Boyfriend talks sh*t about plus sized girls?

[Anonymous]

So I’m not sure how to feel about this … we’ve been together for six years and have a child together when I met him I was 180 and he called me fat ass twice. I am now 240 after our daughter.. but he says he loves my body and that I’m not fat I’m thick blah blah blah. NO I know I’m plus sized and he constantly talk sh*t about other plus sized women what should I do … 🥺

[AaronKrieger]

Here's my theories:
- He's trying to give hints to lose weight, but doesn't want to tell you
- He does find plus sized women unattractive. However, he is attracted to your body, since it is attached to you
- Calling you a "fat ass" could just be his sense of humor, which isn't as common these days. My uncle who is 60, he'll make comments about me having a girlish figure as jokes due to me being skinny.. He doesn't mean anything bad by it, but is just busting my balls.

Maybe it's a mix of these things, but if you have an issue, then try discussing it with him and set a boundary. I would not approach the conversation blaming him and instead just be objective. Perhpas figure out why he's doing it and if he wants you to lose weight. I don't know the situation and what you two are like, but talk about it with him.

[Asker]

Trust me I’ve asked him NUMEROUS times if he wants me to loose weight he says no. But I’m actively working on it for myself and for my health. And he said he called me fat ass to intentionally hurt my feelings. Here are other factors he’s about 400 pounds and his ex girlfriends were ALL very skinny girls.

[CallmeTheKnight]

You and your boyfriend of six years need to have a talk.
The both of you have a child and not even married after six years…… you both need to have a serious talk about his behavior and the future for the family.

[Asker]

There’s other factors in our relationship that we both think it’s not the best time for us to get married. But I 100% agree with you

[TheSpaceGnome]

"what should I do"

Lose weight, 240 is unhealthy unless you are unusually tall and very buff.

[Asker]

Lmao bro he’s not small and he’s not talking shit about me. He’s constantly talking shit about other females. But is telling me he loved my body? It’s not adding up ! He doesn’t disrespect me anymore at all.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Literally none of that matters.

Why would you need to be shit talked to lose extra weight? You should be doing that just to stay healthy.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I laughed hard. Sorry. 😂 Anyways tell your boyfriend to please stop that is annoying you.

[Asker]

Thanks

[LimitedBenefits101]

Very easy hit the gym, problem solved🤷

[Asker]

He doesn’t talk shit about me? You must have bad reading comprehension :)

[LimitedBenefits101]

You felt attacked because you are FAT, how is that hard to understand?

[Asker]

No no no i didn’t feel attacked. Because I KNOW I’m fat. I have no issue with it really. My thing is how are you going to have a plus sized girl sitting right next to you and call the next girl fat? It doesn’t add up does it.

[LimitedBenefits101]

If you have no issue with it then he really is lying to your face when he says he loves your body and so on and still attacks other fat women

[Asker]

Ok I’m loving the blunt honesty so here’s another question. He’s 400 pounds and these women are the same size as him. He tells me he says it because I’m not nearly as fat as them. So could he possibly be projecting his insecurities on them?

[LimitedBenefits101]

Pretty much yes

[Asker]

Another question. Why would he only attack women and not men? I’ve heard him call men fat but only when describing them he’s never just seen a stranger and said oh he’s a really fat guy. It’s always towards a female.

[LazerBean]

Lose weight.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

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[Asker]

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