Have you ever been in a bipolar relationship?

[Juicyred921]

I’m m not just talking about being with someone that’s bipolar. I’m talking about being with someone that easily gets upset and will tell you they’re done being with you but then later ( like literally could be an hour later) will talk about future plans with you. It’s very confusing. I know I’m far from perfect. I make a lot of stupid mistakes. But even the smallest mistakes ( like forgetting things, not getting them the correct thing they asked for, small misunderstandings, even when I can’t hear him because I lost half my hearing) they will get so upset they tell you they can’t be with you. But then later they will be in a better mood and talk about getting a dog together or a house, vacation ideas, etc. My question is, has anyone been in a similar situation and how do you deal with it?

[Leapfrog00]

My ex-fiancé Kelly was exactly like that! She would be all sweet one minute, then she would find something to pick at and start screaming and throwing things and smacking me in the face, and putting her hands around my neck, and then she would later talk about wedding plans.

It got so bad, I lost all my friends, had no one I could trust, but then I still wanted to marry her because of her sweet side. She left me for some guy in Indiana the day of our wedding. I knew she was cheating on me but I didn't think I could do any better.

Take my advice, please! If you're with someone like this, that gets angry and yells and screams at you, and a few minutes later they are as sweet as pie, it's not going to get any better. If you want a meaningful relationship with someone who cares about your feelings and someone who will listen to your every thought and care about what you say, you can find that. These people usually end up getting violent eventually.

I still have a scar from where she cut the hell out me with a knife. I'm not saying your relationship is like this, but it starts out with the person screaming and making you feel worthless and eventually, they think it's OK to punch you in the face.

Here's how I dealt with this when I was putting up with it. I let her yell and scream and get it all out, and didn't say anything back to her, because getting angry just feeds the person, he will have even more reason to yell. Two, walk away and get out of the same room. Tell him you need space. This is not healthy for your mental health and later, you will end up with PTSD staying around it. Leave the house if you can. If you don't drive, walk somewhere.

I say this with no disrespect, but if he leaves you, you will be the lucky one. I know these relationships are hard to walk away from because you really love the person, but it's going to end up eating away at you inside until you lose your reason to love, and the next person that comes around, you won't love because you lost all your trust. I'm speaking from experience. Just be careful. I hope my advice helped just a little.

[Peter_Penetrator]

I am glad you recognize the situation. Does this other person see a psychiatrist? Is he on meds? If not, try talking them into getting help.


Don’t make any major decisions that might not pan out. When I was 30, and my ex wife was 42, we married. She knew I am bi polar, but married me anyway. I am 51 not and after 18 years of marriage, I divorced her. Sure, I was the life of the party when I was manic, but when I crashed, her and her family were too narcissistic to cut me a break. I became an obstacle.


A lot of times my ex and her youngest son who was in his late teens at the time and even as he got older, took advantage of those weaknesses that came from being bi polar. I did my best to set boundaries, but as I said, narcissists don’t know what the hell boundaries are. I was heavily out numbered. So consider all that in any future plans you have with him. It sounds like you intend on staying with him or else you would have bugged out by now. Most likely when he gets stressed, that is because he has crashed. Then his poles reverse and he is manic again.


I spent 30 years of my life trying this doctor and that doctor, taking this med and that med up until about four years ago. That is when I found the right doctor and a three drug cocktail. I will never be 100%, but I feel at least 98% better.


The best you can do is to learn what triggers him to crash. And be mindful of that. Don’t get angry with him but don’t sacrifice your boundaries either. Wait and talk with him about things that bother you when he is manic. But if he begins to crash, cut him a little slack. Just show him compassion.


If you can’t talk him into getting professional help, let him know that it is a boundary you intend to enforce because it is taking a toll on you and you really want to stay with him but he needs to get help.

[sheikalana]

My ex behaved like that but he's not bipolar. At least not that I know.

