They are scared to get marry because they are scared of a divorce. Western countries statistics show that divorce cases are 40-50% of all marriages. Scary, isn't it? Especially when it comes to splitting finance, children, goods, etc.. And like 5-10 or more years of both lives are wasted.
i only see this phenomenon in western men in my culture it's not the case because usually the girlfriend, boyfriend they have the same economic status the men of course are still expected to be the provider but they won't suspect their girlfriend is a golddigger. they are probably have a lot of datinh experience and so they learn mote on how to pick they don't wanna waste time and energy
men aren't "scared" to be married. even just framing it like that by that choice of words shows massive female narcissism and utter lack of empathy. and it's toxic invalidation of legitimate worries and feelings that men have by gaslighting men into thinking that their carefullness is not warranted. men are rightfully carefull not to get a hasty marriage, cause more often than not, it's half HIS shit that he ends up losing when she decides to divorce him later down the road.
There's a rather large risk for men to lose everything, even with a prenup as they can be thrown out of she has a good enough lawyer. I want a wife and kids, but at this point in life, I don't see it happening and if I do, I'd probably meet a Jekyll and Hyde type of woman that pretends, just to do that very thing later. I'm a pessimist now. I don't see life really getting better, just growing to accept the way things are.
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(25-29)
9 mo
Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of them, and men get screwed in divorce court and child custody settement. How can you NOT see why that is unappealing to today's men?
Emotional attachment leads men to make decisions they'll later regret. It's pure self-preservation.
Sex is easilly available without all the risks and costs associated with marriage and commitment.
I'm not scared of it, I'm just not interested in it. If me and my partner are happy together, we don't need a piece of paper to prove that. Honestly, I don't know that many people over the age of 40 who still care about marriage, it's kinda a dying concept.
I'm not scared of it, I just haven't found most women value-added enough to do that. The ones that brought enough to the table I gladly would have married, but life got in the way. Most don't have enough to offer
Neither I am scared to get married nor I am an unemotional person. I have not found the right women for dating who talks about love, dating, marriage, family and making babies.
All the women I have met or had a chat with talks about only name, fame, money, career, house, car, feminism, patriarchy, refuse to have babies, which are big red 🛑 flags for me.
Sluts ruined everything, it was fine when there was only a few but with the majority of women now thinking Its my body I can do what I want.. well you get all this other baggage with it..
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Anonymous
(25-29)
9 mo
Marriage today does not offer men the same benefits it used to. But if that were the only issue, men wouldn't be as opposed to marriage as they are. The real problem is divorce, which benefits women and hurst men. Half of marriages end in divorce and women are responsible for 80% of them. It shouldn't come as any surprise why men are avoiding marriage. We are all aware of the risks, and the fact that it is a contributng factor in the steep rise in suicide among middle aged men.
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Anonymous
(36-45)
9 mo
Guys aren’t actually afraid of commitment or getting hurt. We just say that to let you down easy. If we say we’re not interested, we might come off as too direct or mean. The problem is that it’s so convincing that women think we’re just walking around all afraid of commitment and think it’s a widespread issue.
I will put it in words you can understand. Would you be afraid to lend a friend $10,000 if you knew there was almost a fifty percent chance that you would never get any of your money back?
There's no benifit to marriage for men. Essentially you're agreeing to a government contract that says you're willing to give half your income and assets away if one day a woman decides she doesn't want to be w/ you anymore.
I've known both Men and Women who were afraid of marriage. Sometimes it was that there parents had a bad marriage or that they had been married already and went through an ugly divorce.
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(30-35)
9 mo
Because there's no one in the world that has f*cked up men's lives more than women. No wonder why they're so afraid of marriage
Depending upon where they live, the divorce laws can be onerous if they have assets and earning potential. As the joke goes, "Instead of getting married, I'm just going to find a woman who hates me and buy her a house."
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They are scared to get marry because they are scared of a divorce. Western countries statistics show that divorce cases are 40-50% of all marriages. Scary, isn't it? Especially when it comes to splitting finance, children, goods, etc.. And like 5-10 or more years of both lives are wasted.
i only see this phenomenon in western men in my culture it's not the case because usually the girlfriend, boyfriend they have the same economic status the men of course are still expected to be the provider but they won't suspect their girlfriend is a golddigger. they are probably have a lot of datinh experience and so they learn mote on how to pick they don't wanna waste time and energy
As for marriage we aren’t scared to get married it’s just we are not stupid enough nowadays to do it.
Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing & when it’s all said & done your house is gone.
@Static_In_The_Attic Well said. :)
@Shiningtempest Thanks & we may be crazy but we are not stupid.
men aren't "scared" to be married. even just framing it like that by that choice of words shows massive female narcissism and utter lack of empathy. and it's toxic invalidation of legitimate worries and feelings that men have by gaslighting men into thinking that their carefullness is not warranted. men are rightfully carefull not to get a hasty marriage, cause more often than not, it's half HIS shit that he ends up losing when she decides to divorce him later down the road.
There's a rather large risk for men to lose everything, even with a prenup as they can be thrown out of she has a good enough lawyer. I want a wife and kids, but at this point in life, I don't see it happening and if I do, I'd probably meet a Jekyll and Hyde type of woman that pretends, just to do that very thing later. I'm a pessimist now. I don't see life really getting better, just growing to accept the way things are.
Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of them, and men get screwed in divorce court and child custody settement. How can you NOT see why that is unappealing to today's men?
Emotional attachment leads men to make decisions they'll later regret. It's pure self-preservation.
Sex is easilly available without all the risks and costs associated with marriage and commitment.
I'm not scared of it, I'm just not interested in it. If me and my partner are happy together, we don't need a piece of paper to prove that.
Honestly, I don't know that many people over the age of 40 who still care about marriage, it's kinda a dying concept.
I'm not scared of it, I just haven't found most women value-added enough to do that. The ones that brought enough to the table I gladly would have married, but life got in the way. Most don't have enough to offer
They are not. I'll demonstrate by using a random guy here in the comments. Maybe two for fun.
@Drewtate and @KrakenAttackin. The first two blue names I see. Is any of you afraid of height?
No not at all
@Drewtate Good. If someone dared you to balance on a beam that's 100 feet off the ground and all you have for balance is that beam. Would you do it?
Ask myself whether I should risk it
@Drewtate And is it a yes or a no?
Depends what is on the other side
@Drewtate Nothing. Just you on a beam 100 feet off the ground.
Neither I am scared to get married nor I am an unemotional person. I have not found the right women for dating who talks about love, dating, marriage, family and making babies.
All the women I have met or had a chat with talks about only name, fame, money, career, house, car, feminism, patriarchy, refuse to have babies, which are big red 🛑 flags for me.
Sluts ruined everything, it was fine when there was only a few but with the majority of women now thinking Its my body I can do what I want.. well you get all this other baggage with it..
Marriage today does not offer men the same benefits it used to. But if that were the only issue, men wouldn't be as opposed to marriage as they are. The real problem is divorce, which benefits women and hurst men. Half of marriages end in divorce and women are responsible for 80% of them. It shouldn't come as any surprise why men are avoiding marriage. We are all aware of the risks, and the fact that it is a contributng factor in the steep rise in suicide among middle aged men.
Guys aren’t actually afraid of commitment or getting hurt. We just say that to let you down easy. If we say we’re not interested, we might come off as too direct or mean. The problem is that it’s so convincing that women think we’re just walking around all afraid of commitment and think it’s a widespread issue.
I will put it in words you can understand. Would you be afraid to lend a friend $10,000 if you knew there was almost a fifty percent chance that you would never get any of your money back?
There's no benifit to marriage for men. Essentially you're agreeing to a government contract that says you're willing to give half your income and assets away if one day a woman decides she doesn't want to be w/ you anymore.
I've known both Men and Women who were afraid of marriage. Sometimes it was that there parents had a bad marriage or that they had been married already and went through an ugly divorce.
Because there's no one in the world that has f*cked up men's lives more than women. No wonder why they're so afraid of marriage
Men aren't, just certain kinds of men. Typically they come from a broken families or have weak family bonds and low morals.
Because women have too much trauma
men aren’t dumb we can tell when you don’t trust us
why would I commit to someone who isn’t wide open for me
that marriage would just be a time bomb
Depending upon where they live, the divorce laws can be onerous if they have assets and earning potential. As the joke goes, "Instead of getting married, I'm just going to find a woman who hates me and buy her a house."