Are you afraid to admit that you are or were a cheater?

[Finchie40]

I am not afraid to admit it , I have cheated, I am not proud of it, I didn’t cheat just for the hell of it , I cheated because I was being treated like shit by a girl that I gave my heart to that treated me like gold in the beginning , but it started to fade There is only so much you can give to someone that isn’t giving back the same , there is only so much negativity you can tolerate that makes you realize you deserve better in life , communication that gets you no where with that person , we weren’t put on this planet to be someone’s constant punching bag , we don’t get into relationships for misery we get into relationships for happiness and respect and love to be by each others side no matter what obstacles come our way , we can’t force someone to love us , we can only treat someone the same way we want to be treated , sadly as time goes on , you start to realize you really don’t have much in common with that person , they start to compare you , criticize you , neglect you , withhold intimacy and affection from you no matter what you do is never good enough , you aren’t that person’s priority anymore , they start to prioritize everyone else but you , they don’t know how to remove selfishness for you like they expect you to do for them , what I learned from these relationships is it’s no longer my problem anymore Cuz I was a sitting duck to my ex wife that I stayed loyal and faithful to, protected her and loved and adored her with all my heart to be cheated on , I realized life is too short to be with someone that only brings negativity into your life , When I commit to a girl my intentions is not to cheat on her what so ever but sadly we can be driven to do so , I cheated on a girl that cheated on our relationship , whether she physically cheated on me or not she still cheated on our relationship by being a selfish person that only cared about herself , so I became selfish and cheated on her with a girl that wasn’t selfish and immediately dumped my girlfriend

[Leapfrog00]

My ex girlfriend used to cheat on me all the time. I thought about cheating on her on several occasions to get back at her.

After thinking it over, I remembered thinking, it will only cause more harm than good, and I wouldn't even be enjoying it because I would just be using that other girl to get revenge on the one I'm with.

Confronting her about everything she did, and how much it hurt you would have been the best solution to your problem. You should have told her you that you wish her luck but you can do better than her, she doesn't deserve anyone but a guy who will trest her like trash, and you're moving on to someone who you won't pull that shit.

I never cheating on a girl because it is literally two wrongs trying to make a right that will only further damage what is already done. If she was a decent person, she wouldn't have cheated on you. Even if she wasn't happy or you did something to piss her off, unless you cheated first, other than that, if she wasn't happy, she should have broke it off. Cheating is child's play.

[Finchie40]

If she is cheating on you man you got to leave her ass period , I cheated but ended the relationship immediately , that was my answer that I didn’t value her , I know cheating is wrong but it’s even more wrong going back to the person you cheated on acting like nothing happened

[Leapfrog00]

She's probably going to want you back. That's how this game is always played. They usually call, text, show back up at your house.

Remember to stand strong. Make this about taking a step forward, so you never have to look back. Until you get over her, try to stay single. That way your head will be clearer for when someone else comes along and you're not still thinking about your ex. Good luck!

[Finchie40]

Yea she is already calling me wanting to work things out , but I told her No I told her it’s best that we stay apart and focus on ourselves

[ManOnFire]

Sorry, man. But if you felt like she was hurting you then you should've just left her. You don't have to cheat to find better. I'm gonna go ahead in agreement with others who answered and say I've never cheated either, and it's highly unlikely that I ever will. If it's not working anymore, I'd rather be honest and just let them know and let them go than to be slimy behind their back.

[FictionalCharacter]

I have emotionally cheated. But never physical, cause it was a LDR. Yeah, that’s as close as a relationship as I could get.

But I was in a bad place at the time. I was very insecure with myself and put my ex to the test. To see how much he could tolerate me, if he really loved me.

He did everything he could to remedy the situation. But I used him as a punching bag because of the problems I was dealing with myself and life. Even when I was hurt, I had no one to turn to. Not even my own parents wanted to talk to me because they were dealing with their own problems themselves.

Then I could sense my ex was drifting away and getting tired of me. I don’t blame him. Then, he just disappeared. And I had no one.

This was a harsh lesson for me and I had no one to blame except myself. So I swore never to judge, criticize or be emotional to a man again.

