How would you feel if your partner told you they wanted the both of you to take one hall pass?

[Finchie40]

How would that make you feel and what would you do?

[Anonymous]

If my partner told me that, I'd be pretty upset because I would think that they are already interested in another person and they want to have a "hall pass" to have sex with that person.

I would think that the relationship is in trouble already and that my partner is basically wanting to pursue someone else without actually breaking up with me.

So I'd feel hurt and angry, and I'd really wonder what changed in the relationship that made my partner want something like that.

I could see why they would want it though. Some people do become bored in their relationships and feel the need for excitement.

[Finchie40]

Yea but that’s the problem with most relationships , most people in general are selfish people and do not know how to remove selfishness for their partner’s , and then they wonder why they keep failing At relationships, when you can’t sacrifice for your partner don’t think they will sacrifice for you period , if a girl I was in a relationship with told me we should take a hall pass one time because we been butting heads etc. I am just going to tell her to go bang the other guy she wants to fuck but i will not be waiting here for her to return , to me it’s clearly over that she doesn’t value me like I valued her , I am not going to stand by a girl that needs other dick in her period , to weigh her options , to me she is a selfish pos that only thinks what is best for her and to me she already cheated on the relationship whether she acted on it or not , for her to even consider having a hall pass just tells
Me she is trying to sugarcoat her true behavior so I will tell her yes let’s go bang someone else , is that’s my answer that it’s over between us period

[thatshydork]

I’d *feel* like giving them a good ol’ bitch slap to the face, but I’d never do that. What I’d actually do is tell them how hurt it makes me feel that they’re already thinking of other people like that and that hall passes in relationships is just cheating and then break up with them.

I’m not going to be the second choice in my own relationship.

[bolverk]

Irrespective to whether I were married to them or not I'd consider it a serious 'Red' flag as they would only want/offer a 'hall pass' if they were already emotionally cheating and were going to make it physical, I reject 'hall pass' and state that if they wanted to do that the marriage/relationship would be over, and the could take their belongings and leave.

[AviatorTom]

I'd be very surprised. Then I would wonder why she wants that, and have a heart to heart discussion with her and whether our relationship is good or not. Depending on how that discussion goes, she might take the ine hall pass... I don't think that I will.

[OlderAndWiser]

I would immediately break up with her. She is obviously wanting to be unfaithful to you and why would you want to be with a girl who would rather be with someone else?

[provokeesmokee]

Break up.

One hall pass? Means he's found a girl he'd like to cheat with, but he's too cowardly to break up with me and date her. So he wants a "guaranteed fallback girl".

I don't date cowards. Let him go and be done with him.

I'll take the perma-hall pass from his ass.

[DermalPunch]

I would realise he isn't that into me, likely already has been emotionally cheating and has a woman he is ready to sleep with lined up. I would probably start winding down the relationship. And the audacity to suggest I should cheat with him for it to be somehow even. Pathetic.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My ex told me that 3 months before break up, I told him I couldn’t use that hall pass and I was extremely hurt he wanted that.

Looking back, I wonder why I didn’t break up with him earlier.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But I think I was trying to understand him because we had over 2 years long sexless long distance relationship.

[Finchie40]

When a relationship turns sexless, that relationship is pretty Much already over in my opinion , especially if the relationship began with a lot of sex and sex was never an issue before . I know some people say otherwise , but I been down that road before to realize that it’s a crock of shit , it’s just excuses selfish people use to conveniently string you along while they are weighing their options , they don’t value you , they like the convenience of you , If I didn’t want sex with a girl I gave my heart to , then what would even be the point of being in a relationship with her? To have a room mate? I want a girl that makes me feel wanted the same way I want to make her feel , a girl that prioritizes me the same way I prioritize her , Sex to me is my way of being closer to her and expressing my love to her , My love language is touch , if I am not receiving physical touch from a girl that says she wants to be committed to me , that says she loves me than that isn’t love, she just loves using me because my wants and needs don’t matter to her period , and she is just stringing me on, When a partner gets to a point where they feel like they are begging for intimacy and affection from their so called partner constantly, it’s time for that partner to walk away and realize they deserve better , they deserve someone that wouldn’t constantly deny them intimacy and affection , When a partner asks for a one time hall pass that partner is already cheating on the relationship whether they acted on it or not , they are just trying to have acceptance for their selfish behavior , kick them to the curb where they belong , you deserve someone that values you and appreciates you the same way you do for them. So if a girl considered having a hall pass with with me , she isn’t the girl for me period , I would let her have her hall pass but she will not being coming back to me period , it was nice knowing you and I hope you find what you are looking for cuz I am not a convenience.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yeah… Sex was never an issue before, we had a nice sex life. But I am sorry, if the pandemic decided to start the moment I took a trip to Georgia.

