My kids are adults and all have good careers and I've tried to date single moms in the past and they all had bratty kids. A couple times 1 parent was trying to buy the love of the kid so these kids were just too spoiled. Nothing against the moms for me but if it's a package deal, I'm out.
Relationship-wise.. uuhm yeah. Mostly. Or just much higher standards and require a level of maturity from both men and women and a mutual understanding that is mostly seen with people in their 40s or above.
Most single and childess men are turned off by single moms.
Why would a man want to take on another mans responsibility?
Now if the guy has kids already... that might be a different story. It all depends. Men know that single moms are a package deal situation. He has to accept a woman AND her kids. Thats a lot. Not to mention the potential drama from an ex.
No, not at all. As a longtime cuckold who is never allowed to have any penetrative sex whatsoever, if she already has a child, that makes it easier for her to keep me sexually frustrated and not have to worry about who's going to get her pregnant, if she wants a child.
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Single moms are only good for hitting and quitting. Why would a man agree to take care of another man’s children. A kid is a financial commitment regardless if dad is involved. I’d rather have my “firsts” with a first time mom. For example first time parents, first time family photo, etc. You get the idea. If dad is in the picture then your whole relationship depends on him. Meaning if he refuses to take the kids out of spite or if he goes away for a weekend your life is on hold and now you can’t just go out on date night like you had planned because mom has to take care of the kids.
Not necessarily. However, "Ceteris Paribus" (all other things being equal), yes, absolutely.
That is, between two otherwise compatible women in terms of looks, intelligence, kindness, diligence, compassion, etc., the one without children will be preferable.
Look , there is nothing wrong with it , but it comes with massive challenges also , I've done it a few times , dependent how the relationship is going as to the role I will take with the child , with regard to participation. Just as many women would never consider single fathers ( of which I was one , difficult ) , many guys may exclude single mothers and thats fine too , you are taking on a lot.
Equal and opposite , is only fair , no difference.
Usually only to guys with no kids.. When I was younger and childless I was like nah I will never date a guy with kids. Reason being you don't have any and you want to start a fresh family of your own not some broken thing.. lol But obviously if a single dad wouldn't date a single mom he is trash anyways lol
@DarkLegacy If a single dad wouldn't date a single mom he is a hypocrite and trash.. Anyone else it is their choice because I already stated if you don't have something broken why would you want broken..
@DarkLegacy When you are hypocritical you usually are a shit person.. Why are you a single dad who only will date young ladies with no kids? If not STFU it has nothing to do with you lol
@anemone978 It simply means the single dad has standards. You're mistake is believing that men and women are equal. Those same studies show that kids are exponentially more likely to stay out of trouble being raised by a single dad. If anything he's even less likely to be around single mom for fear of how the relationship may effect his own kid.
@anemone978 I think I understand your confusion. You claimed "it's only your opinion" Well unless you date women your opinion is kind of irrelevant. It's easy always easy to create a criteria that someone else has to follow. At the end of the day I'm sure you agree that whether a man has kids or not the decision to not want single moms is ultimately his. (To save time please miss me w/ the it's also hers equality argument)
@anemone978 It's unfortunate that you would spend your time ineptly debating a subject that you don't care about, however it does highlight how women make decisions based purely off how they feel at the time.
@DarkLegacy lol you act like GAG has any affect on the real world. It is a bullshit community filled with losers, fake accounts, and sluts. I can say what I want because it doesn't actually effect anyone.. and if it does you are just pathetic. I am worse than a racist? lol give me a break..
@Vegasrunner Yeah, like you said my opinions don't matter anyways since I don't think like the majority of other women. So who cares what I post.. I do things just to annoy or have fun not because I actually care.
@anemone978 Well actually I said your opinion doesn't matter on this specific subject if you're not dating women. The reason you post is yours and not mine to judge. It doesn't annoy me at all, I fact the majority of the things women post on here only help me when I'm working w/ your men to teach them about female nature.
@Vegasrunner Regardless of what the question is, on anything I post you always say my opinions don't matter, so why keep coming back to talk it isn't like I actually take what you say into consideration anyways... And why act like you work with people I personally know? (your men) lol I am married and probably will stay that way until I die because I don't care anymore...
@anemone978 You have to forgive me as I don't remember dialoging w/ you on any previous occasion and I certainly never claimed your opinion doesn't matter. My point is if you're not dating women it doesn't matter. The other part was a typo it should say working w/ young men to help them understand female behavior.
