There is NOTHING controlling about wanting your partner to show some decency and modesty in public.
Setting boundaries is not the same as being controlling.
No self-respecting person with values would want to be with someone who advertises themselves to the world like they are single.
What makes something controlling is how you act on it. Are you demanding something against the other person's will? Then yes, that's controlling. Are you setting boundaries because it goes against your values and expect your partner to respect those boundaries? That's not controlling. That's called having standards and boundaries.
Many women guilt-trip and shame men who do not tolerate provocative clothing, because they simply want to have their cake and eat it too. They want the benefits of having a relationship while simultaneously fish for validation from the external world.
What's funny is that when my significant other walks around in her vintage dresses, she almost always gets at least one compliment from strangers and ALWAYS manages to turn heads. Whereas the women around us wearing croptops and bootyshorts don't.
Ladies, showing skin is not the only way to impress someone.
Firstly we mostly don't dress up to impress someone
And second why are you assuming that if I dress a certain way I am trying to say that I am single? With that logic let me wear a vacation outfit at work and that should make me get a leave or walk in a random company wearing official wear and they can assume I wanna be CEO
Honestly it comes down to the woman and if she is talking to someone as if she is single
Not her clothes
Amen @TruthBringer
@Peanutbutter1221 Women dress mostly for women. Not to attract women, but to COMPETE. For whom are you competing? For MEN. That's on a deep unconscious level that is. This whole "I dress for me" is a half-truth women love to resort to. You do it for yourself, but you have to do it through others to feel confident. Confidence is reinforcement. When you know you look good for others, that's when you start feeling good about what you're wearing.
"why are you assuming that if I dress a certain way I am trying to say that I am single?"
That's you putting words in my mouth. Women who dress provocatively are communicating to others the possibility of being single. YOU may not want to communicate that, but that's how the world will perceive you. A faithful woman in a monogamous relationship has no business make the world think she is single by showing more skin than she should.
Does that mean you should wear your work outfit on a vacation? No. That strawman argument isn't getting you anywhere. You can wear anything that is more decent other than pop out your cleavage and half of your booty cheeks. I literally showed an example above. You're trying to tell me that the whole fashion industry aimed at women, you can't find yourself a decent dress or a skirt? Give me a break.
"it comes down to the woman and if she is talking to someone as if she is single
Not her clothes"
WRONG. If that were the case, then you should be able to go to a job interview wearing your pajamas. Because it is about what you do and say on that interview, right? That's not how the world work. What we wear is how we project ourselves out to the world. If you wear something respectable, you're going to be perceived as more respectable. Walk around dressed as as stripper, people will perceive AND treat you as one. Clothes say A LOT about someone and their intentions. Hence why you don't go to a job interview wearing your pajamas.
I disagree with you
I don't dress to compete with any woman
I dress the way I dress because I want to wear that for myself
Last I checked, man makes clothes but clothes don't make man
being judged based on what I am wearing is a very trash mentality
I've seen doctors who have saved lives on beaches where they were in bikinis and their quality didn't drop
Why are you sexualizing a woman's body?
I don't see you men having a discussion on your dressing or even care of how another woman perceives it
@Peanutbutter1221 Just because YOU don't dress to compete with any woman, doesn't mean the rest don't either. This is a well known fact. Women trying to impress and outcompete each other on an unconscious level. You can disagree all you want, but it's not going to change the facts. And neither will exceptions (you) override the rule.
"man makes clothes but clothes don't make man"
Clothes don't make a man, but it most definitely is an integral part in the way perceive said man. Like I said, you go to a job interview wearing something professional and not your PJs. You go to a wedding dressed nicely because it shows respect for the ones who are getting married rather than wearing flip flops.
You may not like the mentality of the way people get judged by their clothes, but that's how the world works. You can deny or disagree with it all you like, but it won't change anything.
