Just looking for advice? What would you do?

[kerrylouise]

I live with my brother who's 2 years older then me. We split rent. He's never home, mostly stays at his gfs house but his girlfriend has serious alcohol and drug issues. She has 2 kids and she went on a 3 day binge. She said she cheated on my bro and then later said it wasn't consentual. She didn't report it to the police despite ever being afraid of the person who did that (ex partner). She told my bro she would report it and then didn't. I think she's manipulating him tbh as she is coercive and emotionally toxic when he goes out with his mates or family. Anyway
He got back with her and usually stays over with her and her 2 kids. I have nothing against her kids, but I hate the pair of them together and cannot ever come to the idea of being around her or wanting her anywhere near me. Whenever they stay I feel uncomfortable and generally stay in my room till they leave.

I'm thinking to move out but it's going to be a struggle as my wages are pretty crap.
What would you do in this situation?
I feel bad for distancing myself from my brother and haven't spoke about me moving out. He's never here to have a sit down chat, an I just feel like a terrible sister for not being able to tolerate him

[Anonymous]

I would do what you are doing.

I'd tell him what I think and why I think it because it is my duty to do that, it is then his choice to make.

He probably knows anyway, the fact of the matter is that the world isn't a nice place and relationships are not perfect.

Sometimes a bad situation actually is the best you can do.

Right now you have to put up with a small amount of discomfort occassionally, moving out will cost you hundreds of pounds a month, money which you either simply do not have or which could have been better used to invest into some sort of more permanent and secure future.

[Finchie40]

Did your brother take her back after she cheated on him? Tell your brother to kick that bitch to the curb and find himself someone that woiluld actually value him

[ArwenCalcifur]

I think it is wise to distance yourself from a toxic setting, especially one you can't control.
Have you made any decisions since posting this?

[kerrylouise]

I'm looking for my own place. But saving too

[ArwenCalcifur]

That is good! :) I agree with that choice!
Do you mind checking out my questions, or giving some advice and support?

[ArwenCalcifur]

@kerrylouise also you can just follow me, or leave a dm :) I just need a friend, or someone to talk with.. I am struggling a bit.

[KrakenAttackin]

If he is never there, what is the problem?

[kerrylouise]

I live in my nans old house who passed away. I'm in her old bedroom so also memories and it's not feeling like the best place to thrive, if you can understand where I'm coming from. He's never home yes, but I feel sad here and I felt. like I can't have a relationship because I never feel comfortable inviting anyone over

[KrakenAttackin]

Well, than head out. Find a place that works for you.