I understand a stay-at-home mom is promoted as ideal, but it tends to backfire. Our self-esteem grows as a result of our challenging ourselves and gaining a sense of accomplishment. For the most part, stay-at-home moms constantly do the same things over and over. They never get to the point of feeling accomplished, as it's time to start all over again whenever anything is finished. You may say that the ideal challenge is raising a child. That may be true, but you have to wait 18 years to discover whether you were successful or not, and a person's self-esteem can't wait that long without deteriorating.
Since these stay-at-home moms aren't creating their own accomplishments, they often pressure their partner to give them constant validation, yet they're not doing anything out of the ordinary to validate. The more they tell their partner to tell them they're wonderful, the less value they receive from the compliments they get, and they become insatiable and smother their partner.
We don't need to be making an income to feel accomplished. We can do volunteer work or some type of creative endeavor. There just needs to be more in our life than running on the hamster wheel. What will you be bringing to your relationship, if you're not experiencing anything other than your hamster wheel?
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It’s more than okay, you just have to be sure what your talking about. There are jobs you can do from home that will give you a sense of accomplishment, allow you to make your own money. Most guys your age don’t have the money to support two people and put aside enough to build a business or to eventually buy a home. You don’t want to be leeching off of someone else’s money otherwise when you want to spend money you have to go through him so he can make the decision. He might miss out on opportunities because he spent too much money on you. Doesn’t sound fun. Eventually though in a few years if your guy has a good job, you should be able to cut back on your hours and look after your home and family. My sister works 2 days a week now, her husband brings in probably about 80% of their joint income. She has time to look after the house and kids, she has a loving husband who looks after her. She has time to go out to different restaurants with family and friends, 3 or 4 vacations a year. It just seems like an ideal life. She didn’t start that way though. at 18, built herself a hair salon in the area. Got herself some good staff, built herself a good reputation. And when she met her now husband they agreed if she did get pregnant she would cut back on her hours. The salon makes significantly less since she’s less present but her quality of life has greatly improved. Food for thought ✌️
Except you don't qualify unless you're a single mother living off of welfare with half a dozen kids from god only knows who the father is & it's likely not the same guy either.
I'm being extremely blunt but most legitimate stay at home girlfriends / wives provided QUALITY to the house. They are MODEST. They have SELF RESPECT and do NOT need to show off their body for the world to see in a desperate attempt for attention.
They KNOW they have VALUE and they don't have to act desperately. They KNOW that a man who is decent / respectable and in today's day & age has a damn good job will be interested as long as they don't fuck half the town by the time they turn 30.
I’ve seen some guys on apps put in their profile that they want a stay at home wife/mom so I don’t see why you can’t also market that. It’s all about being honest :)
I agree with another poster to make sure you have the skills such as cleaning, cooking, and emotional maturity/support.
Also, for your sanity, take up a couple hobbies or a small business like selling nails or crafts online. I recommend continuing to learn something like finances.
Enjoy your life 😊
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Yea. It’s your life. Find who makes you happy.
But. There are girls who end up alone in the end. Because they demand everything and really give nothing in return. But if you give equal effort, even if in separate roles. It can work
Yes a lot of guys like their girl to stay at home
Yeah, just ofc be sure to let people know while you're in the talking stage.
Only if you can find some guy willing to take on a traditional male role of funding your life.
I'd say any woman wanting a traditional man and traditional marriage she be a traditional woman, dress modestly, be feminine and girly, be a good cook, home maker, manage the house, be sexually conservative and save herself for marriage.
Based on your half naked pic in your avatar you post for everyone on the planet... you are not a traditional woman. You are not modest, you are not sexually conservative, you are not loyal (since you give every man on earth a gawk at your undressed body)... etc.
I'd advise any man never to get in any such relationship with you where he pays everything and if there is a divorce he has to pay you alimony to fund your existence.
Men, wake up. Pick better women if you are going to marry.
It is however you need to take a few things into consideration. 1. can your partner provide financially without help 2. Are you willing to do all the house work and raising of kids. 3. are you willing to accept that because you arnt being in a income that you rely solely on your partners money and if you break up that you will have a tough time if you arnt married?
It is okay but very risky. You are most likely better off not pursuing it if you don't have anything of your own to help you sustain yourself, lest you ever find yourself in a situation where you can no longer depend on your partner financially. Most stay-at-home girlfriends and wives on TikTok do have their own income.
Nothing wrong with it but make sure you become a good judge of character so you pick a good mate. And study successful marriages. Study goal achievement. Study how to change. Study why some people repel others and some don't. Study everything you can on how to have a lasting, great marriage. Don't study negativity and listen to negative people who make you fearful. Only focus on how you can. And be the person you want him to be. Someone very kind with notice how kind you are.
Yeah, as long as you find someone who's okay with that and is happy to financially provide for it, then yeah.
Just make sure you're doing most, if not all of the household duties though, as your partner will be providing all of the income.
Nothing wrong with it, I’d be one if I could but shits way too expensive nowadays.. I’m not even a feminist I just like going out and working I think I’d get bored at home after awhile no offense to my future kids either lol.
Sure , its certainly okey to aspire to that , all I'd say is dont make it absolute as you are young , but its always your choice.
Sure, as long as you enter a relationship with that understanding. And learn the skills that contribute in such a role: Cooking, cleaning, minor home repairs, managing budgets, decorating - and that is before there are kids. When/if they come along, you also should expect to be the primary caregiver and transportation for the tykes.
No one wants to work his ass off for someone to sit home and eat bonbons and watch soaps.
If that is what you want, then nothing wrong with it. I would suggest that you take some additional schooling though. Something that really interests you. It may come in handy later on if you decide to change your mind.
If you bring enough to the table to warrant that, sure knock your socks off. If you think you're just going to sit on the couch all day and be lazy it's going to be a rude awakening for you one day.
Yes it is but go with it with your eyes open.
Know that depending on some man 100% for literally everything comes with a price and won't work in your favor as most men will exploit you in a manner you won't like.There is nothing wrong in wanting that but unless the guy has a really good paying job it will be tough. I think it's best to work until you get pregnant and then be a stay at home mom. You will be in a better financial position to raise a family.
Understand it when comes to kids but not as girlfriend.
Of course it's okay, but it depends on the type of man right?
First face reality if you are a girlfriend you are not a wife
Secondly you need to get a hobby like stay home for what? You have a kid out of wedlock? im sorry only wives get that choice not girlfriendsjust be aware that if your marriage sours, your life wouldn't necessarily be better after a divorce. or if he mistreats you, you can't divorce him because you need a man to feed you.
just the truth about being a stay home wife.
Sure as long as you are happy with that decision.
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