"I've seen doctors who have saved lives on beaches where they were in bikinis and their quality didn't drop"
This has NOTHING to do with what we are discussing here. You are resorting to baseless strawman arguments that hold no relevance whatsoever. I never claimed that clothes make someone's personality or dictate their skills. I said, it serves to help society perceive you in certain ways. That doctor who is saving a life at the beach is not going to wear a bikini in a hospital. And neither did they wear one when they applied for their position as Doctor.
I am not sexualizing a woman's body. That's what YOU women are doing. You are sexualizing yourselves. You are deliberately wearing sexually appealing clothing because you want to show off your sex-appeal. So you don't get the right to sit here complain about men sexualizing you when you yourself are wearing almost see-through leggings (or bootyshorts so small your cheeks are bouncing out) and your breasts sticking out just above your areola.
@Peanutbutter1221 The only women who have the right to complain about sexualization are the women who wear decent and modest clothing.
"I don't see you men having a discussion on your dressing or even care of how another woman perceives it"
Because you're not a man and never have been part of a male-space. I've seen plenty of men advice each other to wear sharp clothes that fit their bodies and tell each other to hit the gym.
Your arguments are flawed at their core. Sorry miss, you failed.
And what makes you think you know women and what they are doing in their unconscious
You are a man who thinks he knows women inside out and better than they know themselves
I know many women and never have I heard of such a competition... it definitely would have come out one way or another but I've never seen it come out
I see men's areola all the time, on television or in real life, why are they allowed to show their nipples yet for a woman it's a crime?
Your only counterback to my arguments are that they are baseless and that's no proper counter
You are the one hanging on straws
Bold of you to assume I've never been in a man space
If clothes don't make up personality then why judge people based on them, you are contradicting yourself
You are the one assuming you know a sex so well you aren't even a part of and that's the problem
And yes you are the one sexualizing us because you have a problem with the way we dress because it gives you sexual thoughts, what men need is to change their mentality not women to change their dressing
And by the way I do dress quite decent and that's what I am comfortable in and still feel sexy in
And that doesn't mean so should the next woman and that's why I am here coz she has a right to dress the way she wants
And if she is hit on, it comes down to what she says and not what she dresses as
Because as decent as I dress up, mind you literally in pjs all day at work and very highly regarded at my work place, I get hit on a lot, and I say no
Just because you are insecure and feel like if your girl dresses a certain way and assume she is hit on more... and you are so scared she will go with another man... it comes down to trust in that relationship
I've seen men with ladies who dress really sexy and they trust their partner and are in a very loving relationship and the man never tells the lady how to dress and respects her choice and trusts her not to do anything wrong
This is the way the world works... right
there was a time women Couldn't work and that's just how the world worked
There was a time (sadly still is) men couldn't show emotions coz it's a sign of weakness because that's just how the world works
Young girls are having their genitals mutilated because that's just how the world works
Men being raped can't happen because that's just how the world works
Marital rape happens because that's just how the world works
A rape victim being treated like a criminal (the only crime where this happens) and that's how the world works
My point is that just because that's how the world works doesn't make it right
This isn't a perfect world
And that starts by people changing their mentalities and stop seeing women as sexual objects and see past the physical (but sadly most men are blindsided and can't see a woman for more than a sex object)
The issue lies with men and not trying to boss over women and how they should dress... because all this talk and I only see how you talk about how the way a woman dresses affects your perception of her... its you who is sexualizing her based on her appearance... not her...
You aren't a woman
Your opinion is invalid
Period
@Peanutbutter1221 I know women because I have been surrounded by women all my life. I am also dating one and also stay informed by research. Research has shown that women dress to impress other women. Whereas you’re just denying arguments at your own convenience. Just because I am not a woman, doesn’t mean I am not aware of how they operate in this world. So nice try, missy.
The competition is not an actual conscious competition. This goes to show you know nothing of what I’m talking about because you’re not informed. It is a SUBSCONSCIOUS competition between women. Hence why women are VERY attentive when it comes to what other women wear and look. This is why women are influenced THE MOST by Instagram models or any other fashion/beautystandard models.