@DarkLegacy If I am pathetic why did you even bother to reply to me? I come here to be mean that is it, who said i don't like it? :P I just don't respect the community.. Yeah people who come to attack me I will fight them.. and others I will put in their place, so they might learn something..
@anemone978 how sad coming here just to be mean, and if you think anyone will take any notice of you then you really think highly of yourself, you won't influence anyone. No one will be put in their place by the likes of you
@DarkLegacy If I am sad you are even worse because you seem to notice me since anytime i post something you don't agree with you love to reply.. Many already have so what you on about? lol
There are certainly negatives. I wouldn't. At a point though women that are available to a guy most likely come attached with children so I imagine it is a given and if they have children then they can't complain much.
Not at all, but the thing is most single men want to have their own kids too and some single moms don’t want more kids. I married a single mother of two with a third on the way. Then we had one as well. I raised them all as mine with no difference. That would not have happened if she wasn’t willing to have one with me too.
Yes we are, why should we bring up someones elses kid, and we will never be put first in that relationship. Besides we will be undermined when it comes to discipline of the kid. And furthermore most single mums are trying to settle down with guys they would have rejected when they were younger.
I'm a single dad , & knew when I took the decision to bin my ex & take on full custody , I would have zero chance in the " dating " world. As I'm too content being single , I never plan to " date " anyway., Very few people want to be responsible for children that are not theirs , that's life & also evolutionary biology at work
To me it depends. For example, if she adopted a young relative rather than allow the child into the system, or is a faithful widow, it would not be an automatic "No." If she is the meme never married mom of four or more from multiple baby daddies, that is a hard pass.
So much guys elaborate how a single mom is baggage and a red flag. But gosh you guys, your attitudes are massive baggage and red flags that contribute to guys being kidless from their ex he had kids with. I do enjoy irony and a good chuckle. Good question girl!
It is womens attitudes that are the read flag, fucking around with bad guys and getting pregnant or going with a known abuser just to rebel, and then trying to get the nice guy to look after their kid when they hit the wall. Or women only going with muscular guys with tattoos ll up their arms
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My kids are adults and all have good careers and I've tried to date single moms in the past and they all had bratty kids. A couple times 1 parent was trying to buy the love of the kid so these kids were just too spoiled. Nothing against the moms for me but if it's a package deal, I'm out.
What if the kid isn't bratty and was a great kid?
I didn't come across that. I was 0 for 5 the other way so I only dated single, no kids. It's a lot simpler.
Sexually? - No. Can still be hot.
Relationship-wise.. uuhm yeah.
Mostly. Or just much higher standards and require a level of maturity from both men and women and a mutual understanding that is mostly seen with people in their 40s or above.
Not true… depends on dude… his training, experiences and emotional makeup
Its a unique calling to be willing to love another woman and mans kids.
I was turned off earlier in life pre christ. After christ i had much more heart to give and share.
That would depend on the single mom.
The hookup single mom or the ex boyfriend single mom are totally different from the widow single mom who got married then had children.
Single moms just present a big burden to deal with.
For one the children aren't the man she will be with and that alone come with a lot of baggage.
Not to be mean but yes overall single moms are a turn off for most men because there's no upside to being with a single mom if she has small kids.
Most single and childess men are turned off by single moms.
Why would a man want to take on another mans responsibility?
Now if the guy has kids already... that might be a different story. It all depends. Men know that single moms are a package deal situation. He has to accept a woman AND her kids. Thats a lot. Not to mention the potential drama from an ex.
No, not at all. As a longtime cuckold who is never allowed to have any penetrative sex whatsoever, if she already has a child, that makes it easier for her to keep me sexually frustrated and not have to worry about who's going to get her pregnant, if she wants a child.
Single moms are only good for hitting and quitting. Why would a man agree to take care of another man’s children. A kid is a financial commitment regardless if dad is involved. I’d rather have my “firsts” with a first time mom. For example first time parents, first time family photo, etc. You get the idea. If dad is in the picture then your whole relationship depends on him. Meaning if he refuses to take the kids out of spite or if he goes away for a weekend your life is on hold and now you can’t just go out on date night like you had planned because mom has to take care of the kids.
clever rhyme for the one nighter!!!
