Have you ever experienced a relationship with someone with Bi Polar Depression?

[Finchie40]

My ex wife was diagnosed with BPD and being in that kind of relationship I thought I could handle it , but the truth is I couldn’t , It’s like being with someone that loves you like crazy and then a flip of a switch she becomes this evil person toward you , that doesn’t love you anymore and treats you like constant shit , needed space from you all of a sudden , leaving you with constant question marks over your head as to why is this person that loved me , treating me this way all of a sudden? , It’s almost the same feeling you get when you feel someone is cheating on you and the truth is they probably are. Anything you say or do while they are going through their episode is pretty much pointless , they attack you like you are this horrible person and make you feel like maybe you are a horrible person , when really you aren’t. Leaving you wondering if you should stay or move on , the second you choose to move on , they act like you are crazy and they try to play a victim acting like they loved you this whole time to try to suck you back in , Getting away from that type of relationship was the best thing that happened in my life but it also effected me as well, as a person , It’s harder for me to fully give my heart to a girl now because of the shit my ex did to me , When I meet a girl that is sweet and caring and tells me all great things , I want to believe her but part of me can’t , because I had my heart shit on , Anyone ever experience a BPD partner that fucked you up?

[Anemone978]

I have BPD which is Borderline personality disorder and yes I was fucked up for awhile, but my husband treated me the same as I treated him.. If I was mean he was mean back.. as for needing space away from him I never needed that, I always wanted to be close to him all the time. I did hurt my friends and family tho because I was hurting. But now that I am on pills I am doing a lot better and can control my emotions 90% better than I could before. As for Bi polar my sister has that and she is a bitch and has major mood swings lol I don't know I think she may have loved you but just didn't know how to deal with herself and her emotions and maybe needed space to quit hurting you all the time.

[Finchie40]

I did stand by her side for a very long time, her and I were inseparable for quite sometime feven though I felt like I was married to DrJekyll Mr Hyde I stood by her side even though I felt
Like a walking punching bag , when she would snap out of her episode she would be loving and caring to me again , but as time went on she started to get worse, to the point no matter what I told her and no matter what I did for her or how I felt it didn’t matter to her anymore , In her eyes I was Evil when really she was the one that was evil , , The second she started distancing herself from me and started to withhold intimacy and affection from me is when I knew something was completely off and my gut instincts were alerting me , her selfishness rised She started making friends and prioritizing her friends over me when I couldn’t prioritize my friends over her , it was ok for her to do things but not ok for me , she didn’t even consider me when it came to making pans and easily excluded me from everything, I was no longer a priority to her anymore , her friends were her priority , She would plan trips away without me and acted like I didn’t even exist , it was her way or no way , she couldn’t hold a job without her anxiety taking a toll on her but she could easily go out with her girlfriends to public places? I felt used and felt like I was just a connivence to her , the second I started to walk away and focus on myself is when she would come chasing me back to the point it was an ongoing thing between us , she love me then hate me , love me then hare me , I loved her with all my heart but knew I couldn’t stay in a relationship like this for my own sanity , but I did, I stood by her, because I loved her and our children , to find out she was screwing a co worker behind my back , that there was my final straw to end it with her. Nowadays it’s hard for me to believe a girl that tells me all sweet things , I want to believe it but it’s hard to mainly from how my ex treated me

[Anemone978]

Well I am sorry to hear that, it sounds like she was just a bitch and didn't love you. WOW I never treated anyone like that. But also never let people use mental illness as an excuse to hurt you or treat you like shit. I am glad you left her she sounds really horrible..

[Finchie40]

Yes a bitch is correct lol A selfish bitch that only really cares about herself and now kicking herself in the ass for her choices in life

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My ex fiancé wasn’t diagnosed but he showed exact same behavior, he could be very sweet one day and then be very cruel and hurtful the another day.

I loved him though and I handled it but it ruined me. He was a very nice person, he always regretted hurting me and tried to make up for it.

But in the end he left me at my weakest.

I doubt someone will love him the way I did, I loved him at his worst not only at his best.

[Finchie40]

Sounds exactly how my relationship was with my ex , I was pretty much her walking punching bag , Not saying I am perfect what so ever , but I knew I treated her with so much love and respect , did everything I could to keep a smile on her face but no matter what I did for her it was never enough or good enough , She treated me like I was just a convenience to her after we been together awhile in the beginning we were inseparable she came into my life and I instantly fell for her , she was this amazing sweet caring beautiful girl but little did I realize she had a demon living inside of her that would come out periodically and attack me , criticizing me belittling me pushing every button in me to make me feel like i wasn’t t good enough for her , started comparing me to her exes and making me feel like I wasn’t good enough for her like a flip of a switch , the second I was pretty much ready to walk away from her she would come chasing me back and apologizing and saying all sweet things to me making excuses that it’s her and not me , once I found out her diagnosis I honestly thought I could handle her mental illness. But as time went on it just got worse and worse , any tragic thing that happened like the loss of a family member or anything negative that occurred that caused stress in her life , she would take it out on me like everything was my fault , she would get cold and distant from me and treated me like I meant nothing to her , the intimacy and affection we once shared became a battle , she would start prioritizing everyone else but me , she never saw any wrong in her doings she would have an excuse for all her choices and actions and would flip stories around to make it seem like I was the bad guy and she was good , made excuses why she couldn’t work , but she had no issue blowing through money would make excuses as to why all of a sudden she needs space , the second she would make a new friend I no longer mattered to her , it was the worst relationship

[dudeinohio]

Ex girlfriend had it. Ended after 3 years. Fiancée has it, but a different type and takes her meds.. things going great.

[dudeinohio]

But the ex girlfriend shit on me big time.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't date anyone who was actually diagnosed with this stuff. We could make assumptions sure but if they actually go to the doc and are on meds or something then i’d avoid dating them