I should break up with my boyfriend before going into college? We've been together for 2 years and never had a fight. But I'm scared it's puppy love?

[Babypqndabear]

I've thought about moving in with him and everything. He is kind, understand and empathetic. However he has no drive, no work ethic, no skills and really bad depression. He is 23 and he has no job while living with his parents.

I wanna point out that I'm 19 right now. I have gone to trade school for cyber security and now I'm pursuing it as a career. I've always been someone that gets stuff done. He's not. The issue is that he has no plans for his life. Whenever I bring it up he just says he's scared of the future.

I'm worried that if stay with him he won't change. It's fine if he wants to be a stay home husband (I think that's what you call it). But he can't cook or clean. He also finds doing chores a waste of time. The worst part is that even if I did break up with him I dont know how. He has really bad depression and I'm scared if I end things he'll drink himself to death.

I want to help him improve. I still love him but I also wanna live my own life.

Updates

10 mo

Thank you for all of your guys help. Most of you are telling me to break up with him. Tho I'm not sure how I should go on about doing it. I've never been good with confrontation. So I don't know how to break up with him. He was my first boyfriend my first everything. So I've never had this situation before. Do you guys have any advice one how to do it.

[RealMarek]

If he had a healthy level of ambition, I would suggest that it’s fine to keep the relationship. However, as a woman you need to be with a man, not a man-child. A guy with no work ethic won’t make a good stay-at-home dad for sure. I think you need to consider what is best for you long-term. Also, he is responsible for his own actions. Perhaps your confronting him about the lack of maturity and direction is what he needs in order to grow up. But if he takes a turn for the worse, it’s his responsibility.

[slatyb]

You should be free to date other people. Only by meeting a number of men will you be able to make an informed choice of a permanent partner.

"I want to help him improve..." "I'm scared hell drunk himself to death." You should definitely end this. You can't solve his problems or save him. He will save himself or he won't. You don't owe him anything more. Go live your life and meet someone capable of being a partner.

[_Maya_]

That is respectable that you want to help him improve his life, but if he has no ambition, there is little that you can really do. Plus, you are trying to get your own life and career started. That is tough enough without having to deal with helping someone else too. While I don't like t tell people to break up, you sound like you have different life goals than he does. I would really think about your own happiness first and if it is achievable with him in the picture.

[_Maya_]

For breakup advice you just have be be straightforward. Tell him you think that your lives are headed in different directions and you want to focus on yourself at this point in time.

[Avicenna]

You're going through big life changes so you probably should break up with him

[Gent207-2]

RUN FAR AND NEVER RETURN

You cannot help those who refuse to help themselves or to see that there is a problem. Seriously save yourself!

[Gent207-2]

Simple
Just let him know that you see that your paths and career plans are taking you in a different directions

[mommymommymommy]

It's not good to live with an s. o. until you're married. You can spend a few days with them in their place to see what it'd be like, but, don't just move in. It's just not a good idea

[DextroShade]

If he's lazy and won't be able to provide you should leave him.

[In_Trance]

Yes you should