Girlfriend freaked out about givingme her key?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend of a year has asked for her key back and has become very upset about her decision to give me her key to her house.

I had not asked for it and only had it for about two weeks. I was out traveling for those two weeks as well. When we talked she said she felt she had lost her last safe place by giving that to me.

I'm incredibly confused since I have always strived to give her a healthy and safe relationship. I was also very surprised to get her key in the first place. Since I knew how important her house is to her mental safety.

[provokeesmokee]

Some folks view their home as their own space, and that's their right.

If you think that respecting her wish to have her own space isn't something you can do, it's ok to break up with her.

She deserves someone who will respect that the place she pays for and maintains stays hers, and you deserve someone who meets your expectations (unless your expectations are weird).

It's entirely possible she has factors she's not told you about that make her protective of her space. But it's up to her if she tells you about them.

Give the key back, without issues, and you can have a serious chat with her about your concerns.

[Asker]

I think you might have misunderstood. Also to clarify I did give the key back. My confusion comes from that I didn't ask for it and I haven't expected any right to her space.

She literally gave me her extra keys and and two weeks later asked for them back. Literally nothing had changed in between us in those two weeks and I hadn't even been in town as well.

[Anonymous]

She tried something, perhaps inadvisably, and cannot live with it. I guess give her the key back, don't make a thing of it, all perfectly normal and see if she settles down again.
Sounds like this one is a little tender and you need to tread carefully.