How to regain self esteem after being cheated on?

[Anonymous]

he cheated on me and left me for her.. i chased him.. begged him.. he told me that he loves her... but now i regret all that i stopped contact him.. i was affraid of being lonely so i did stupid things.. i am 30.. i suffer from low self esteem because i let him do that to me.. i lost my self.. how to fix that

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry that happened to you. People can be awful. I would suggest doing things that make you feel good about yourself. You could start exercising to get you feeling good. Also put yourself out there go out more, meet new people and just remind yourself life is too short for judging yourself. Make the most of it and when the self doubts come in try to override them and try to only say positive things about yourself. I know it sounds lame but what I like to do is write 3 things I love about myself or what I’m doing that day every morning, and then write 3 things you are grateful for. This helps start to shift the negative thoughts into positive ones and makes it easier to raise your self esteem.

[jahaims]

If being cheated on hurt your self esteem you are thinking about it wrong. People only cheat because something is wrong with them. The problem isn't with you as far as being cheated on goes. You aren't responsible for your partners actions.

[boggboss]

Same old stuff work on yourself find out what makes u as a person happy stop trying to find your happiness from other people