If you are married or in a serious relationship, should you consult your SO before getting a tattoo or piercing?

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electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

My partner has sleeves and his neck done on tattoos. I knew he wanted more when we first got together. He hasn’t gotten new ones yet but he does ask how I feel about cover ups and different designs. It’s nice to feel included.

I have a lot of piercings and he knows that also. I have expressed interest in getting more in the future but he isn’t a big fan of all my ear piercings. I don’t fault him though. I will tell him if I ever plan to get more.

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

I don’t think you HAVE to unless you both agreed to that bc it’s real important to some people but I think I def would give them a heads up ask their longing but i know Pepe like to surprise, so in that case, I’d probably get fake piercing or washable tattoo and see how they feel

spartan55 · Accepted Answer

I think so, I don't this falls under 'asking for permission' more about being considerate. I am the type that would have talked about it beforehand and not just get a wild hair and go get a tattoo.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

yes, becsuse they are the one that has to look at it.

MzAsh · Answer

I don’t think you should “have to” as you don’t need anyone’s permission but if you’re that serious, I don’t see why it wouldn’t more than likely be something you bring up anyway by nature.

Screenwriter · Answer

I think if you're in a serious relationship, your SO would likely KNOW about your desire to get tatted, and realize it's only a matter of time and finding the artist and art that you want to apply.

You're an adult. You don't need permission to add a tattoo. If it were highly offensive to your SO, it's also more than likely you wouldn't do it, or have a compromising discussion about it...

mortonc57 · Answer

Yes! I had two massive colored Playboy logos put on my arms, and although my girlfriend (at the time) green lit. By the third day she was done with me "wearing" them, as apparently she wasn't aware of the permanence.

So, although she may agree to them at first, really, really make sure she knows about the permanence of them.

Likes2drive · Answer

It might be wise to do that because they may not like seeing it on you and tattoos are permanent, but piercings really aren’t. I think to avoid any type of argument later on I may tell them I’m getting one.

Justme00000 · Answer

It is your body to do with what you choose but if you are in a union with another person I would want their understanding first. Marriage should not be about selfless acts or hurtfulness. I would not want their intimacy or opinion to change about me as such an intentional visual change could cause lasting emotional problems which are not worth the ink.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

FML the screen jittered and i hit No instead of yes. I meant Yes.

EmmaMary · Answer

Fortunately this situation is never going to occur, as we both literally hate, loathe and absolutely detest tattoos.

Sparkie460 · Answer

We discuss everything first. Neither of us made a (want) purchase without talking to the other person.

bobcat57 · Answer

I think it would be a good idea to run it past them, but it’s not required

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Probably wouldn't be the worst idea. Then again I've never been married.

worldscolide · Answer

I would not do something like that until i consulted my wife.

mrkdvsn · Answer

The subject of tattoos and piercings should be discussed at the beginning of a relationship, and both person's views on such things. So yes.

msc545 · Answer

you should consult your SO

Fuentes · Answer

I would lol

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