Do you believe when you reach a certain age, it becomes harder to find friends, or find a boyfriend/Girlfriend?
I see many people give up on friends or love when they get older. Do you think it's because it's harder to make friends, or fall in love?
Your "difficulty when it comes to finding companionship " has entirely to do with pickiness / being judgmental/ not being open minded. I have been trying to find friends for a long time and I have come to realize that adults tend to be super picky with who they hang out with. This includes people who complain about not having any friends. They think that friends are supposed to supply them with a certain height of fun. If a certain level of "fun" isn't reached, they won't want to continue talking to you. The newer generation only cares about what they can gain from others, they don't care about bonding or connection at all. Life is about more than just what you can get from others. We live in a community, not every man out for their own selfish interests.
Secondly, you're not gonna have any friends if you refuse to put your social life as a priority. I have seen people constantly accepting overtime hours yet complain about how they wished they had someone to date. Some others cancel on hangouts so they can spend more time on their careers.
Thirdly, its harder to make friends as an adult because most adults already have established friend groups from childhood / young adulthood. They might not feel the need to want to make more friends. Some adults might be married or have children to care for which leaves them no time to make new friends.
If it’s harder, it’s really self-inflicted.
We become so used to our own beliefs that we defend, to a point, we do not give a chance to simply hear others.
That way of being closed off really burns bridges. People these days should just ask to see/hear another person’s reasons for believing something, and if they try to challenge it, at least having the motive of finding ‘truth’ / (being respectful) and not just bragging to them, that you’d “know better.”
Idk- it really is a tricky subject. I think overall? Relationships would be MUCH easier if other external factors didn’t play such present roles, in being stressors to our daily lives.
The more stressed out everyone is, the less tolerable they are, lighthearted/ goofy, openly well meaning (like others can see that clearly)/ approachable, and so on.
With a fair amount, but MINIMAL amount of responsibility/workload/ and stress, I think a lot more people would be participating in relationships. And a lot of them would be more well-meaning/ valuable.
That’s just how I see it, as of now.
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I think so. Whenever I was 18/19 to my early twenties there were so many options of decent guys when it came to dating. The problem is most of them end up in relationships around that general time period that turn long term that may or may not work out, but it essentially takes that option away. My options went down the older I get but that doesn’t mean that there are no options. I’m in my thirties and I am happily in a relationship but I still attract men who are younger and older than I am. As for friendships I have a harder time with that. I’ve had the same friends since I was 19/20 and they really haven’t changed for the *most* part. I lost a few for various reasons but the core ones have stayed the same. I honestly haven’t put a lot of effort into making more close friends tho either since I’m content with what I have
On the contrary, I think it becomes easier, because life is less complicated as you get older.
At my age you have everything you need, house, vehicle (s), etc. and all are paid for, which leaves you some disposable income to go on vacations/outings and meet people. I know for myself I will likely start working fewer hours at 55 which leaves more time to explore.
Overall, there is less stress, which makes it an opportune time to find a companion to travel and enjoy life.
It's actually quite a relief to me if that's true. I for one don't really wanna be 30 or 40 still trying to score with the early 20s aged bracket. Uh uh. So I'm actually quite content if i missed out on all the "university fun days and fun parties" oh well. Ah well. ^_^
That is exactly what getting older is like. You get busy with a career and family and don't have much time for your friends anymore. You wake up one day and you are old and realize that if you ever wanted to just wanted to hang out with somebody you realize that you don't know one single person that you could call to just hang out.
@Leapfrog00 Interesting question. It probably becomes harder comparatively but overall it's not that difficult to make friends, it's a little harder for women to find boyfriend's once they get older simply because their number of potential prospects decreases the further they move from their prime.
Sort of.
Its not an age thing, its an adult thing.
Many adults lack lifestyles/jobs that force them to interact with a large population of people their own age every day, and even wity the exceptions, it tends to not be the same people everyday.
When you are a child or teen, school acts as a convenient way to find likeminded people your age and form bonds with them. But after graduating, it becomes much harder to do that.
Honestly just think it's hard to find friends and shit the older you get and what not but relationships and everything else seems to be either just as easy or just as hard as you get older like I feel like I don't know just depends where you live n shit
It is harder to find companionship as a person gets older, mainly because, in my opinion, a person is not in the larger social crowd of young people who have not chosen anyone but are just enjoying dating a lot. I have come to the conclusion that I will never marry and I am not interested in a girlfriend. Sex with a girl or girls is good.
s I don't think it gets harder. What happens is that people get tired of trying with no results, so they end up quitting. Or maybe they believe that no one will like them because of their age. Which is not true.
eventually at the end of the road yes but it's all tailored to our SMV
basically we find companionship easier towards our attractiveness peak
I think so. When you're middle-aged or old, no one really gives a fuck about you. Look at how disposable old people were during the pandemic. Western culture idolizes youth. I wish I had realized that when I was young myself.
I am quite happy , in fact more so , in solitude. I am not fond of people in general and like being single too much. The older one gets , the less BS they tend to tolerate.
It's all about taking efforts. Like I'm taking little to no effort to find a partner for myself nowadays 😞
It's definitely harder, but the punishment is self-imposed
No, it should get easier as gain more and more social skills.
Companionship and relationship... When in school and college, there are so many more opportunities at finding both
I'm definitely more critical then when I was younger. They used to be preferenced for just for her to look good and like me.
Yes. It is.
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