I'm dating an older guy, he's 41 and I'm 30.
His mum and sister have come to visit and it's affecting our relationship. He feels he can't leave them at his house alone *side note, he actually bought a house for them to stay in specifically for when they visit which they do not. They get emotional and upset because they want to remain a unit at his home. However, he doesn't understand how this is something that would be difficult if he had his own family or if he was married. I certainly wouldn't want his family staying with us and this is something that I see being a bigger issue further down the line.
Anyway, he doesn't visit me, despite me having my own place. Again he feels he has to baby sit his mum and sister because they give him grief if he lives his own life. The other night he didn't offer to collect me after a work night event because he felt he needed to ask his mum.
I'm sexually frustrated and feel lonley is this relationship. He never compromises for me whatsoever. He called me before to say his mum might stay over Christmas... and we have our own plans. I feel awful because I might sound mean but his family dynamics are wild and I haven't even went into the full picture of it. I just want a man who will prioritise a relationship and I don't want to have family involved in our lives to this extent
His mum and sister have come to visit and it's affecting our relationship. He feels he can't leave them at his house alone *side note, he actually bought a house for them to stay in specifically for when they visit which they do not. They get emotional and upset because they want to remain a unit at his home. However, he doesn't understand how this is something that would be difficult if he had his own family or if he was married. I certainly wouldn't want his family staying with us and this is something that I see being a bigger issue further down the line.
Anyway, he doesn't visit me, despite me having my own place. Again he feels he has to baby sit his mum and sister because they give him grief if he lives his own life. The other night he didn't offer to collect me after a work night event because he felt he needed to ask his mum.
I'm sexually frustrated and feel lonley is this relationship. He never compromises for me whatsoever. He called me before to say his mum might stay over Christmas... and we have our own plans. I feel awful because I might sound mean but his family dynamics are wild and I haven't even went into the full picture of it. I just want a man who will prioritise a relationship and I don't want to have family involved in our lives to this extent
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Sounds like a Momma's boy, and plus he might be in "the will" so he might be taken out of it if he gets out of his momma's "toxic treat relationship". 🤦♂️
Tell him to grow up and live his own life like an adult or take a hike