Is it normal to lower your expectations so much that you no long feel disappointment? Why or why not?

[TDTH2729]

I'm curious because I've come to a point in my life where I've just lowered my expectations of people to almost zero.

[provokeesmokee]

I think yes, but it's balanced by having accurate expectations of those I love. Often that means expecting more of them than I do strangers - because I know their capabilities. Sometimes, I expect even less - because I know their capabilities.

Having accurate expectations for those I love or rely on is good. Having low expectations to avoid disappointment while not letting others know I expect nothing of them is good practice.

Just don't let your managed (low) expectations spill into active poor behaviour to others. It will make them likely bitter.

Instead, give them a reputation to live up to while managing down your expectations of their results. That way, even if they do poorly you get more than you expected.

[shades777]

that sounds rather foolish to assume because you do it that all people do it, as the saying goes we look for approval for our bad behavior...


people are different and the sooner you realize this the better your peace of mind will be, what do YOU want? not to be concerned with what everyone else wants. your 21 so maybe you have not grasped that you will not live forever and that your already 30-40% into your life expectancy, so you better wise up.

[lightbulb27]

Ok to a degree but extremes sre bad. You have to learn something to grt past that and have a good life.


Enjoy the learning

[Staximus]

There's a limit. You can't expect too much, but you should be able to expect them to not be pieces of shit. If somebody's not a good person, they don't need to be in your life.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats a myth.

If you lower your expectations, then you are just perpetually dissapointed.

[Anonymous]

Yes. And there's nothing wrong with that so long as you don't lower your self respect to that as well.

I learned a while ago to stop putting any expectations on people. Now I'm never disappointed.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's normal in the sense that it happens a lot. It's not healthy though.

[chilldude33]

there shouldn't be any expectations. just take things at face value

[Anonymous]

If you can be happy like that it is much cheaper.