Hitting and quitting, i like it
I do not want a woman who has already given birth to some other man's child
I want us to be her focus and priority. If she has a kid then that is out the window.
I want single people, alone time with her not a ready made family.
Only if I were a single dad would I consider a mom. Single dads would be their best dating options.
Not necessarily. However, "Ceteris Paribus" (all other things being equal), yes, absolutely.
That is, between two otherwise compatible women in terms of looks, intelligence, kindness, diligence, compassion, etc., the one without children will be preferable.
Look , there is nothing wrong with it , but it comes with massive challenges also , I've done it a few times , dependent how the relationship is going as to the role I will take with the child , with regard to participation. Just as many women would never consider single fathers ( of which I was one , difficult ) , many guys may exclude single mothers and thats fine too , you are taking on a lot.
Equal and opposite , is only fair , no difference.
Usually only to guys with no kids.. When I was younger and childless I was like nah I will never date a guy with kids. Reason being you don't have any and you want to start a fresh family of your own not some broken thing.. lol But obviously if a single dad wouldn't date a single mom he is trash anyways lol
@AmandaYVR Single moms are good for recreational use but to take the seriously is probably the worse thing a man can do for himself.
@Vegasrunner You tagged me by accident, right.
@AmandaYVR Yes, my apologies
@Vegasrunner LMFAO
No man is trash for his preferences otherwise women are
@DarkLegacy If a single dad wouldn't date a single mom he is a hypocrite and trash..
Anyone else it is their choice because I already stated if you don't have something broken why would you want broken..
@Vegasrunner Good for you! Learn to reply :P
@anemone978 women who slate mens relationship preferences are trash
@DarkLegacy When you are hypocritical you usually are a shit person..
Why are you a single dad who only will date young ladies with no kids? If not STFU it has nothing to do with you lol
@anemone978 i can say what i like, and im not a single dad
@DarkLegacy Yeah so why you replying? I didn't say all guys are trash..
@anemone978 It simply means the single dad has standards. You're mistake is believing that men and women are equal. Those same studies show that kids are exponentially more likely to stay out of trouble being raised by a single dad. If anything he's even less likely to be around single mom for fear of how the relationship may effect his own kid.
@Vegasrunner Mmmhmm.. what studies? lol Not that is actually matters, its only my opinion you are free to have your own.. so go away :D
@anemone978 Unless you're dating single moms my opinion is the only one that matters
@Vegasrunner You are the one replying to my opinion.. so if yours matters go post it to the question.. not to me...
@anemone978 I think I understand your confusion. You claimed "it's only your opinion" Well unless you date women your opinion is kind of irrelevant. It's easy always easy to create a criteria that someone else has to follow. At the end of the day I'm sure you agree that whether a man has kids or not the decision to not want single moms is ultimately his. (To save time please miss me w/ the it's also hers equality argument)
@Vegasrunner Fair enough.. I don't really care lol
@anemone978 if you didn;t care you would kept your mouth shut to begin with but you have been going on for a couple of days now
@DarkLegacy I don't like faggots to have the last word over me.. so I always got to come back for more..
That just proves that you do care and it is pathetic how women always insist on having the last word over men. Oh and you are homophobic to boot.
@DarkLegacy Of course I am, didn't you already know?
I don't care about my opinion and your differing one I just care about winning.
You just care about winning, you just need to grow up and there is no place in any society for anyone with prejudices
And you have the audacity to complain about white guys being racist, you are worse
@anemone978 It's unfortunate that you would spend your time ineptly debating a subject that you don't care about, however it does highlight how women make decisions based purely off how they feel at the time.
@DarkLegacy lol you act like GAG has any affect on the real world. It is a bullshit community filled with losers, fake accounts, and sluts. I can say what I want because it doesn't actually effect anyone.. and if it does you are just pathetic. I am worse than a racist? lol give me a break..
@Vegasrunner Yeah, like you said my opinions don't matter anyways since I don't think like the majority of other women. So who cares what I post.. I do things just to annoy or have fun not because I actually care.
@anemone978 Well actually I said your opinion doesn't matter on this specific subject if you're not dating women. The reason you post is yours and not mine to judge. It doesn't annoy me at all, I fact the majority of the things women post on here only help me when I'm working w/ your men to teach them about female nature.
