Would you stay with a guy who's gotten someone else pregnant but don't want the baby?

[tempirl2012]

[WonderBell99]

Nope, it shows that he is careless enough to procreate with someone and leave the girl when she gets pregnant. What if he does the same to me? I don’t want to get knocked up by some cowardly knucklehead. It also shows that he does not take any responsibility for his actions. I also do not date men who have children with someone else. I don’t even want kids myself, why would I date someone who has kids from a previous relationship? It’s just too much work.

It’s better if you don’t get involved in this drama.

[tempirl2012]

I was pregnant by him already. I didn't keep mine

[WonderBell99]

I respect your decision. Good on you.

[tempirl2012]

But we're still together.

[WonderBell99]

What do you want to do? Do you think he’s responsible?

[tempirl2012]

I mean he doesn't want her or the baby. So i win regardless.

[WonderBell99]

It’s not about winning. It’s about him taking responsibility for his actions. What happens if you’re stuck in the same situation as the other girl?

by the way when did this happen? Did he cheat while in a relationship with you? Or was it before you guys got together?

[tempirl2012]

She told me he told her he's been "single" for a whole year now. So, yes he cheated while we're still together. Which i blame her the most cause she wouldn't quit calling him. He had been stopped talking to her.

[WonderBell99]

Personally, I wouldn’t stay with a man who cheated on me. It shows that he does not respect me or our relationship, and I take all my relationships very seriously, so obviously, cheating is unacceptable. I don’t know you, and I don’t know your partner either, but I would recommend against staying with someone who talks to other women behind your back, claiming that he’s “single” while in a relationship with you.

Has he shown remorse for his actions? Does he realize that there will be severe consequences for it? If you let this slide this time, he will take you lightly and cheat again and again with multiple women. You should not blame that woman. You should blame your boyfriend. While being a home wrecker is bad, your boyfriend should bear most of the blame since he did not keep it in his pants. A good man will never cheat on his partner.

[tempirl2012]

He's already cheated before her too back in High school. 5 women claimed they were all pregnant by him while we were together. His Facebook is full of half naked women and he's refused to post me... Yes i blame her because she needs to leave us alone. He cut her off for me so that tells a lot. Im better than all of them put together.

[WonderBell99]

He sure does need to realize that, doesn’t he? You need to drop this guy and move on.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@wonderbell99 You go girl, definitely rocking facts here

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@tempirl2012 Yeah no he’s a loose cannon and is going to inevitably hurt you again sooner or later woman, if a man truly loves & respects you as his woman he would never pull the shit he did on you. And it doesn’t matter even slightly if he decided to cut her off, he’s already cheated in the past and did it on you aswell. A man’s actions speak louder then words, just because he stopped communication doesn’t undo the fact that he literally screwed another woman and the “She kept calling me and was obsessive with it, sorry” excuse don’t matter because if you’re a man worth your salt you’ll refuse to steep that low always and you’ll never whip your dick out for temporary satisfaction when you got a girlfriend who you’re supposed to love and be loyal to. He claimed he had been single for a whole year, it’s long over-due that you truly make him single and dump his ass. A relationship without trust and with a shadowy background like this is worst then no relationship at all with you being able to have fun and actually seek a relationship that doesn’t bring that kinda baggage. You’re 31, you’re a grown-ass woman you don’t need any advice but if you see yourself with value you’ll dump his ass and realize there’s much better guys out there who’ll actually respect and care for you always and who wouldn’t have the slight urge to break your trust and become unloyal over a piece of flesh. Wish you the best.

[DermalPunch]

You are NOT winning. At all

[WonderBell99]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer thanks!

[WonderBell99]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer Spot on. Completely agree.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

You need to understand what kinda dude you’re attached to, these are low-lifes and their actions proof it. They ain’t men, they’re cowards who run at the sense of responsibility and won’t accept that their actions have consequences. It’s truly better to be safe then sorry in this scenario, dudes like this run in patterns and if they’ve done it once they’ll do it to you aswell if time comes. Find yourself a man who’ll love, care and be loyal to you always. One who raises you up, and one who doesn’t stress you out by doing things such as sticking his penis into another woman.

[Avicenna]

That is something that may be somewhat situation-dependent for a woman. If she's looking for a partner to have kids with, that is a complete dealbreaker, especially if it's recent. If she doesn't want kids and doesn't mind him having to pay child support or the prospect of it hanging over his head, she may be able to ignore it. But, generally, it makes him look like someone who doesn't want to take responsibility, and that is a bad thing.

If you aren't sure what you want from a relationship with this guy, don't take a chance on him.

[Avicenna]

OK, I didn't realize that he cheated on you and got her pregnant. Drop him like a hot potato. Immediately.

[Anonymous]

no that's horrible is he black? lol
I saw a bunch of videos recently of black men who record themselves saying if they get their girlfriend pregnant and she doesn't want to get rid of it, then they're gone. Then it hit me, while many men of many races do this, in general most black women are the ones who are single mothers. Black men tend to follow this type of behavior. SAD who wants a man like that? Nobody.

[tempirl2012]

You're wrong. There are more single white women than black women. So stop judging.

[tempirl2012]

In General, most white women don't even like their own men. 😂that's why they're with the same black men you're talking about🙄😴girl goodbye.

[Opinion Owner]

so it is a black man and you took offense. Proves the point exactly.

[tempirl2012]

You're wrong. So try again. 🙄😴

[tempirl2012]

You have no point Because you're assuming it is.. have a great day🤡

[Opinion Owner]

I hit a nerve. What's sad is you killed a child for a man that will leave you in an instant. yucky. you will end up like the statistics eventually going that rout. Good luck with that. ciao.

