Is sharing your girlfriend good or bad? Are open relationships okay for you?

Question

What do you think about open relationships?

expet · Accepted Answer

Relationships are like fingerprints. No two are the same. What works for one couple might be a complete disaster for another. Open relationships aren't any different; they're not universally good or bad, but they can be either depending on the people involved and how it's managed.

I've got a friend who's in an open relationship, and they're super happy. For them, it's all about trust, open communication, and being honest about their needs. They've got rules and boundaries, and they stick to 'em. For them, being in an open relationship doesn't mean they love each other any less; it's more like they love each other enough to be honest about wanting different experiences. So yeah, for them, sharing is definitely caring.

But I also know it's not everyone's cup of tea. Some people thrive on exclusivity; for them, the emotional connection deepens when it's just between two people. I get it. The thought of sharing your significant other can make you feel insecure or just plain uncomfortable. And that's perfectly okay. If it doesn't sit right with you, then it's not gonna be a good experience. Simple as that.

As for me, could I see myself in an open relationship? Hmm, that's a tough one. I'm kind of a traditionalist when it comes to relationships, so the idea takes some getting used to. But hey, never say never, right? If both parties are mature about it, who knows, it might actually work out for the best.

I guess the bottom line is that there's no one-size-fits-all answer here. If you're thinking about an open relationship, the key is to be brutally honest with yourself and your partner. Talk it out, set boundaries, maybe even test the waters before diving in. And if you find out it's not for you, that's cool. At least you gave it some thought and had an open conversation about it.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

It’s not for me and it’s not for everyone.

It’s kinda like getting your need for companionship from your significant other, but then satisfying your sexual needs through other people.

(Which sounds awfully similar to just a platonic friendship.)

When I put it that way, it just sounds like 2 people that are together but aren’t actually that attracted to each other and are better off as just friends.

For a completely open relationship, where you are just going off on your own and sleeping with other people, it really begs the question of, “Why are you even together in the first place?”

I don’t think there’s much of a point to be in an open relationship if you’re just going to act like you’re single.

It’s like being single without being technically single—so why not just be single?

I guess it’s for people who want to sleep around a lot but not feel lonely when they come home at night.

It’s almost like a way to counteract the loneliness of hookup culture.

But, then you’re just sort of using your significant other as a source of comfort, rather than truly loving them for them.

Which is sort of like a sexless marriage, but before marriage, and your spouse lets you cheat.

It doesn’t sound intimate or romantic at all.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Here is thing about open relationships... as the man you better be prepared that if this woman really wants an open relationship, she is going to get laid twice as much as you. So, it all depends on if your ego can take that type of hit.

Better option would be to turn to be a swinger together and hook up with other swingers. So, you can make it a couple's event.

Then of course at some point some other guy is going to come long and really make her thing about it. Because guys will hit average looking woman, but woman in open relationship 80% of the time class up. I mean that is because she is not asking for a relationship, so she can start bagging 10/10 type guys just for sex, even if she is only 7. Were as you might be a 7, but you are not bagging 10/10s if you're in open relationship. You might have some fun landing some other guys leftovers.

But woman ca n go online and have her dance card filled for months in a single day.

So you tell me if you think this a good situation?

I know guys that honestly married down, because she was the baby mamma, and the guy even told me he married her on purpose, because she would never leave him. and if she wanted to fuck around who cares.

WiccanLady2023 · Accepted Answer

Open relationships = an excuse for cheating

The term "open" relationships originated with cheaters who wanted an excuse. A means to lessen guilt, avoid issues (such as conflict by saying partner "agreed"), etc.

From the start there was nothing respectful or healthy about the concept.

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More often than not "open" relationships involve someone who wants to cheat and someone who is a doormat - believing they can't get better than loser - that says sure.

You google "open" relationships from a psychological standpoint and there are numerous websites recounting the damning effects that this foul corrupt idea has.

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On a rare occasion you'll find both people are gunho about an "open" relationship but then they don't have any respect for themselves or each other & should just break up.

Chevy1_kb · Accepted Answer

open relashionships not good for me if i have a relashionship i want him to love me and sleep with me only me not a muff diver in every pussy he sees like a scum bag no just me and him no other women or no other men involved to me thats piss taking i like proper love now riding every pussy or cocker both see

OlderAndWiser · Answer

An open "relationship" is not relationship, but just an agreement to be sexual partners for an indefinite length of time. No, not for me.

Anonymous · Answer

To answer the question, I'd be fine with it under the right circumstances. You can start with the cuck calling now, all you big tough guys who will claim "I've never cheated on my partner and never will". Half of you are full of shit.

I enjoy reading the rampant misinformation and misconceptions that people have who dislike the idea of an open relationship. They love to say "it's not for me" for the following reasons, but then proceed to tell you why it shouldn't be for you either because their reasons are proof positive, and that's how it is. I'd wager that less than 5% of them even know anyone in an open relationship, let alone have spoken with them in earnest to understand their lifestyle.

I have little respect for those who immediately assume that there's no self or mutual respect in an open relationship, that it's unhealthy from the start, that the people are all toxic, that they can't be trusted, that they're insecure, and blah, blah, blah. This is what you say when you don't understand a thing but think you do and have no experience with anyone who does. It's a projection based on your personal moral code, as if yours if the gold standard.

I know people in open relationships that have outlasted the average marriage. I know people in open relationships that have outlasted the average dating couples before they break up, usually because one or both partners' cheat. The most common misconception is that open relationships are a sex fest every single night with a different person, all of whom are random, high-risk individuals. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, the people I know who are in them are FAR more honest with each other and FAR safer than the vast majority of other people in non-open relationships, because they've nothing sexual to hide.

Miristheiss · Answer

Perverse.

They always end badly.