“I see men's areola all the time, on television or in real life, why are they allowed to show their nipples yet for a woman it's a crime?”
This has nothing to do with what we are discussing. We are discussing whether women dress for other women or not. Which you deny because YOU don’t resonate with what I’m saying. Whereas that is true for many other women out there in the world.
theconversation.com/how-women-dress-for-other-women-130573
You claim I am hanging on straws. I dare you to point them out. Calling out logical fallacies without properly pointing out where the fallacy occurred is funny enough a fallacy fallacy.
If you truly were in a man’s space, then you would know that men aren’t obsessed with wardrobe. They are obsessed with their interests and muscles at best.
Just because you dress modestly, doesn’t mean you won’t get hit on. It means you will get hit on less than when you walk around dressed like an escort. My woman never dresses provocatively in public and she still gets cat-called from time to time or approached. That’s the sad reality of being a woman. That still doesn’t mean you will get hit on as much as a woman who dresses provocatively. There are social experiments done on that.
@Peanutbutter1221 “Just because you’re insecure and feel like your girl dresses a certain way and assume she is hit on more”
Ladies and gentlemen. This is what we call an ad hominem logical fallacy. You turned the argument against me as a mean to discredit what I say. Alas, attacking me personally, claiming I lack self-esteem in regard to my woman, is not a valid argument. It only goes to show you have no valid arguments yourself. Nobody here is insecure, missy. I am a man who has values and principles. I don’t date women who walk around dressed like they are single and expect me to still commit to them. I commit to women who respect herself, the relationship, and her man (me) enough to not ‘stand out’ in a more sexually open way, insinuating to the world she is available. But of course, you wouldn’t know anything about that given your shallow black-white binary thinking. So any man who has an issue with his woman showing off more skin than she should is “insecure” to you? Thanks for proving your ignorant world views.
Just because there are men out there who allow their women to dress provocatively, doesn’t mean other men should do as well. It means certain men have different values and standards than other men. My woman never dresses sexy UNLESS she is with me. We do it plenty of times when we travel to a warm environment or when we go out on a date. At times she wears her vintage “princess” dresses, other times she wears tight dresses showing her curves. That’s when she is with me. Because she wears them FOR ME.
@Peanutbutter1221
Your second reply is full of red herring fallacies such as female genitalia mutilations and not being able to work. So I’m not going to bother engage in any of those. They are diverting away from the actual topic here. So your arguments are hereby dismissed. Either stick to the topic, or make yourself out.
"you aren't a woman so your opinion is invalid"
Good to know you are a sexist.
The only one who is making invalid statements is none other than yourself. Your arguments are flawed to their core, factually incorrect in contrast to research, and your whole premise is sexist
Why are you even in a position of allowing a woman anything
It's not a personal attack, most men are insecure because they barely deal with their emotions so they haven't processed a lot
You are the one who started with I am not a man and haven't been in a man space to understand how men treat each other
I just used your own argument on you
I am not moving away from the topic (those examples were to prove a point that just coz something happens doesn't make it right)
But the issue isn't even women's clothing but the need to control them altogether
As you said you wouldn't ALLOW your woman to dress a certain way
Why does she need your permission
and there is no issue with wanting to be with a woman who dresses more decently, we all have things we want
But don't go slandering women who don't meet your expectations like they are purposefully doing that to get something out of it
Also disclaimer I had no intention to attack you personally
I tend to use you generally when I am talking and that's probably where you felt like I was attacking you
But it was a general term for me
And yet you constantly just come and say what I am saying isn't right or is baseless but don't have any proper counters for me like I do for you
So instead of constantly telling me that my argument is baseless
Why don't you give me a proper counter first
@Peanutbutter1221 Missy, I did not bother read a thing you wrote. The moment you started resort to ad hominem approaches you lost my interest in having an actual meaningful discussion. It's one thing to disagree and another to just flat out deny and start to point fingers calling people insecure. That IS a personal attack.