None of my fault.

I needed sex just the same as he did, actually I wanted it even more, as he was quite fine for a year, me though I was counting days,
1 day without sex, 2 days without sex, 3 days without sex.

For me touching is a big part of love, for me sex means love and love means sex, so I suffered a lot more than he did. Just because he is a man, doesn’t make it any harder for him.

Women, do also have needs. Especially young fertile healthy women!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So just like I waited, just like I directed all my sexual wishes towards him he could also do the same.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I asked him, to please try his best to come, while I was trying to go to him, I was telling him the same, that our relationship would die out eventually without being able to touch.

He said “Let’s wait babe, you know I love you, I know you love me, we can’t oppose the pandemic and whole world. Let’s just be patient. Do you trust me?”

I answered that “I do trust him.”

But so what?

He called me day and night everyday for 2 years until he gave up 3 months before I finally managed going back.

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he was just stinging you along for his convenience while weighing his options , he didn’t love you he loved himself , for a guy to constantly deny his girl sex is a huge red flag period , it’s a sign that he is clearly up to no good cuz when someone actually loves you and cares about you and values you they don’t deny their partner sex for those many days , unless they had some crazy ass medical condition, but other than that , it’s all excuses for their selfish behavior, their selfish decision., And the other thing is if someone doesn’t want to have sex there are plenty of other ways to please your partner period , it does t always have to be about penetration there is so many other things you can do for your partner to fufill them , So when a girl denies me constantly in everything , she to me is a selfish pos that only cares about herself , she doesn’t consider my feelings what so ever , so to me she is already cheating on the relationship if she constantly has lame excuses as to why she doesn’t want to be close to me , So many people are scared to be honest and that’s why so many relationships fail because most people
Can’t be honest , they just sugarcoat their behavior because they are cowards , if a girl wants to go screw someone else then go , set me free so I can find someone that values me and appreciates me the same way I want to do for her , don’t string me along and Dick with my heart because you want to be selfish , that’s the way I look at things and sadly that’s not how I use to look at things until I experienced relationships with girls that are clearly selfish people that only cares about themselves , I don’t want to be with a girl that needs other cocks in her period , if I am not good enough for her then she is not going to be good enough for me period , Go live your selfish life and let me go

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He didn’t dent me sex… He was stuck in another country during pandemic. He didn’t and would never deny me sex. We had a great sex life and he was like a little puppy when we lived together.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

*He never deny me sex, it was physically unable to have sex due to his country’s stupid covid politics not allowing anyone leave or enter for too long.

[Finchie40]

Ok that still isn’t an excuse to go screw someone else , so I take it that’s what he did?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He didn’t, he waited for me for 2 years and then asked me for hall pass. 3 months later we broke up, he broke up with me.

[Finchie40]

Yea asking for a hall pass was his way of trying to sugarcoat is selfish behavior , trust me he was already cheating on you

[Finchie40]

Not sure if you noticed but I inboxed you

[Lyndsielee666]

Dude would get smacked upside his head so hard wtf

[Anonymous]

Wanting to bring someone new into the relationship, either for a “hall pass”, threesome or couple swapping is a sign that they’re bored with you and the love and relationship is dead. Use the extra time to plan your exit and find yourself a better partner before they know what’s happening and try to screw you over somehow.

[Sitaraxx]

As a woman, I'd feel uncomfortable with the fact that my partner WANTS another man to have sex with me. It would make me feel unloved and pimped out

like who wants to date a cuck?

[ProbablyClueless]

I'd be surprised, but probably down. We would need to set ground rules though, like for STD testing and notifying the other when we hook up with the person.