You don't really love your mate if you'll share them sexually.

Signs of a failed, corrupt culture. This is just another sign on top of all of the porn produced by this society, all the girls rushing to onlyfans to be whores, all the drug use and drug addiction, all the fatherless children, all the shootings and crime and homelessness.

Ok for me? I'd divorce my wife is she told me she wanted me to ok her F'ing other people. She's probably already sneaking and doing it anyway if she wants someone this bad... she just wants to make it "legal".

Guido · Answer

My wife has shared me with other women. I will tell you there is nothing sexier then when your eating another woman pussy and she's moaning in pleasure and your wife says, "I told you he was good at eating pussy."
Talk about an ego boost and the other woman was in agreement as when I was done and asked her what she wanted, all she could do was point to my tongue and say more of that.
Also having your wife hold your dick up for another woman to sit down on is pretty flattering as well.
The thing that turned me on the most is that when we played with another woman, my wife's pussy was dripping like a leaky faucet and she is 100% straight. It just turned her on to see me with someone else.

inhua · Answer

while people are free to do what they choose, sharing your girlfriend is bad

the reason it is bad is because it normalizes cuckoldry

and the more cuckoldry gets normalized the more people will mistaken cases of actual cheating as cases of cuckoldry

therefore this means when a man gets cheated on, nobody will believe him because society will assume he's just engaging in cuckoldry

Finchie40 · Answer

I don’t consider it a relationship to be honest , it’s just 2 selfish people using each other for sex while keeping their options opened to meet someone else , or to screw others as well, if you can’t stay loyal and faithful to someone then it’s nothing, it’s just a friend with benefits for the most part. You can care about someone and like someone but you aren’t in love with that person , because of you were in love you wouldn’t be screwing other people period

aaron210419 · Answer

I say do whatever you and your partner agree on. Personally, I could never "share" my girlfriend. Regardless of what the "vibe" seems to be these days it's not only degrading to you but also to your partner, and even if she doesn't admit it, subconscious she loses respect for you as a man. Also, I value the intimacy of being the only person that gets to see her in that light.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Depends how the people in that kind of relationship handle being open. Personally I'm not into open relationships but I'm not going to bash someone else if open relationships is what they want to do. If they are happy and consent to that arrangement then it's fine.

hardboiledink · Answer

Women are emotional and if another man can drive them wild they will LEAVE YOU. They will question your relationship. It is STUPID to have an open relationship as eventually the woman will see what a selfish bastard you are and finally star having sex with other guys are realize where you lack besides sex as she starts hanging around other me. Homo sapiens are primarily monogamous for several reasons

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t think it’s good and I would like my future boyfriend to be a bit possessive of me. I find that sexy.

Anonymous · Answer

I was sharing a guy from work’s girlfriend. Didn’t know him super well, but I know I was using his girl more than he was. Didn’t end up well for them. She was a great girl though. Great tits, and I still have a couple pictures of her face covered in my cum.

EricSummer · Answer

For some people it may be ok but I would never agree to that. I do not ned more than one woman but most of all I would not want to share her.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

My OH would never go for it.
If I were single and met someone more sexually experimental maybe we could have an open reoatiship purely on sexuapll basis, but I don't think it would work if emotions were involved.

genericname85 · Answer

to each their own. i don't care what other people wanna do. but i don't accept open relationships. if you want other dicks than mine, get out of my life. simple as that.

Billlewis · Answer

I prefer to encourage her to date other guys whenever she wants, while I remain exclusive to her at all times.

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

They are stupid. Why call it a relationship?

sheenagwapa · Answer

for emergency purposes or once in a lifetime experience due to emergency cases yeag but it's something i don't wanna be in

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

If you have to share her, she's not your girlfriend, your her tool. Fuck that noise, not now not ever.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

they can absolutely work well for some people. they're not for everyone.

scentoflavender · Answer

If everyone's having fun, awesome. If one person in however many isn't having fun, it's no good.

Berethor · Answer

Only beta male would share with other males, but sharing with other female is more okay.

DextroShade · Answer

This is cuckokdry and is completely unacceptable; any man who would tolerate this is either a pathetic loser or a sick weirdo. The women who push for it are absolutely trash.

Spongebobssocks · Answer

It's bad. If someone truly loves you then they wouldn't want an open relationship

Staximus · Answer

Hell no. That shit rarely works in real life. I don't want to think about who she was fucking last night

Anonymous · Answer

I only share my husband with my girlfriend, end of story.

Sasha0426 · Answer

The only way my partner will get an open relationship is if he does it with someone else. I ain’t doing that.

jeffend888 · Answer

If you’re 40 and can’t figure this one out, I can’t help you.

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

I feel like in a solid relationship it can be a good thing. I would love to find a person to have an open relationship or friends with benefits.

jimmy2 · Answer

About to find out on a girl that want friends with benefits I wanted to get married again but because of COVID destroyed most of my insides I go with her as like wait for passing anytime

DizzyAster2 · Answer

Open relationship are just placeholders until someone finds their true match.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

I’m not comfortable with assigning ownership or titles anymore.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

It's not for me in any way.

Al_Musafir · Answer

It's a big sign of a man having no self respect.

sheikalana · Answer

Not okay for me at all.

Wonderingguyy · Answer

I couldn’t stand sharing my girlfriend lol

mandyfire98 · Answer

I've always leaned more polyamorous.

exitseven · Answer

No way would I share

DummyThiccFeraligatr · Answer

An open relationship is not a relationship.

dudeinohio · Answer

Totally against them.

scooogy · Answer

Unless you cut her into pieces, no issues

ummi59 · Answer

No never i will never accept that

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I'd get to jealous probably

BigRed1987 · Answer

Hell no.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not for me.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

I do not like this

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