I've gauged your arguing skills and they don't look promising. You failed to debunk a thing I have said (even while I have given you a source to read) and I doubt you will manage to. So best for you to go on your way.
It's one thing to tell you that you're not informed about a man's spaces and a whole other thing to tell me that my opinions don't matter when it comes to female topics because I am a man. That's what we call SEXISM and is an ad hominem fallacy.
I don't need to counter anything you said because you've not given any arguments of substance. Just "I am not like this" (sample error which leads to a faulty generalization) and "you're not a woman so you can't speak on women's things".
You've officially bored me.
There is only one real reason people dress provocatively and it’s not about “confidence”. No it’s for attention. I don’t care what bullshit excuse women spin up on that. But for one way or another it’s for attention.
Maybe some guys don’t care (or at least pretend not to). At best they are confident that their provocatively dressed girlfriend/wife will always come home to him. Maybe she can tease other men and he can take pride she stays with him regardless. But this is only the best case scenario.
I remember a girl I dated dressed up as tomb raider for Halloween and she had on skin tight shorts that showed her nice butt off. I was also was dressed up as Indiana Jones and my costume shirt left my athletic chest very exposed. But she made out with me all night in front of people at the bar we hit up. It was a once a year thing. Other guys definitely noticed. I over heard a random guy ask her “oh wow tomb raider!” but he was respectful/smart enough not to go further. She made it quite obvious she was happily taken by kissing me every second she got. That was okay. Special occasion.
However many women dress provocatively regardless of the occasion. And if they are doing this for attention it’s not for attention from their own boyfriend/husband. She doesn’t have any not respect for him. That is the doorway way to cheating.
And what about you dressing in a way that would entice other women? Is that too not grounds for cheating?
I honestly don't get how this assumption is made
Last I checked it doesn't matter what I wear, i am always hit on...
If I wanna look sexy for myself and sometimes maybe for my partner then I'll dress sexy
But if a man approaches me, it's a simple no that I need to say and he can go his way
@Peanutbutter1221 you not “forced” to do anything you want or don’t want to. You also have a right to opinion. But all this “I dress that way for confidence” is bullshit. I don’t buy it. It’s about attention. Even if you don’t realize it and it’s subconscious it’s still about attention. That’s my opinion. I have right to it as much as you have a right to yours.
But to your point about “being hit on when I dress normally”. Well it’s funny that I noticed that women who dress provocatively act extra defensive when a man they are not interested in approaches them. I recall this happening back when I was younger when I went to clubs with my friends. However they still want to be noticed for sure. But there is a bit of hypocrisy that they get even more bitchy when they are approached by men they aren’t interested in.
So ironically I actually am less likely to approach women who are provocatively dressed. Figured that out a long time ago.
Now I’m predicting you are not going to like my response and follow up with some sort of personal insult. Remember I am criticizing your opinion. Doesn’t mean I am labeling you as a person.
And the way I dressed up that particularly night was a Halloween costume being Indiana Jones. My then girlfriend was also provocatively dressed. But we dressed that way for each other.
Women aren’t as turned on with men who are provocatively dressed anyway. They are actually more turned on by a guy who dresses sharp (like a uniform or a business suit). But it’s not an apples to apples comparison.
Definitely you have a right to your opinion
and people are different
but I still don't agree with you
Being a girl, I can guarantee you it's not only a business suit that turns on a woman, actually personally that's rarely a turn on for me
Most girls just aren't very vocal about who they are into from what I see
@Peanutbutter1221 “ Most girls just aren't very vocal about who they are into from what I see”
I actually completely agree with you on that point. But if women were as turned on by provocatively dressed men as vice versa then there would be a lot more IG and OF male models targeting women.
But there aren’t because women aren’t that visual. It’s only sparks their curiosity but it takes a whole lot more.
