Would you stay with a new partner you were in love with if you find out they cheated on you a week ago?

[Anonymous]

So let’s say you fall in someone with someone you been dating for 2 n half months all of you’re friends&family love them and you spent almost every night with them since the day you met. You go on a 4 day vacation which gos super will then the day you get back from vacation you get messages with xxx videos, photos and marriage license saying that you’re partner been cheating on you every morning when they wasn’t with you for the whole relationship would you belive it? would you forgive said partner if they admit to it or think the ex partner is just lying and faked all the dated videos , photos, plus all the info the ex knows about where you went on vacation at and the marriage license

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[OlderAndWiser]

1. Two and a half months is very quick to be falling in love and spending every night together. There are reasons to not jump into a relationship so quickly. These instant "I'm in love" relationships usually crash and burn very quickly.

2. If there are pictures or videos that show her cheating, there is no question about believing it. . . unless you just want to bury your head in the sand and live in denial (which I don't recommend, because this will only get worse if it's ignored.)

3. Your entire relationship is built on a lie. She didn't lie to you just once; she lied to you every day. Everything that you THINK you know about her needs to be questioned and challenged.

4. "Forgive" a cheater and they learn that they can get away with cheating. It will happen again. If forgive means not living the rest of your life with hatred i your heart, by all means, forgive them. But don't forget this and don't overlook this. "Your girlfriend" (the girlfriend you have been sharing with another guy) has demonstrated that they do not want t afaithful, monogamous relationship. Unless you are okay with just having casual sex (which I doubt,) it is time to move on and put this behind you.

[Billlewis]

I've met several women who I wasn't intimate with for quite some time after I'd met them, but I found out later that they'd been fucked by another guy the same night I first met them. When I start taking her out to dinner, I'll ask her if she enjoyed having sex with him and if she'd like to continue seeing him. If she says yes, I encourage her to keep seeing him and that I'm okay with that.

[Asker]

And you still date theses women?

[Billlewis]

I'm still serving my sexy young tease queen. She lets me come over and lick her asshole and masturbate while she tells me about how good her boyfriend fucked her over the weekend.

[provokeesmokee]

Nope.

And I'm not even monogamous.

But if you lie to me about this, I don't care what you have to say. If you lie and cheat behind my back, I'm done with you.

I even dumped an exgf because, among other things, she was clearly infatuated with a (married) friend of hers. Wouldn't shut up about how much she loved her. Despite telling me early in our relationship she needed me to stop my friends with benefits stuff because "she doesn't like to share" (our "let's be exclusive" moment).

I don't do hypocrisy or dishonesty, so it was time to let her go.

[Asker]

I agree 100% and that’s pretty crazy

[Anonymous]

New partner? Absolutely not. The beginning stages in a relationship is the happiest moments. That’s when you are attached at the hip, sort of. So if they cheated and it hasn’t been that long then I don’t trust it. If you start accepting things like this in the beginning then it will only get worse as time goes on.

[California_Poppy]

I wouldn't stay with my partner of 12 years after cheating, let alone 2 months.
She couldn't even make it 2 months? Are you kidding? You deserve way better than that.

Hell no!!! It will definitely happen again. Bet.

[Asker]

Do you think her ex boyfriend lying? Or he couldn’t have fake the dates?

[California_Poppy]

Does he want her back? Does he have a history of being controlling and upset with her moving on?

Did she supposedly cheat with him? What exactly is the evidence he gave?

[Asker]

It’s a screen recording with two videos both are dated , a marriage license and a few screen shot of text messages of laughing saying it’s her that she give him a hand Job and thought it was funny. Nude photos of her in his bed which is date and a photo of her with her dog which I know that one recent since I been 5 days with her with the same dog. I do know she dated her for 8 years sent me a birth certificate saying she had a kid with him that was adopted but she didn’t tell me about it

[California_Poppy]

She didn't tell you she had an adopted kid? You found this out from him?

[California_Poppy]

She is technically married to him and she didn't tell you?

[Asker]

She didn’t tell me she give her child up for adoption and no as for as I know it’s just a marriages license unsure if she was ever married or not

[Asker]

Zero idea how to find out if she legally married or not. But in the text messages it shows him texting someone 2 weeks ago about making marriage arrangements

[California_Poppy]

Some state public records are viewable online. You can try searching her name and state and his name too if you know it.

What do you mean by marriage arrangements? What were they discussing?

Don't you think that if she failed to tell you something that important (a child), that it is possible she is lying about this? I promise I'm not trying be rude. I am genuinely trying to understand everything so I can help you better.

Also, do the dates of when she supposedly cheated line up? Like was it a time that she was definitely not with you, and could have been with him?

[Asker]

Almost all the days were during the morning when I was at work , one was the day before she asked me out , they were talking about like buying clothes where the wedding should take places matching outfits etc , one video was during a morning before I went to her house along with a photo of her hanging with him and her family dog at 10am. I didn’t see her till 4pm so I have zero idea what she could have been doing when we are not together. I just know I spent every single afternoon with her when am not at work and she works 2-3 days a week. I still have all the text messages

[California_Poppy]

Hmm.. did she tell you in the last 2 months that they were still in contact? how does he even know about you?

[Asker]

Zero idea I did catch her texting him a few times , so made her change her cell number and block him on social media. He ever text my whole family about it

[California_Poppy]

Hmm.. did she tell you in the last 2 months that they were still in contact? how does he even know about you?
Also did they break up right before you met her?

All of that is really sketchy

[Asker]

Unsure from the video I was sent maybe or friends with benefits I sent you everything by dm if that’s okay photos of everything I was sent

[Drewtate]

Well if there's video and photographic proof no I would believe them.

If they were cheating on me there'd be no future with them

[Asker]

So being in love won’t make you stay?

[Drewtate]

Long term no. If she cheated she will cheat again in the future. If I was to invest years even decades of my life getting married having kids buying a house etc and then after 15 years she cheats behind my back with some guy and kicks me out and I'm left heartbroken in a motel room working to pay for a divorce child support and alimony while some other guy is sitting in my couch at home drinking my beer watching my TV plowing my wife every night being mu kids father no way. Women are absolutely ruthless and cold at the end of a relationship.
Women view these things differently than men.

[Asker]

Sadly true

[WhitneySnow]

I would break up with someone who cheated on me

[Asker]

Really

[WhitneySnow]

Really

[Asker]

Cold

[slatyb]

It's highly doubtful. If they wanted an open relationship we could have discussed it.

[jahaims]

I wouldn't stay with a partner that cheated in an circumstance

[sheikalana]

Absolutely F*ing NO.

[Miristheiss]

Not a chance in hell.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Nope

[dudeinohio]

Nope

[Asker]

Why not

[dudeinohio]

I require loyalty

[Asker]

Same

[Jazzy54]

Nope. Bye. 👋🏽✌🏾

[gothbxtch]

nope

[mommymommymommy]

Nope

[lorenzomichael]

Fuck no