My ex said it was bad to be desparate for a relationship. Why?

[Sweetsurprize]

Why should you care if they are desparate. I mean don't you feel good feeling NEEDED? And WANTED?

That way you BOTH get a relationship/companionship/partnership/friend.

You have someone to lean on and get support from (emotional) and maybe even sexual/physical.

[midnightmoon05]

It’s a turn off when it comes off too much. It’s a two way street.
mid a guy/girl is way too clingy. It can even come off annoying.

a healthy relationship is never 50/50…. but have the ability to work together like ying and Yang…balance.
when one gives too much, it’s off balance.

ever feed a snake dead mouse?
In the animal kingdom, they need to hunt.
so man want to hung for their food…it taste better when there is a little chase.
Same analogy applies to romantic relationships.

[Billlewis]

I think they meant that it's not a good idea to appear too needy.