Perhaps it's because again women aren't as vocal so the industry decided to tackle the obvious win
Plus I could say men get blind sided very easily hence the easy target for these industries
@Peanutbutter1221 I agree about men being blindsided.
I think that the best is to get with a partner who shares your values initially and isn't the type to dress provocatively already. Doing that is applying your boundaries. You can't go for someone who dresses like that because that's what you're attracted to but then come around and tell them to stop doing it. That's controlling. I know that men think that women dress provocatively to get a man so they should stop once they get one, but some women just like their bodies and enjoy being pretty and sexy. If you're more modest get with a modest partner. It sounds like that thing where men want the whore and the virgin at the same time, I don't remember how the phrasing was exactly but it's so accurate with what men do it's crazy.
Personally I wouldn't like to be with someone who dress in a sexual attention grabbing way and I wouldn't pursue this type of people even if I can see they are attractive. If that's what you find attractive just get more confident so you can handle it instead of trying to crush them.
this is the right answer
As a female. I think having my partner have an opinion on what I wear is the most attractive thing in the world. Every female is different but I love the feeling and personally find it sexy being someone's girl. That sense of intimate belonging and knowing that my man views me as "his" is beyond sexy to me.
Obviously, though everyone's upbringing is different----- personally as someone who had very absent men in my life that never wanted me, I find this attractive. A woman who is more feminist however may not like the idea of "belonging" to anyone.
If my man came to me respectfully and asked me not to wear something provocative because he wants that saved for him and doesn't want others looking at me. Personally, I would find it attractive. Like holy crap he cares enough to have an opinion. As long as it was within reason and wasn't ridiculous expectations I would dress out of respect to him.
It's all in how you say things and if you can explain yourself well...
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Its very controlling. Everyone should be able to dress how they want to regardless of what their partner or anyone else thinks
@Billlewis if squirt all in my lingerie and make you wear that
Of course. I'd wear absolutely anything you ordered me to wear, whether we're in public or behind closed doors, and if you wanted to make me dress in a sissy maid's uniform and serve you and your girlfriends, I would do so without the slightest hesitation, because I know that you are totally and completely superior to me in every way, and that I'm not worthy even to kiss your luscious feet. me
Not if you really respect your partner.
u Whether it is controlling depends upon the extent to which you go to try to force your partner to follow your judgment on that issue.
It depends on the context.
For example, let’s flip this, and use another comparison.
It’s one thing for a girl to say to a guy, “I don’t date guys that drink alcohol.”
That’s fine. Those are her own standards, and she can stick by them. If a guy is an alcohol drinker and wants to be with her, he’ll need to let alcohol go. Those are her own standards and requirements she has set BEFORE getting into a relationship.
Now, if she’s already in a relationship, and has not set this expectation, and then she says, “You’re not allowed to drink.” Now, she’s imposing a new rule on him that he never agreed to.
In conclusion, if you’ve set proper expectations and agreed on it prior, it’s completely fine to set expectations like this.
If you are enforcing rules and expectations that you’ve never agreed upon, NOW it’s going to feel controlling.
Officially, no. I'm focusing on the fact that you said "not wanting" and not any variant of the word "forbid."
Every person is entitled to what they perceive as acceptable or not when it comes to things like how their partner dresses. To some, it may seem shallow, and that's ok.
However it's of upmost importance that
A.) Your partner is well aware of your feelings
B.) That they consent to them
The absence of these 2 things is a recipe for drama.
On the other side of that coin is outright forbidding your partner to dress how they see for. That is controlling.
I think if you’re going to date or marry someone you should go for someone with similar values in how you think and present yourself. If a girl dressed provocatively before meeting you’re kind of signing up for that to be honest. Having boundaries isn’t a bad thing and it’s okay to voice your opinion, but you also can’t expect someone to completely present themselves a different way either. I dress pretty similarly to how I did prior to getting in a relationship but I do tone it down a little bit. If my significant other tried to change how I presented myself I would have a problem with it as it wasn’t a problem previously but he also wouldn’t have dated me either if he didn’t like the way I presented myself
I think it depends on communication and the way you talk about it with them. But I think it´s something that should be settled while dating because your choice of clothes is a picture of your choice of values. So why be in a relationship with someone that has different values.
