Look back at a few of the questions I just answered when one person stops growing and the other person keeps motivated and keeps wanting to go forward there's really no saving it if you read back on some of my questions you will see my answers the other thing is you don't have to grow strength you already have it within you already know what you need to do you just have to do it it's going to be a bitch it's going to be hard it's going to hurt but you're making a point on who you want to be and who you are if he wants to grow up and become better person and keep growing with you instead of being in that rut and being a vegetable on the couch and not showing his love anymore he will follow you if he wants to change he will follow you he will work on himself and make himself better if he really loves you if he doesn't then he's just going to sit on his butt and keep doing what he's doing call you all kinds of names because he's right you're wrong and he will never go any place doing that but if you walk away then he has to make a choice remains where he's at in life or keep growing I commend you for seeing what the problem is and being mature enough to keep going forward you're not doing anything wrong you're thinking you're going to break his heart you don't want to do that I understand that but he's breaking your heart right now and he doesn't even think about it at least you're thinking about it the right thing to do would be to walk away you never know what's going to happen he might wake up and become even better than he is or was and keep growing keep being motivated keep making you happy but right now he's not going to do that and I understand you I understand what you're going through you need to just do it I call it taking the pain you need to just take the pain because it will go away you know that tell him how you feel telling me you're sorry tell him you apologize whatever you got to do but don't let anybody ever hold you back your post says you have confidence your post says you are smart you are tired of not being happy when you are a happy person and it's holding you back don't let nothing hold you back
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First you have to decide if ending the relationship is really what you want, or if there's just things about it you'd like to change.
So many people, especially women, jump straight to breaking up, then end up coming back to it, because they never really wanted it to end in the first place.
Then if you decide that's what you really want, simply tell him in the most respectful way possible that this isn't working for you anymore and you think it's best you go your separate ways.
Don't point fingers and shout accusations, just leave all that stuff behind you
I don’t really agree with the other comments about ignoring him and waiting for him to come back or about playing games. Guys aren’t good at signals so he won’t know what he did wrong and just he confused. Communication is key. First, you need to ask him to sit down with you and tell him directly what you said here and all your grievances AND how you feel in a clear but non confrontational way. Either way clearly express your feelings. Let him respond and express his feelings too. Then you can gauge whether you wanna keep trying or not but it isn’t fair to expect change without telling him first especially for guys
Tell him you have reached your breaking point then and are heading out the door if he doesn't try to communicate with you and try to repair the relationship. If that doesn't seem to work either then you have no choice but to really leave.
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"I try to communicate about things and he gets annoyed and doesn’t want to talk"
Communicate how? Like nagging him? He probably just needs his space and your attempts to "communicate" are likely just getting in the way of that.
He probably tried when you didn't and gave up when his trying didn't work. You should talk and discuss what you both want and need from your relationship. Ask him what he's looking for in a relationship. If he says you, ask for what specific things he likes about you in regards to your relationship. For example: one thing that I like specifically about my girlfriend (nonsexually) is that we share a similar sense of humor and she usually seems happy when we're together.
Give him space, don’t talk to him till he talks to you. Once he gets the feeling that somethings wrong he will try and fix it. As he’s not listening to your concerns right now.
It looks like something solvable to me. Maybe attend couple therapy for a while.
If you made every attempt to get him to open up and its failed, then what's the use remaining with him?
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