've also had to decide if and when I should quit my job when I started my own business.
Putting my pets to sleep.
Finding the right doctor to treat my dad's cancer.
I can go on and on

Anonymous · Answer

It's torn between two atm. One being just trying to continue everyday, get up and work and trying to enjoy things and all that even when it feels impossible and tbh I'm not good at it.

The other of cutting out a friend from my life for a lot of reasons that they have given me but I'm stuck at not being able to right now as I still have stuff I need to return of theirs and also the fact that they used to be such an amazing friend. I'm also trying to debate on if just asking their parent if I can just drop that stuff off and be done with it.

Anonymous · Answer

Moving to America with my husband. I didn't want to go but I did agree to it when I married him knowing that we would.

Anonymous · Answer

Stopped talking to Both my narcissistic parents. Divorced. Toxic and no good for my mental health. I'm happier without them in my life, it's only been a few months. I'm sad occasionally but my love is little and no respect for either of them. It's a strange feeling to mourn the loss if the living!

AaronKrieger · Answer

Breaking up with my ex knowing she'd be in a rough situation due to it, as she had no one else to lean on. I felt bad for her and it hurt like a bitch to do, but it is what it is

Anonymous · Answer

Staying at a hotel with a girl I just started dating, I had to decide whether to take a shit and stink up the bathroom or risk farting in my sleep.
I went ahead and risked it. Still not sure if I made any stinkies...

Christoff92 · Answer

Putting down my cat Trooper last year June 22, 2022. After 10 wonderful years with me.  November 2021, 7 months before that date😿

smilelots · Answer

Leaving my x and my kids till things got taken care of in the Divorce. but mostly the kids for us it was over long time ago, I should have seen at the start that she and I where not a good match ,, but we were young and dumb lol

lightbulb27 · Answer

The toughest decision I've made, is listening and changing my mind. It's damn hard to change!

Pacman13 · Answer

Between choosing two girls. One was an amazing human being and was cute and had her shit together but maybe a little less open-minded. The other was very smart, very sexy and fun but had no ambition.

NathanDavis · Answer

to accept loss... and to live to their memories

Nikki1989 · Answer

No decision is hard if it is something you really want to do.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Trying to decide if I wanted a home cooked meal or another fast food adventure , 🤤😋😋😋

Andres77 · Answer

Let my kids suffer the consequences of their actions

AsaKyo · Answer

Whether to put my best friend (my cat) down or keep him alive, but to have him living the kind of life he wouldn't be happy with..

Johnny4473 · Answer

Euthanizing my father after his cancer got terminal.

Legendarylegacy13 · Answer

Good question but I don't really see decisions as tough , because their always has to be an answer I guess I just b pick the most logical choice.

Still-alive · Answer

To keep living or to die I chose to keep living...

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Rare or medium rare. It drives me crazy when at a steak house.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I can't think of anything. Has my life really been this easy? Thanks for making me feel guilty. Seriously. I need to think of others more.

Anonymous · Answer

I left a person whom I could not even imagine leaving. That person hurt me a lot. I became close to God because of his cynicism and deceit

convo_king89 · Answer

What to eat for dinner and briefs or boxers,

Anonymous · Answer

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sravmr123 · Answer

Telling my bestfriend that I still could not forget some mean things he said to me about 10 years ago and I do not want to see or talk to him again.

Anonymous · Answer

I had to have a surgery that could have screwed up my sex life. If the surgeon messed up on the surgery, I wouldn't have been able to have kids

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Choosing my career over starting a family and now im starting to regret it

alearningboy · Answer

Shell I make the first step to talk with her or not.

Britney04 · Answer

Coming out to my parents back in January.

Anonymous · Answer

Choosing between women. And its NOT what you think.

BLP11520 · Answer

Divorce or stay married

SawerBrown · Answer

To break my engagement when my fiance cheated.

Simslover92 · Answer

Moving to another state for grad school.

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

Putting down pets.

Msputiton · Answer

Leaving my ex

boombastik · Answer

Breaking up with my soulmate.

BrookeS · Answer

To leave my family or not

Paulychicagoluv · Answer

Getting out of the military

jimmy2 · Answer

To legal end my wife's life

strlb · Answer

Let my ex go. We were together for a few years

manthan_5545 · Answer

Doing job and staying in same company 😜

OddBeMe · Answer

To pull out. Luckily she wasn’t ovulating.

najekim · Answer

Filing first divorce.

Cb142 · Answer

Buying a house I think

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I think it's on its way

riverrat3 · Answer

Breaking up with a girl I loved

KaceyAppleJ88 · Answer

who I can trust and who I can't

shades777 · Answer

Hasn't happened yet.

Anonymous · Answer

Going to school

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