[Summeroflove]

Not personally. I don’t just jump into relationships I really have to get to know someone and trust them. I’m also not a man whore. Many people get into bad relationships because they sleep around or just jump into relationships too fast.

Now, that’s not to say good people don’t get caught up into things and thats sad. But yes I have seen people in relationships like this. Many times the other partner is abusive and usually he/she is only nice if they’re getting their way.

[AviatorTom]

Yes, I have been in a couple relationships like that. It's difficult to deal with, but I learn not to take their outbursts personal.

[Juicyred921]

It’s hard not to take it personally. When they tell you every other day they’re going to leave you. I believe it every time they say it. I always take it seriously.

[AviatorTom]

@Juicyred921 Only you can change the way you fell about things people say to you. Members of the G@G community can give you advice, but ultimately it's up to you.

[Juicyred921]

I understand that. And I love him with all my heart. Not trying to justify anything, but I know he’s had a hard past. He’s been through more in his life than anyone ever deserves. He’s gone through more pain, loss, suffering, betrayal and misfortune than anyone I’ve ever even heard of. So I try to be there for him. I tried so hard to make him happy, to give him anything he needed. To show him love and support. But I almost feel like being with me is a curse. I feel like, even though I tried to make him happy, all I did was make his life worse. He deserves someone so much better than me. Someone smart, successful, wealthy, beautiful, sexy, and strong. As much as I try, I don’t think I can be what he deserves. I honestly don’t know why he stayed with me for 3 years. As long as I’ve known him, he’s always told me he’s going to leave if I don’t change. It maybe selfish of me to say, but I feel like I’ve turned my life upside down for him. I tried so hard to please him that I lost everything. I lost my job, my home, my friends, my family. Moved to another state. I even lost custody of my daughter. (Not from neglect or being a bad mom, just because of financial issues). But I’ve tried to do she care of him for 3 years ( financially too) And he knows that with the situation I’m in, if he leaves, I’m screwed.

[exitseven]

I dated somebody who I suspect was bi polar/. She was abused as a kid by her parents and her brother did some weird stuff to her too. She worked as a bartender and her whole life revolved around drinking and partying. She was a lot of fun to be with. We had lots of fun but also I think we were really in love with each other. I was going to college and she worked in the evenings. Sometimes after she would get out of work she would show up at my place. She would want to go out drinking and would get angry when I would tell her that I had to get up early the next day. She could sleep until noon. She would abuse me. She said the most meanest things to me. Sometimes she would get physical. I would never hit her but I used to hold on to her until she got tired. Once she bit me so hard I still have the scar.

The next day she would just forget about it.

[jimmy2]

My son is
Let me have you done great tips
First make sure they are on meds and stay on meds

The next point I know personally and have seen others do it.
With a Bipolar person do not every start the conversation.. when you start the Bipolar puts up a wall one can not get past.

Rater let the Bipolar start the conversation first then one can talk about anything with theTry it you will find great blessings

[ProbablyClueless]

I have. It was a nightmare and I am absolutely hell-bent on making sure that it never happens to me again.

[Fireguy17]

Quite possibly.
She would just go ballistic over some little thing, and then be "normal" again.

[slatyb]

That's not bipolar. That's Borderline/Histrionic. I married that. Almost ruined my life.

[DaBiggestBird]

My mom always says Papaya is a bipolar b-word but I think she’s just built different.

[Iron_Man]

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having problems

[BLP11520]

I am in one, she blows up over nothing then acts like nothing happened. I put up with it because divorce in my state is 50/50 split.

[Straitforward38]

Have they actually been diagnosed as bipolar? I'm very sensitive to this subject as my ex fiance had bipolar disorder and it ruined my life

[Iron_Man]

I’m sorry to hear that

[Straitforward38]

@Iron_Man thanks

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome

[Bklynbadboy12]

No never I couldn't deal with the emotional roller-coaster

[bowenw]

My mother was bipolar.

[Andres77]

Second ex wife. M…I…s…e…r…a…b…l…e.

[EaterPeter]

Oh yeah