Is it wrong that I want to be a stay at home partner?

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I honestly suck at keeping jobs but I love keeping a clean house, doing chores for my partner, giving love & support, etc. I just feel bad cause I’m a male.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Nah, it isn't wrong at all. I have many friends with househusbands or who swap the housespouse role seasonally.

There's undeniable labour to be done at home. Cooking, cleaning, and managing a home is labour.

If you find someone who respects that's what you want and can help provide for you, that's totally fine.

It will be harder, considering many women want men with equal ambition to theirs, but at the same token it is hard to have a career AND manage home at the same time. Splitting the tasks between partners is a long-standing tradition.

Good luck in your search, and I hope you enjoy the housespouse life! 😁

_Maya_ · Accepted Answer

No there is nothing wrong with that if you and your partner are cool with it. If she has a good job and agrees that it would work out with you taking care of the house and that sort of stuff then go for it. If it makes you both happy in your relationship that is all that really matters. As long as you are both financially comfortable with the situation and also the roles in your relationship then great. The most important thing is you both think that both of you each contribute an equal amount. I don't mean money either.

MonicaWills · Answer

There is no right or wrong. Everyone has their own interests and abilities, regardless of gender. Keeping the house clean, doing chores, and giving love and support are great qualities regardless of gender. You did what you believed was right and important, no matter what anyone else said. Self-worth should not be limited by gender roles, and everyone should be respected and given equal opportunities.

Anonymous · Answer

i think it's weird. i hate when people are a "stay at home" anything. get a job... grow up and be able to keep that job. this economy sucks on a single income. do not put your partner through that just because you can't keep a job at the age of 26... that's bad...

you can clean the house, do chores, give love and support, all while having a job! i know, incredible... tons of people do it! i don't give a damn if you're male or female. get a job. stay at home should be instinct. it's 2023. not 1950.

haana · Answer

my father’s friend is stay home dad. Only her mother working outside, you can discuss with your partner, and her father lhave home based business that he learned when he become stay home dad, he bake breads everyday !! being stay home man will help you pick up great of cooking skills. Discuss with your partner and best of luck !!

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

I mean, there’s nothing legally or ethically wrong with wanting that. Being someone’s support can be a very rewarding experience, and I’m sure you could find someone who’s both old-fashioned and new-fashioned enough that they want to swap gender roles to be the bacon-bringer while you’re the homemaker.

Rei13 · Answer

No there is nothing wrong with that so long as your partner is okay with that arrangement as well. You will a much harder time finding a wife that will want that as generally women either go for someone around the same level as them or higher, but if she is extremely career driven and okay with being the bread winner it can be really nice having someone who cleans, cooks, and keeps the home in order to where she doesn’t have to do any of that. It can be a really good dynamic

A_Bell · Answer

No. I gave up a law career (for now) to raise a family because that is more important to me. Eventually I'll go back, but I wanted a family (4 probably) while young and be able to have the energy to keep up with them.

Anonymous · Answer

No, if it's what you both want this is great. Unconventional but if she is a career woman and you want to be a stay at home dad this is a perfectly acceptable combo, though I imagine it is hard to find. I personally hate working but I was thought to be independent, when my boyfriend told me he would like for me to be a stay at home mom i was against it at first but now if we could make it work that would actually be super nice XD.

TruthBeTold77 · Answer

That's okay. I think if there's no kids involved tho then you may have a hard time finding a woman that will keep you at home but who knows.

Anonymous · Answer

No kids? Yeah sounds wrong. If someone chooses to be a stay at home parent and both people agree, then its not wrong. Staying at home “partner”? Its just like living with your parents but instead of them paying for you its your girlfriend. Get a job and keep it. You have NO reason not to work. You like doing chores? Do it after you get home from your job. That shit doesn't take all day every day to do.

scentoflavender · Answer

Besides extenuating circumstances, I'm not a fan of it. However, what I think doesn't matter. Whatever your relationship dynamics are with your partner, and what you try and are comfortable with matters.

ta-ra · Answer

I don't see an issue with that as long as your partner doesn't mind. Some women may even prefer it so she doesn't have to give up her career. I see many men doing this now and their family dynamic seems happy. Best of luck to you

ItsMykolaJenkins · Answer

I think it should be 50/50

If you stay at home your dont progress

Life is a movement

What if your wife works 10 h and is tired

wouldn't you want to help her financially?

Maybe if you are millionaire thats cool

Both can stay indoors lol

LazerBean · Answer

Not necessarily, and there are women who would not mind that.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nothing wrong with that. That works fine in some relationships.

electromagnetic · Answer

Nothing wrong with that but you will have to discuss this with your partner so that both of you are on the same page.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

So as long as it is something discussed and agreed with all parties and it's affordable to life like such, then crack on!.

cnj421 · Answer

If you and your partner discuss is and they’re fine with it, then why would it be wrong?

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all, there is nothing wrong with that. You just need to find a woman who is ok with that. I don't think there are many tbh.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't feel bad. There are men out there that are just that. You could totally be a stay at home partner. Hopefully it works out for you.

Anonymous · Answer

How’s your interpretation in communication, do you cope to good and bad things in a rational constructive way, do you need to right or have final say, be home alone lots and ignored when your partner is tired..

LivingExample · Answer

That decision is between the two people in the relationship!

Ava1993 · Answer

If you and your partner community that with each other.

Mariammhan · Answer

Nothing wrong with it fuk what feminists think.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Nothing wrong with that at all

spiritGirl13 · Answer

Hey man , that’s the girl job.

myabe123 · Answer

Nothing wrong with that

Minahh · Answer

It's fine

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