Am I still a homewrecker if I didn’t know he was married?

[Anonymous]

This guy and I had this intense love back and forth over a couple of years. We couldn’t be together due to just wrong timing but we never really moved on I guess.
Apparently ever since I reached out to this guy in the beginning of March, he has decided he wants to divorce his wife. I didn’t know he was married, all his profiles are private and I don’t follow him. I messaged him that I missed him and us and that I wanted to see him. This was on March 5th, we talked for a few weeks while I still thought he was single. Then later in March he told his wife he wants a divorce. Am I still a homewrecker?

[Anonymous]

i was gonna say didn't you google him. but then you said his socials were private. but if you two talked so much and had a thing, why weren't you added to any of his socials? hopefully you learn from this big red flag.

to answer your question, no. a homewrecker is only a homewrecker when they KNOW they're messing with a married man yet they don't care.

personally, i think you should stop talking to him as he technically lied to you and dragged you along.

[Asker]

Ok, that’s good to hear. I wasn’t trying to have an affair with anyone. He was following me but I unfollowed him after we parted ways and then he went private probably when they got married, so I just never knew.

[Asker]

I had suspicions of something going on so using a fake account is how I found out everything lol

[Opinion Owner]

smart move, yeah always trust your gut

[ShesRad80]

its a complicate situation, did you date him after you found out he was married? and keep in mind he did it to her, he'll do the samething to you. homewrecker no, you did not know but he did the whole time.

[Asker]

I literally just found out this week and I said I can’t talk to him anymore until this is all behind him

[Asker]

If he was some random guy I would ditch him immediately.. it’s just we have a lot of history and I know he never stopped loving me and I never stopped loving him, so it’s all just kinda a mess I don't know. I figured I’d hear his story and talk in person but yeah not until his divorce is over

[ShesRad80]

thats horrible, smh. and i wish you luck with this all

[ShesRad80]

i totally get what you are saying, no judgment here, just becareful thats all

[Asker]

Thank you 💞💞

[ShesRad80]

welcome 👍

[jahaims]

You are if you continue to talk to him after knowing he is married. He will treat you the same as his wife.

[driven159]

No he is a homewrecker and a cheater you really want that do you think he is not going to cheat on you?

[ProbablyClueless]

Nah, I think you have to know that they are entangled to be considered a Homewrecker.

[gothbxtch]

nope, not your fault

[Jazzy54]

No, but now that you know, leave him be.

[Sammy786]

nope

[In_Trance]

yeah