I also think it should be something both talk about so that both perspectives are heard. It´s nothing a guy can make a woman do but a woman can´t make a guy not look at other women while out. Something I think both wouldn´t do if they it is an emotional healthy relationship where have a monogamous mindset and trust each other.
For me it's a question of when the rules got set. It's controlling if the guy is trying to change things up after the relationship gets started. If they start dating with one set of boundaries that he's trying to change with emotional blackmail; that's not cool.
If he's very clear about his expectations from the outset of the relationship and says "hey, this is what I expect; here are my lines," then she knows what she's getting into. It doesn't matter if it's strict or not. If she agreed to it, then she agreed to it. She doesn't get to hear his expectations, agree to them, and then get pissed that he's not going to continue dating her if she goes on to do whatever she wants to do.
If a guy doesn't want you to dress provocatively, it means nothing other than the fact he is afraid of losing you to another guy. It has nothing to do with "morals and values". Girls walk out with cleavage showing, tight jeans all the time. there's nothing abnormal or against morals to dress this way.
I think your partner should respect your feelings.
If a wife/girlfriend chooses to wear provocative clothing, then a man should be allowed to do whatever he wants to make her insecure.
But at the same time if a man is with a woman who wears provocative clothing and he is uncomfortable with it, then he doesn’t need to be with her.
If he marries a woman who started out dressing respectfully and she begins to invite other men’s attention, that then becomes disrespectful.
This is a case of someone settling for someone that doesn't fit their relationship standards.
If someone is dressing provocative while dating you, they were most likely doing so when you started dating them.
Instead of finding someone who doesn't fit your dating requirements and trying to change them, find someone who already fits it.
Now there is no need to try to change how they dress.
How I dress to go out in public directly reflects onto my partner, and how my partner is seen. I have a lot of admiration, love and respect for my partner, therefore if I go out, I'm not going to go out look like shit. I want him to feel proud to have me on my arm.
He can give me suggestions on how to dress, what to wear, and I will take that into consideration when dressing.
Besides even if I did dress provocatively, it wouldn't matter cause he can fight 😄😄🤣
It's definitely not controlling. Some people need to learn some class and learn that seeing less skin is more hot. I can understand being single n flaunting your shit but once you have someone cover up and stop flaunting for others.
Truth!
I think it’s fine to do. It just gets weird when I guy goes for the girl that dresses a certain way then wants her to change later. It is better to find a gurl that already fits what you’re looking for than think you can change who she is once she is hooked on you.
My girlfriend can wear whatever she wants. Will she ask for my opinion, yes she will. Do i give her constructive criticism, yes I will. Does she get mad, no. Bc im telling her the truth and not what she wants to hear. Will she be disappointed, of course.
But I will not stop her from wearing what she wants to wear.
It’s called natural protective jealousy that is meant to be in a man’s innate nature. The fact that the West has killed it in some men is dangerous.
You shouldn't have to ever have this discussion if you 1) took a good amout of time qualifying her relationship potential before you ever agreed to exclusively. 2) you knew she wouldn't get you to be exclusive if she did this before so she knows not to now, and 3) being she has to respect you for her to actually want to control herself to be the woman you want
only a want? not controlling, i see some people having their own boundaries. Forcing it to their girlfriend? yes yes yes, it’s controlling and possessive
Couldn't care less if someone thinks it's "controlling". I have standards and so should the woman I am with.
Would never be with a sleeveen that walks around half naked in the first place.
Women here calling men "controlling" are just trying to shame men for having standards and not wanting to date someone dressing like a slut. It really annoys them that men have self-respect and aren't willing to settle for any less than they deserve.