[Finchie40]

For a relationship to work and for love to grow both partners have to make each other their top priority , I don’t care what people say , if your partner isn’t your top priority over everyone , your relationship is not going to last , people can sugarcoat shit all they want but the truth is your partner needs to be your top priority , if you can t make your partner your top priority be prepared to be dumped or cheated on period , I no longer tolerate a girls selfish behavior , if her friends come before me she is best to move in with her friends period because I am going to find me a girl that makes me her priority, I been on both ends of the spectrum to realize a relationship will only last when you make each other your top priority, when it becomes one sided be prepared for it to come to an end because selfishness is the number 1 relationship killer , if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner don’t expect them to remove it for you , If your partner is begging you for intimacy and affection and you can’t give it to them be prepared to be dumped or cheated on , we can only give what we want to receive , we can only remove selfishness for someone that removes it for us , tell your friends to go fuck themselves and tell your family to go fuck themselves , your partner needs to come before all of them , if not your relationship will not last you are best to just stay single and realize you aren’t capable of love , I would never deny my partner intimacy or affection , I don’t care if I wasn’t in the mood I would please her in other ways to show her I still love and respect her , most girls do not know how to do that for their men , every time she says she isn’t in the mood and makes lame excuses all it is doing is pushing him to be more open to the girl standing behind you waiting , exactly what just happens to my ex , I am not proud I cheated I am proud I didn’t tolerate her shit anymore

[FictionalCharacter]

It’s hard for a woman to try to please her man if she’s not the mood. Because that causes inflammation and pain down there.

[Finchie40]

Yea but she can do other things as well

[Jemini_Crocket]

No, because I have never cheated and I doubt I ever could. I might actually have a fear of being cheated on 'cause you never know, it might happen even if the man claims he loves the woman.

I wonder though, would you say handsome people cheat more? Just because they have more opportunities?

I know that when I have feelings for someone, I don't want to give myself to anyone else even if the other man is gorgeous. I wouldn't cheat on a boyfriend even if my biggest celebrity crush showed up in his 30s prime.

[Finchie40]

Cheating mainly occurs when the relationship goes one sided , when 1 partner’s needs and wants aren’t being fulfilled and the other partner only cares about themselves , by withholding intimacy and affection and doesn’t really
Care about their partner’s feelings , by a partner being selfish and only caring about themselves is going to push their partner to look elsewhere or be acceptive of another person wanting to fulfill them and make them feel wanted , most men including myself doesn’t want to be with a girl that holds intimacy and affection over our heads like we have to earn it , when a girl makes her man feel like he has to earn intimacy and affection she is pretty much digging her own grave because he starts to feel unloved and unwanted , when he expresses his feelings of concern to her and she doesn’t take his feelings into consideration she is making him feel that she doesn’t value and respect him so he more than likely be drawn to someone else that wants to fulfill him that wants to make him feel wanted

[Genie23]

No because I've never cheated and I'll never. If I'm unhappy in a relationship, I'd rather just leave.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have nothing to admit; I've never cheated on any partner and never even flirted with another girl when I was in a committed relationship. But I have been cheated on twice.

[Apple1996]

So you cheated because she withheld sex?

[Finchie40]

That was part of it

[Anonymous]

yeah but it’s only because I felt trapped in the relationship, he cheated on me a bunch of times and i tried for years to forgive him he’s disrespectful to me and sometimes aggressive, so yes I just wanted a little escape with someone that makes me feel good.

[ManOnFire]

Why didn't you just leave the guy?

[Opinion Owner]

@ManOnFire because I don’t think I can he told me he would kill me if I got a divorce also I have 4 kids.

[ManOnFire]

Damn. I really hate situations like these, I feel sad for you.

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry to hear that as well , i never understood going back to someone after cheating occurred , if I cheat I end the relationship right then and there

[imawfulatusernames]

I’ve cheated. I never would. My boyfriend has in a previous relationship and we spoke at length about it more than once, I wouldn’t say I understand or accept his actions but I do genuinely believe he’s changed. I believe being upfront and honest about your mistakes and who you are is the only way to live your life, some people will accept you some won’t, that’s the risk you have to take.

