I'll try to make this as short and sweet as possible, but there's a lot to take in. (Some thoughtful responses are appreciated, and if you need more detail or context, please ask)
I'll preface by saying I have some serious issues myself, with my love of 7 years killing herself and all, but that's only slightly relevant to the story.
So this girl is 22 years old, and she's been in 2 relationships with 2 terrible men. One who used her and stole from her to support his drug habit, and one who beat her and raped her for a good 2 years. (That's a lot of 2's lol)
She's been to therapy for the main course of the trauma, but now she's having trouble being able to move into a new relationship and learn to love again. Or learn to love at all for that matter. I don't think she's ever really been in love.
She's trying her absolute best with me, but clearly has no idea how to be in a real loving relationship. She gets hurt really easy, overthinks things, and keeps telling me she's in love with me, when clearly that's not the case.
It's almost kind of cute watching her try to figure this out.
She said "I love you" before we even went on a real date lol.
She's a really cool girl and I care about her, so she's worth the trouble I'll have to go through to help her learn how this is all supposed to work.
My problem is, I have no idea where to start. I'm not a love coach and I've only ever had one true love in my entire life. I have no idea how to help her.
(And please don't say she's not my problem. I've already decided that she is)
I'll preface by saying I have some serious issues myself, with my love of 7 years killing herself and all, but that's only slightly relevant to the story.
So this girl is 22 years old, and she's been in 2 relationships with 2 terrible men. One who used her and stole from her to support his drug habit, and one who beat her and raped her for a good 2 years. (That's a lot of 2's lol)
She's been to therapy for the main course of the trauma, but now she's having trouble being able to move into a new relationship and learn to love again. Or learn to love at all for that matter. I don't think she's ever really been in love.
She's trying her absolute best with me, but clearly has no idea how to be in a real loving relationship. She gets hurt really easy, overthinks things, and keeps telling me she's in love with me, when clearly that's not the case.
It's almost kind of cute watching her try to figure this out.
She said "I love you" before we even went on a real date lol.
She's a really cool girl and I care about her, so she's worth the trouble I'll have to go through to help her learn how this is all supposed to work.
My problem is, I have no idea where to start. I'm not a love coach and I've only ever had one true love in my entire life. I have no idea how to help her.
(And please don't say she's not my problem. I've already decided that she is)
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Funny how an AI gave a better answer than the dumb miserable losers on this app. I knew you were all too lame brained and dull to give a thoughtful answer. Coming here was a mistake. Fuck all of you Fucking morons
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It's admirable that you want to help this girl, and it's understandable that you may feel unsure about how to proceed. It's important to remember that you don't have to be a love coach or have all the answers to be a supportive friend.
One of the most important things you can do is simply be there for her and listen to her. Let her know that you care about her and that you're willing to support her as she works through her past trauma and learns to navigate healthy relationships.
Encourage her to continue with therapy or seek out other resources, such as support groups or online forums, where she can connect with others who have gone through similar experiences. You could also offer to accompany her to therapy sessions or appointments if she feels comfortable with that.
It's also important to set boundaries and make sure that you're taking care of yourself as well. Make sure that you're not taking on too much responsibility for her emotional well-being, and that you're not sacrificing your own needs and boundaries in the process.
Remember, healing from past trauma and learning to navigate healthy relationships is a process that takes time and patience. Be patient with her as she works through these issues, and don't put pressure on her to progress at a certain pace. With your support and encouragement, she can learn to heal and grow in her own way and at her own pace.
This story is such bullshit. Be careful
Trying to figure this out. It's totally just a game to you. Isn't it
Every single word is true. Go fuck yourself
What the hell are you even talking about?
Suck my fucking dick, cunt
I'm talking about your dumb post
"Oh its so cute she's trying to figure everything out" you're toying with her faggot
Stupid ass fucking bitch.
I'm trying to help her and I don't know how.
And to you that's because I think it's a game. You're a fucking retard.
Yea show us how you really are. I hope she stays far away from you
I would slit your fucking throat and watch you bleed out like the pig you are if you said that to me in person.
You be careful
I'd say it to you in person. You sound super abusive & manipulative. A hit dog will always holler fucking clown
You miserable little shit eating bitch.
Go take your loser ass somewhere else, and get fucked while you're at it 🖕
Abusive af lmao
Manipulating gaslighter. I wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. Just watch you burn
Fake as prick