@Vegasrunner Regardless of what the question is, on anything I post you always say my opinions don't matter, so why keep coming back to talk it isn't like I actually take what you say into consideration anyways...
And why act like you work with people I personally know? (your men) lol I am married and probably will stay that way until I die because I don't care anymore...
@anemone978 You have to forgive me as I don't remember dialoging w/ you on any previous occasion and I certainly never claimed your opinion doesn't matter. My point is if you're not dating women it doesn't matter. The other part was a typo it should say working w/ young men to help them understand female behavior.
Anemone978 you are pathetic and are you referring to yourself when you comment on the sites users.
@anemone978 if you do not like it then leave, you say that about the sites users but here you are going toe to toe with them.
@Vegasrunner Lmao I am sure you don't.. And yes you have the last discussion we had you said the same thing. Anyways have a good day.
@DarkLegacy If I am pathetic why did you even bother to reply to me?
I come here to be mean that is it, who said i don't like it? :P I just don't respect the community..
Yeah people who come to attack me I will fight them.. and others I will put in their place, so they might learn something..
@anemone978 how sad coming here just to be mean, and if you think anyone will take any notice of you then you really think highly of yourself, you won't influence anyone. No one will be put in their place by the likes of you
@DarkLegacy If I am sad you are even worse because you seem to notice me since anytime i post something you don't agree with you love to reply..
Many already have so what you on about? lol
@anemone978 no they have not
@anemone978 TY for sharing I have discussions w/ many women I only tend to remember the once that articulate sound valid points.
@Vegasrunner That's nice.. again no one cares...
@anemone978 Then why do you keep bringing it up?
@Vegasrunner no reason..
@anemone978 Ahh, so you're saying you can be u decisive and erractic?
@Vegasrunner sure.. why not..
@anemone978 TY for at least being honest about your deficiencies.
@Vegasrunner Yup
@anemone978 Would you mind if I use your dialog to educate some young men I mentor?
@Vegasrunner go ahead..
@anemone978 TY
Hell yeah! I’m not gonna…
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Often yes like really I'm amazing and other single moms are so gorgeous 🥰.
It is their loss
Being bi I prefer dating other moms and they are way more wonderful smart and great in bed then guys or single women!
My daughter adores meeting her new friends of mommy's dates. Always excited to meet someone new!
Most are shy and those are the best cause in time they open up and it is amazing how wonderful and naughty they are.
There are certainly negatives. I wouldn't. At a point though women that are available to a guy most likely come attached with children so I imagine it is a given and if they have children then they can't complain much.
I have options so I wouldn't.
I never was.
The biggest thing was how they go along with the ex.
Was there a constant battle, going to court all the time, the kids were being used as pawns for every little thing.
Then that was just too much drama.
I had a long term relationship with a woman that had 3 kids.
I got along fine with them.
There was a little drama which was to be expected.
It was just fine.
Not at all, but the thing is most single men want to have their own kids too and some single moms don’t want more kids.
I married a single mother of two with a third on the way. Then we had one as well. I raised them all as mine with no difference. That would not have happened if she wasn’t willing to have one with me too.
Yes we are, why should we bring up someones elses kid, and we will never be put first in that relationship. Besides we will be undermined when it comes to discipline of the kid. And furthermore most single mums are trying to settle down with guys they would have rejected when they were younger.
I should have added in the situation when the guy wants kids but the single mum does not want anymore.
I'm a single dad , & knew when I took the decision to bin my ex & take on full custody , I would have zero chance in the " dating " world. As I'm too content being single , I never plan to " date " anyway., Very few people want to be responsible for children that are not theirs , that's life & also evolutionary biology at work
To me it depends. For example, if she adopted a young relative rather than allow the child into the system, or is a faithful widow, it would not be an automatic "No." If she is the meme never married mom of four or more from multiple baby daddies, that is a hard pass.
So much guys elaborate how a single mom is baggage and a red flag. But gosh you guys, your attitudes are massive baggage and red flags that contribute to guys being kidless from their ex he had kids with.
I do enjoy irony and a good chuckle. Good question girl!
It is womens attitudes that are the read flag, fucking around with bad guys and getting pregnant or going with a known abuser just to rebel, and then trying to get the nice guy to look after their kid when they hit the wall.
Or women only going with muscular guys with tattoos ll up their arms
Well if it makes you feel any better, that's your dating pool. If you don't like it, go full lesbo and leave men alone.