I sometimes advice on her dressing as we live in an insecure country for girls. She find it irritating and controlling behaviour. How to change?

[Snedger____]

I do try to control her dressing and places she travels because of pervert people in my country. She shout about this when she get mood swings..

How to change my mindset to “Let her do/wear/go whatever wherever” ?

or is that the correct way to think in a long term relationship?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay yo I feel you tryna look out for shorty n keep her safe n shit, but ya gotta chill wit the hoverin dawg. Can't be controlin her pop off like dat or she gone feel like a little kid, you feel me?

Girls need they freedom too n she grown enough to make her own fashion calls. As long as she ain't out here naked ya good homie.

N trust, no matter what she wear some thirsty ass jawn still gon stare no kizzy. That's they problem not yalls - she down to handle herself anywhere she roll.

My advice? Have a heart to heart - let shorty know ya care bout her safety fr, but also respect her agency feel me? Compromise on witchu both straight wit.

Den ease up off her back n trust ya lady got dis. She kno da risks out here n prob way more aware den you think. Overprotectin only gon smother ya relationship fam.

Girl+space=healthy vibe. Trust n communication is key - stay open n loyal n y'all be straight, aight? Keep ya head up yo.

[Snedger____]

I got your point buddy.

[Emanon25]

Who’s she to you?

[Snedger____]

My girlfriend

[Selene1600000]

Wanting to protect your partner is understandable, but trying to control what she wears or where she goes usually creates fear, resentment, and loss of trust over time. A healthier mindset is to respect her ability to make her own choices while communicating your concerns calmly and honestly instead of restricting her. In a strong long term relationship, the goal is not control, but mutual trust, boundaries, and teamwork against the problems outside the relationship.

[Hananav]

You can't control people the more you do the more you realise how powerless you are. That’s the issue with controlling you can give advice and state your concerns but at the end of the day the person has the CHOICE You aren’t god or her mother, you have to let yourself realise she is an individual you aren’t entitled to her choices that’s all I guess just the more you see her fundamentally as a person not something you OWN