[Finchie40]

Yea that’s why i am admitting it , cuz I know it was wrong to do but I didn’t go back to her acting like everything is ok , I just ended the relationship with her and told her I want to be with someone that is more compatible with me and I’m sorry it didn’t work out , The other girl was just there throwing herself at me and I didn’t push her off when usually i would so that pretty much helped my decision to end it with her as well

[DizzyDesii]

It was emotionally and fcked up but i dont feel as bad because it wasn't physically and i let the guy know and we worked through it. He started being what i felt was lacking. I was having to get emotional support and attention from someone else and he acknowledged that

[Anonymous]

Not at all. I’m 30 and I’ve not once been faithful. I had a pretty shitty childhood. It took me a while to realize I have abandonment issues and self esteem issues. I guess it’s common when your parents were on alcohol and drugs. To me there was no such thing as a happy ending. I would self sabotage before things got too far along. That way there was no chance anyone could let me down. Now I’m in therapy for it. This is not to say I’m proud of constantly cheating either. But I won’t shy from it if asked because it’s made me who I am today.

[Smashingdoozy]

No, I was young and impressionable And frankly stupid.

You seem to keep trying to justify your cheating when it's entirely unjustified. If you're not happy in a relationship you talk it out or you leave. You made a conscious decision to cheat, you weren't driven to it. Stop trying to be the victim.

[Finchie40]

I am not playing a victim , I am not proud of cheating I wish I did end it first but it didn’t go that way

[PrTafi]

It is common that girls change, at the beginning super cute and super caring, later cold like winter. But what I don't understand why didn't you leave and slept with anyone rather than being the cheater and the bad one, she seemed to be the victim you know

[Finchie40]

It was just the timing , this other girl was coming on to me me wanting to fulfill me and make me feel wanted , so I didn’t hesitate and miss the window of opportunity , if that other girl wasn’t pursuing me then I wouldn’t of cheated , by me ending up on bed with that other girl was my final answer that I no longer valued my partner

[Potteplante]

I do admit to it - I cheated once at 15, I immediately broke it off when I arrived to the country (home) again. Never done it since despite of many sexual partners since then.

[itsalyssaagain]

I’ve never cheated but I’m generally the kind of person to own who I am including my flaws.

[ebabaran142]

I have never cheated before and i dont like to do it because I know the feeling of being cheated.. I dont like to hurt the one i love. The said thing in life that i experienced is, people who loves genuinely get hurt the most😔

[Finchie40]

Being cheated on is a horrible thing to do to someone I totally agree , but being with someone that doesn’t value the relationship that you both agreed on is worse , basically that person is already cheating on the relationship when it becomes one sided , you can only give so much to someone and not receive anything in return , When I commit to a girl and give her my heart I make her my top priority over everyone , she will usually do the same for me in the beginning and things between us are amazing but as time goes on , she eventually starts getting bored and starts distancing herself , her selfishness shines , she starts prioritizing everyone else over me and our relationship , She starts lacking in the bedroom , she no longer thinks intimacy and affection is important like it use to be , she starts withholding intimacy and affection to the point that makes me feel like I have to earn it from her , to me she is already cheating on our relationship by being completely selfish , I am not saying she has to spread her legs every time I am in the mood but when it starts to be a consistent issue by making constant lame excuses as to why she isn’t in the mood , to me she is already cheating and it’s pretty much abuse , Sexual frustration is a real thing , I start to feel unvalued , unloved , unwanted , ised as a convenience, when I express my feelings of concern to the point I feel like I am talking to a wall , by her constantly denying me , and making me feel like I am not good enough for her , pushes me to be open to another girl that makes me feel wanted and valued , if that new girl os standing there with open arms I am more than likely end up in bed with that new girl , that’s my answer to end my relationship , I will dump her that second , so yes I have cheated and I feel I had a right to , I don’t push my partner away and withhold intimacy and affection from her so why is it ok for her to do to me? To me she is already cheating on me is the way I look at it.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

To that's who say "just leave them". It's not always that easy.
Especially if you have kids or own a house together. In some cases, leaving your partner can turn your whole life upside down

[Billlewis]

I love women who cheat! I think that women cheating is a whole different thing than guys who cheat, because men are inherently prepared to accept the reality of the female choosing a stronger, more masculine male to mate with her.

[JustMeL120]

You don't seem scared to admit it lol you just aired you dirty laundry all over the internet.

