If my partner wants to see me everyday & claims they want a future with, does it seem like he would hangout with a girl behind my back?

[Anonymous]

Not likely, No

Yes

[OlderAndWiser]

How long have you been dating? Does your relationship include sex?

[Asker]

We have been dating for a year & a few months. Yes , he lost his virginity to me. I am his first girlfriend as well.. he liked me for 3 years before actually getting to know me too. Hope this helps.. what do you think?

[OlderAndWiser]

What do you know about the extent of his relationship with the other girl?

[Asker]

He claims he doesn’t really like the people he works with because they are too nosy into his own life and make rude comments constantly. That she is not his type at all… I know she is like 5-6 years older than him, she has her own boyfriend and owns a house with him. My boyfriend is 20.. even the first time I met him he was shy. He’s a quiet guy until you get to know him. Could you see him doing anything just from hearing this? Lmk if there’s anything else you’d like to know that would help! - I also overthink bad so I’m wondering if I’m overthinking it or if I’m thinking correctly.

[OlderAndWiser]

If it's entirely innocent, why does he do it in secret? Do you ever get invited to join the two of them? Why not?

[Asker]

I do not know 100% if he’s hung out with her. Apparently she invited him and I to a baseball game. I’ve never met her before but she knows I exist. I just assume her because I’ve seen her pop up numerous times.

[OlderAndWiser]

Best way to defuse the situation is to accept the invitation and do things with all three of you together. If he and she are willing to do that, then it is very unlikely that you have anything to worry about.

[Asker]

Unfortunately my boyfriend denied the invitation. But you think if she’s inviting me to do these things that nothing is going on? She also has a boyfriend herself.

[OlderAndWiser]

Tell him that you would like to meet her and you want him to accept the invitation. His reaction to that should tell you what you need to know.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Asker]

Of course!:)

[spartan55]

He should dump you.

[Asker]

I’ve told him that, because I know I’m prob not the best for him with my overthinking and he won’t let go of me.

[spartan55]

He doesn't want to lose the 🥧 pie.

[Asker]

I mean he lost his shit to me.. I think if he was sleeping w someone else he would leave and go be with someone else for their so called 🥧 .. Lol he waited months before even making a move life that.

[spartan55]

Then why are still going on and on about it? You just said you don't think he is cheating... so what is it then? Something to bitch at him about?

[spartan55]

What does him waiting months have to do with anything?

[Asker]

I can’t explain to u the whole situation.. too much but thanks for ur “help” bro. I appreciate the reassurance

[spartan55]

How much 'help' do you expect when you give ZERO information bro?

[BigDog1989]

Maybe