[Finchie40]

Me personally couldn’t do it , I couldn’t be in a relationship with a girl that needed other cock in her just like I wouldn’t expect her to be with me if I needed other vaginas , it’s disrespectful period and what would even be the point of being in a relationship with someone if they couldn’t stay faithful to you or each other , I don’t think I would be happy knowing my girl is going to get plowed by another guy and then come home to me like everything is fine and dandy , Hi baby how was your night did you get fucked good? That’s Great yea the girl I fucked swallowed my cum I was so turned on , So to me it’s dirty and degrading , it’s not love it’s selfish behavior , if someone can’t remove selfishness for you and sacrifice for you then you both have nothing , just convenience

[ProbablyClueless]

It's interesting that you say that, because the thought that it would be a planned out thing didn't cross my mind at all. My thought was that "hall pass" meant you could have forgiveness for one hookup, like if this was someone you met at a party or whatever.

As I wrote that out, I realized how naive that sounded. If a woman is asking for a hall pass, she's obviously not doing that unless she had someone already in mind. Plus, god only knows how she would act if I used my pass lol

[Finchie40]

When I talked to her about it and told her how it made me feel she said Oh I thought that’s what you wanted? Why the fuck would I want to go bang another girl when I clearly have a girl I love having sex with already , so it sounds like you want another cock or you are already jumping on another cock so if that’s the case you need to move on and let me find a girl that doesn’t need anyone else, I didn’t get into a relationship with you to go fuck around so if you want to go fuck around there is the door, don’t let it hit ya in the ass on the way out, Things started to get better again between us until I busted her red handed meeting a co worker at a hotel room , so I kicked her to the curb where she belongs.

[Blinko35]

If she asks this then she probably already done it or she got someone already in mind... It might b ok but the guy she picks has to have a smaller dick than me. But I'm a faithful loyal man so even if she did I probably wouldn't do the same n probably wouldn't be able to look at her the same if I did tho I'd want her there

[Anemone978]

I honestly wouldn't care.. he only has me here as free maid service to cook, clean and watch the kids.. so if he want's to step out he can.. it isn't really gonna change anything between us...

[BrickBiggems]

Id feel like eating someones shoe laces.







Ps: (your welcome)

[Drumlin2001]

I'd be suspicious and I'd assume she has someone in mind all ready.
I'd tell her that I would choose her mum or sister, hope that would put her off

[Miristheiss]

I'd ask who it was she has already F-ed or who it is she already has lined up to F.

Then I'd divorce her.

[Agape93]

Confused. Like babe, do you not remember the agreement? Follow the rules and you can fuck who you want.

[Anonymous]

I'd tell them ok then I'd break up with them. Because clearly they want to be with someone else she may not just fully realize it. And I deserve to be with someone as committed as me. Everybody wins!

[Finchie40]

I agree , it’s already over by her even considering that as a option , the other guy can have her cuz I will find a girl that doesn’t need other dick on her period

[DrKrieger]

The only reason she would ask that is because she already had someone in mind. I'd use that as my cue to leave the relationship

[Drewtate]

Take it but I'd be preparing to leave either then or in the near future.

[lorenzomichael]

I'd be cool with it, and then I'd split. There are too many women in the world who would enjoy being my friend. Besides I'm to shallow to even give a fuck. I'm clearly not the sensitive type.

[Juxtapose]

Only if she includes me directly because frankly? Open relationships are very slanted in women's favor unless they are dating some sort of player or Chad.

[KrakenAttackin]

This is a good indication she is already cheating. Having said that it would depend how I saw her. If she is just a fuck buddy in my mind, than sure. If not, hard pass.

[Anonymous]

That's fine, and something she'd know I was OK with, so long as she's honest about it with me, we don't have a problem.

[Guanfei]

That's a no. She wants to get fucked by someone else?

Well, now she can because she's single.

[Guanfei]

Also, if she asks, she already cheated, or found someone to cheat on you and she will do it whether or not you want it.

[DizzyDesii]

We're breaking up

[Anonymous]

I would much rather he asked for a threesome than a hall pass.

[CuriousScarlet]

Finchie,40, I 100% share your opinion on this matter.

[Flatmanlewis]

We would be done. I’m not open to that.

[exitseven]

I would ask her who is the guy/

[Wonderingguyy]

It would break my heart

[FunkyMonkee]

Are we back in high school, now?

[Anonymous]

i'd tell him to get out of my life.

[Blueeyes81]

That would be the end of the relationship.

[Kacka]

i would let her do so.

[LemiaOfThunder]

whats a hall pass

[Finchie40]

Hall pass is allowing your partner to go screw someone else

[msc545]

Break up

[DextroShade]

It's over.

[jahaims]

I'd say cya