[Finchie40]

Yes cuz I am not proud of cheating but I feel justified as to why I cheated , I didn’t just cheat for the hell of it I cheated because the timing was right , Being in a relationship with a girl that constantly makes excuses as to why she isn’t in the mood and giving me lame excuses as to why she isn’t in the mood when it was never an issue before pretty much opened doors to accept another girl that was pursuing me at that time , If that other girl wasn’t pursuing me I wouldn’t of cheated and jumper than likely just ended the relationship but the fact that other girl was there throwing herself at me kind of made me say fuck it and I ended up in bed with her , but I knew my current relationship was already over cuz I wouldn’t of slept with that other girl if I truly valued my partner so that was my answer to end it , Now if I went back to my partner like nothing happened then I’d be more of a piece of shoos the way I look at it , Also if my partner was still being loving and affectionate towards me I would of said No tp that other girl , There is only so much you can give to someone without receiving on return, if my partner had valid reason as to why she was never in the mood then it would of been a whole different story, but the fact that she didn’t care how I was feeling and didn’t care how sexually frustrated I was even after I expressed my feelings of concern to her just told me she was already cheating on our relationship, so by that other girl being there at that time coming on to me , I had no reason to push her away so it was pretty much my final answer to end my current relationship

[JustMeL120]

Some girls don't like having sex because the man isn't so good at it. Trust me if she was enjoying it she would never refuse it. Have you though of reading some performance tips instead of cheating.

[Finchie40]

That wasn’t the issue , we always had great sex when we had it , she was just a selfish person and only really cared about herself , never considered my feelings , everything was about her

[JustMeL120]

The girl didn't seem like she was enjoying the experience really much.

[crossdressingrihno]

I almost cheated.
I didn’t cheat but I almost did.
Instead of cheating i broke things off and took a while to be by myself and think things over.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never been and it’s quite sad that I’m proud of that like it’s something rare in this day and age.

[OfMiceandMen]

I am not afraid as I have never cheated before. I don't cheat on anyone I am with because I owe that to them out of respect.

[Juxtapose]

I have never cheated because that's for weak bitches 😏👍

[Finchie40]

If I cheat I end the relationship right then and there , I don’t go back to her like everything is ok between us , I pretty much answered my own question that I truly don’t love her anymore if I can cheat on her, is how I look at it , cuz if I truly valued her I wouldn’t of cheated on her period. The only time I will cheat on a girl is if things don’t get any better between us , if I am constantly expressing my feelings of concern and she doesn’t care and acts like I am being crazy and nothing changes , I become more open to accepting another girl that wants to give me intimacy and affection so if a girl is there and she is hitting on me I will be more accepting of it if I know my relationship sucks , I don’t just run out and find another girl to replace the one I got lol but if a girl is already hitting on me I will more than likely go for it because I know my girlfriend is a selfish bitch so I become selfish as well

[Juxtapose]

Just break up with her before you fuck another chick dude.

[Finchie40]

Sometimes I do but sometimes I don’t , just depends on how things go

[Juxtapose]

You're an adult man and you can do better.

[Finchie40]

Brother I had my heart shit on by too many girls , I use to be the kind of guy that would just sit there hoping her love for me would come back around to realize all I was doing is sitting there with Sucker written on my head , while she is out being plowed by another guy , so I realized I will never be a sitting duck to someone that isn’t giving back to same as I am giving , If I express my feelings of concern and nothing changes and another girl is waiting for me with open arms , I am more than likely going to take that other girl in my arms and end it with my partner , There is only so much negativity you can tolerate from someone , I know cheating is wrong , but the way I look at it , she is already cheating on me by withholding intimacy and affecting constantly making me feel like I have to earn it from her when it was never an issue before , Her selfishness shines to the point I am no longer her priority so I no longer sit around hoping my partner is going to have a change of heart , I am not saying I will go bang another girl the second a girl denies me sex but when it’s a consistent thing and another girl is pursuing me , I am more than likely going to end up on bed with that other girl and end it with my current.

[Anonymous]

I used to cheat a lot because it seemed like something I couldn't resist and didn't want to resist. It felt like an addiction because for me it was an addiction. Of course, after awhile, it caused me a LOT of trouble. I've stopped doing it now, bt the price I paid was a complete inability to date at all. So I am back to being alone again.