If an ex came back into your life saying that they’ve come back for all the right reasons, would you take them back?

[Anonymous]

Would you take them back?

Yes

No history will repeat itself

[Anonymous]

Nah she made her decision. I would take it as opportunity to call her out on a few things and get closure though. That would be nice.

But I’m past that daydream of getting closure. I once naively had it especially about one ex in particular. However the exes I dropped aren’t coming back (I hope). And as for the ones that dropped me (which was more often) I now fully understand how most women are motivated. They are motivated purely on self interest even when they act like they’re selfless.

A woman will apologize, own up to faults and make efforts to improve a relationship only if there is something in it for her. She either is still attracted to the guy, doesn’t want to be lonely, needs the attention, needs the money or needs the guy around for “optics”. Once she decides a man can offer none of these benefits any more then he quickly becomes expendable and less than human. He is now just an object and if it gets in the way it must be discarded at all costs whether fair or not. Get him out of mind and out of sight.

You can argue men are the same way and some definitely are. But I know that I can still treat a woman respectfully just out of principle despite her having nothing to offer me.

I sat down to break up with my last ex girlfriend for an agonizing 2 hours of her screaming, yelling, crying and going berserk. I didn’t want to do it. But I gave her that closure out of principle.

I truly believe women nowadays (especially “modern” women) have no concept of principle. Just a concept of “me” and it’s being encouraged in society and it’s only getting worse.

[TaureanBull81]

The Darius M YouTube Channel would've loved seeing your comments. You absolutely 💯 % nailed it 👏

[Opinion Owner]

@TaureanBull81 it’s a cold HARD truth men have to accept to protect themselves.

I theorize that Mother Nature has made most women more selfish than men because there was a time in history it was necessary for survival purposes. Most women had very limited options before modern civilization so they had to be that way.

But now that callus judgment is no longer necessary (for the most part) in the modern world. However women haven’t evolved out of this. Unfortunately it’s made a lot of them very greedy. But what they don’t realize is when you harm men you ULTIMATELY harm women. Mother Nature meant for women and men to bound. If you harm one side the other side will eventually suffer.

[Pterodon]

nope. They shouldn’t have left in the first place

[Asker]

This 👏

[DermalPunch]

If they left they didn't want to be there. People dontleave people or disrespect people they love for their essence.

99% of the time they are back for something you offer them.

So no because you are setting yourself up to get used. Or, you have to basically put them on probation and train them.

I don't have that much energy to invest into a relationship.

[Chikky]

You have to ask him to explain, "his right reasons" and then you then decides if you want the same reasons

[Asker]

He kinda did , said he wants to ‘rebuild conversations and catch up’

[DermalPunch]

That's a nothing reason. That's nonsense. Catch up? No. He is wasting your time and wants to go back to status quo.

[Asker]

Yeah exactly I knew it was bs, I’ve blocked him

[Pinay_ako]

When the past is calling, hang up. It has nothing new to say unless you want the same old shit

[DaveJord]

I would give her a 2nd chance, but there would be a short leash.

[DizzyDesii]

This happens at least twice a year with a different ex. I’m stubborn/petty so the answer will always be no (even if i want it too) because I just can’t allow myself to move backwards in life

[DizzyDesii]

I dont actually think history will repeat itself. I do think things would actually have improved but i can't take that risk

[Rei13]

I think I would definitely feel some sort of way over it but no. I am happy in the relationship I am I’m currently and even if I was not history has a tendency of repeating itself, if it didn’t work out the first time it probably won’t the second, third or fourth etc

[Screenwriter]

I only have one major ex. He has never espoused anything but anger toward me and I could see no valid reason for his coming back into my life except to take my house from me! I'd assume he was lying.

Plus, recently, he threatened me. So, giant no. He hasn't improved in the past 23 years since our divorce.

[blissinanarchy1]

Depends. If an ex I broke up with grieved, did her thing, but saw noone else, maybe.

If she fucked someone else or been with someone else, no. The reason she is back, is all because it didn’t work with the other person. I am now an option or choice, a fall back plan. So no.

[Account]

No. I would assume that they have no idea what they are talking about. I would simply assume that they missed the pleasant moments we shared but that is not enough.

[RingOfFire]

No, but I am not saying history will repeat itself. The reason for no is that once someone has become an ex in my life I have not had any interest in having a romantic relationship with them ever again. However, I have a number of ex girlfriends who I have been friends with for many years. At least a couple of them tried to get back together but it's not for me.

[KingslayerC]

I might take one of them back, but the hourly rate will probably be more than they can afford.

[midnightmoon05]

We got back together…the issues were still there. But we made changes and help each other become better. It worked out at the end. Married now and those issues are resolved.

[Asker]

Lucky

[midnightmoon05]

It was very very very hard work. We broke up. Then still had to work hard to deal with the problems. To many… they give up … and consider abused… to us, we had to learn and make changes. Not sure about luck in this case.

[FunkyMonkee]

She would have ONE HELL OF A JOB trying to prove to me that I can trust her!! Once bitten, twice shy!!

[Miristheiss]

No, I'm married and have kids. I haven't seen this person in over 10 years. No exes are coming back.

[Asker]

This obviously implies to people who aren’t married.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I don't care if history will repeat itself or not. My feelings for him will be gone

[Juxtapose]

No lol. If you leave me in the first place then you were always a poor match with low levels of compatibility.

[FreyaRed]

"... they’ve come back for all the right reasons"

ridiculous and desperate

[Asker]

Yeah why would someone say that?

[thatshydork]

As the saying goes, they’re an ex for a reason.

[asphaltrhymes]

Ditto that 👍✌🏻

[BlackJeep]

I have an ex that's really nice and we wish each other happy birthday and all that but it's over. Going back to an is a waste of time and energy

[justabuddy]

Not sure, the way I was treated when it ended would have me questioning the longevity of it.

[sheikalana]

Not at all. I'm currently in a serious relationship but even if I was single that wouldn't make me change my mind.

[Daniela1982]

Not very bloody likely mate. I'd have a spot of tea instead.