These women just want to act with literally 0 consequences to their actions. The thought of their actions biting them down the line really scares them. They expect any man worth his salt to just deal with their nonsense regardless of what they do or how they dress. The sheer entitlement and narcissism is beyond comprehension.
Extremely Controlling... Red Flag... The End.
Depends if she is just trying to feel good about herself, or maybe she's trying to impress you?
If she's dressing Provocative AND playing the part with other guys, then it's another story.
I used to date a model when I was 19 (I was still a boy not a man) and hated going out with every guys attention on her. In your 30s having a girl with you, dressed provokatively, you're boss!
Expecting your partner to change how they dress based on your own "morals" or whatever you called it, is controlling.
If you don't want to date someone who dresses provocatively, ... then don't date someone who does that.
It is very controlling. People like that don't deserve to be in relationships.
@Nikki1989 Irony, smirony.
I would never try to tell a woman what she should wear in public.
@Apple1996 I'd be much more accommodating if she told me what she wants me to wear when I'm with her, both publicly and privately.
i've had many boyfriends tell me they only want me to wear shortskirts and short dresses... i didn't see it as controlling so much but how they would like me to dress for them
Wanting anything isn't controlling. I want everybody here to send me half a dollar a month. It's controlling when I hack their computer and make them do it.
It's controlling, as trying to lock down someone's free expression is wrong. In fact it took me forever to realize I was subject to this. Being told should dress ike this and that, but my mind wanted something else.
Standards... but you also shouldn't date someone who dresses provocatively and expect them to change when you start dating that is not right either lol
She can dress any way she wants. But if she's going to dress like a slut she won't be with me. That's not controlling, it's my preference. If it's not for her fine, that's her business. But then she's also not for me, that's my business.
If I had a girlfriend or wife, I would not want her going out with her friends dressed up like she's fishing for stray dicks. If she wants to dress like a prostitute when we're out together, that's fine with me.
I'm leaning on the 2nd choice but it can also be both, depending on the disapproving individual.
What nonsense, men cannot control their wives, even less than women can control their husbands.
It's 100% controlling. It may be be based on your values and morals and standards but those aren't universal and, in the end, it's still controlling.
It's not controlling at all. It just is what it is. She needs to find a new man that likes her being provocative
https://www.youtube.com/embed/23i6ePHpZ0s When women dress provocatively they are advertising themselves and soliciting attention from men, both of which are unacceptable if she's in a relationship. The only time she can dress like that is if she is with her man.
It's controlling. If you don't like the way she dresses why are you dating her?
Controlling of course
I think standards and morals would be helpful for people who stare and judge
If she’s going to keep advertising herself while she’s with me, then it’s probably not a very good indicator for the future of the relationship.
There is a difference between not wanting and insisting.
Not wanting is just expressing an opinion. Insisting is controlling.
Controlling is easily mixed up with jealousy.
its prefered tbh. It means he protects me hense he loves me
its called having morals. I dont want any s/o of mines representing herself like a prostitute while she is committed to me
i think that's a choice you are entiteled to. if they wanna dress provocatively in public, nobody forces them to be your partner...
There is always a time and a place for the right clothes. Everyone has opinions on what provocative means. Everyone draws the lines in different places.
Controlling is an extreme.
Totally depends on context. Too subjective. Could be either.
It would be controlling. I let her dress how she wants and never judge.
its having morals, you shouldn't dress like that when not on the market, she owes you some respect
You’d just have to change partners lol or not be with a woman who doesn't have the same values in the first place.
Your partner should listen in u don't want them 2 dress provocatively in public.
if you allow this, you rea definitely a cuck
You can have standards for your spouse but they don’t have to follow them.
100% fine. Just pick beforehand so you don’t have to change her and save the trouble
it’s controlling.
It's controlling.
Yes it is controlling
I am safe, i don't have such women in my life.
Controlling
No that's normal
It depends on how
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