I have been in a loving respectful relationship for 2 years now. We have great communication, barely argue, busy personal lives, nice projects together. Overall it's a great strong relationship to have in my early-mid twenties.
In the 5 past months I was travelling abroad a lot and working long hours. There have been two or three occasions were my boyfriend disrespecting some of the boundaries we had agreed on together. Such as staying over at girls houses after parties (while I was abroad) or doing other similar things. I have been angry about it, because we always agree on boundaries together, they are not imposed and therefore there is no excuse to cross them. I know he doesn't have bad intentions, and his apologies are sincere, but I feel like I forgive him too easily and I dont stand up for myself. How can I make him understand that he is gambling our relationship away without screaming and crying? I am calm and composed when I try to explain that his actions are not ok, but I fear that that get's him off the hook too easily. We have such a good functioning relationship the rest of the time I dont want to throw it away.
How can I make him understand I cannot keep accepting his apologies. There is a limit to everything, but I will only know the limit is he keeps messing up.
