This is a weird one for me because in every relationship I’ve been in I’ve hardly argued with my partner like yeah little ones here and there but not like my relationship now.
The arguments usually start when my boyfriend says I have done something to make him feel a particular way, for example if something I said came across as rude to him or I was on holiday with my friends and he felt like I was acting as if I didn’t want to talk to him so he expressed his feelings towards it. Sometimes I can be supportive as I know he’s had previous relationship trauma, but when it happens all the time there are sometimes I don’t agree with what he says and I don’t always respond how he would like me to as I get frustrated, because it feels as if he is accusing me of things so when I tell him that the things he’s saying is not true he says I’m just being defensive and not listening to how he feels as “he’s only trying to tell me how it’s made him feel” I’m only asking on here because I have never met someone like this before and it’s incredibly frustrating when you try and do everything for someone and it doesn’t feel like it’s enough.
Why does my boyfriend always say I’m being defensive when we argue ?