[tempirl2012]

No. You're sad for writing a whole paragraph after i clearly said you're wrong🤦🤡

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@tempirl2012 What’s with this whole white men black men women crap, people’s personalities and likings don’t rely solely on race. Y’all need to learn social behaviors and the power of attraction man.

[tempirl2012]

As i believe she brought that up. 🤔

[OlderAndWiser]

You should assume that a guy will treat you the same way he has treated his previous girlfriends.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Doesn’t have to be the case, but if a guy does something as fucked up as this he’s a coward who you need to avoid

[DownInTheDumps]

See I'm not the only who is telling you he is not a good guy and to walk away from him.

Girl you admitted in your other question he cheated on you and got this girl pregnant and that he was also laughing about both of you fighting over him. You surely cannot see him as a good guy. Good guys don't cheat and they don't ever abandon their baby

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@downinthedumps This isn’t about good guys or not, no man would every do such a thing. Only cowards and immature fuck-boyish pricks would, if it’s your kid its your responsibility you don’t get the luxury to walk away or to say “nah i don’t want it” once you get a woman pregnant with your friend she’s your responsibility and as is that baby, there’s no alternative way. You either man up or you can eat the pavement, if i ever get a son he’ll certainly have that indoctrinated into his brains.

[tempirl2012]

Well it's not my fault he doesn't want their kid. (If he's the real daddy) because she said it herself she doesn't know for sure who's is the daddy. She's the one who wants him around knowing he's hasn't been around for almost 7 months now.

[tempirl2012]

All he wants from her is sex. After that, he blocked her number because he knows it will upset me.

[DizzyDesii]

I was in this situation before but I was 15 and still loved him plus she did him and his cousin a couple days apart and neither of them would claim to be the dad. She miscarried before bloodwork/DNA test could be done. But had it been my exes baby and he didn't want it then I’d love to say I wouldn't but back then i was extremely dumb

[whorable]

if you think he won’t be like that with you maybe you could be a positive influence and encourage him to be in his child’s life. but if you think he’s gonna treat you the same and leave you in your time of need then drop him.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@whorable I don’t think you understand the type of dudes she’s talking about, these are low-lifes They ain’t men, they’re cowards who run at the sense of responsibility and won’t accept that their actions have consequences. It’s truly better to be safe then sorry in this scenario, dudes like this run in patterns and if they’ve done it once they’ll do it to you aswell if time comes.

[menina]

Nope. That shows that he's irresponsible and immature. He doesn't want to deal with the consequences of his actions. Also it proves that he doesn't care about the girl and the baby.

[Smashingdoozy]

No. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to take responsibility for his own actions. What if I got pregnant? Would he do the same to me?

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Dudes like that couldn’t punch a hole in a paper bag if they tried, they act all macho and think they’re the man but in-fact they’re boyish cowards in a grown man’s body.

[Anemone978]

No, not if the bun is still in the oven.. or if he was with me when it happened... that is a trash man...

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Just dump it

[JustMeL120]

Lol no he's a dick he would neglect a

His own kid and cheated on you. Respect yourself

[LazerBean]

No, hoe men like that belong on the streets of the ghetto.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Even worst in my opinion, your kid your responsibility either be a man or get hit.

[DermalPunch]

No, move on. He got that one pregnant. That's not all the other ones he slept with.

[slatyb]

Whether he wants it or not, he has a financial responsibility.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Not just that, if you’re a man it’s more then that

[Jazzy54]

Personally, I wouldn’t. That alone shows that he’s irresponsible and immature. I wouldn’t want him doing that to me.

[Agape93]

Sure, long as she aborts it. I won't be with anyone who has a kid

[exitseven]

No, A) he is a cheater and B) he has no sense of responsibility or honor.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure you need that drama in your life. It may not be his choice as to whether the child is born and he's then on the hook for child benefits and dealing with his 'partner'.

[Anonymous]

Never. No way. That’s proof he’s an actual asshole. Might as well walk around holding a huge red flag. Nope.

[pethouse]

How can he call himself a man yet can’t take care of his own kid. Even if the child of his mother is crazy he shouldn’t abandon his kid because of it

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆 if I was a woman I wouldn't get myself into the predicament in the first place.

[tempirl2012]

Well he not with her. He's still with me because i have the money and the car.☺

[tempirl2012]

He's*

[Opinion Owner]

Congrats?

[tempirl2012]

😌☺☺

[Opinion Owner]

1😆😆😆

[thori2002]

I'd only stay with a guy if he pays half the price for the abortion

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Someone else pregnant, it isn’t even you

[Anonymous]

Is that any different than a woman who has had an abortion?

[Anonymous]

No you shouldn't, because he will probably be that girls life for the next 18 years.

[melanieeeB]

No of course not. He can't man up to his actions.

[Simslover92]

Nope. Too much drama.

[Ben487]

no that would be very dumb

[Akam93]

I dont mind taking care of another man's kids.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Very brave and special you are

[Akam93]

I have kids also lamebrain.

[Anonymous]

Lol he’s a tool whoever he is.

[WhyohWhy69]

No I wouldn’t. He sounds like a scumbag.

[CrimsonAngel09]

Nope.

[Dinklex3]

Nope.

[Yucy_Gluttony]

NNONONONNO

[juene]

No...

[LovingJo]

Nope!!

[slightlydelusional]

absolutely not

[Minahh]

Lmao no

[EaterPeter]

Nope