Would you marry the man you love but family hates or marry the man you hate but family loves?

[Nightblade23]

Would you marry the person you love

Would you marry the person who loves you but don't love back

[dynamicyandere]

I would marry the one I love.


My fiancé’s family is conservative Muslim.


My family is conservative Christian.


So…


Sh*t is going to hit the fan.


But my fiancée and I are in this together and are committed to being together, no matter what happens, no matter what challenges are ahead.

[CatVader]

that's tough..
she will literally have a death sentence hanging over her head.

wish you all the best, God bless

[dynamicyandere]

I’m not making her convert. In fact, I converted so she didn’t have to. Which, may ostracize me from my own family, but that’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make—in the name of love.

[CatVader]

well... it is a supremacist religion. so.. there is that.
also.. you can't undo it later. just be aware of that. there is no leaving islam.

but you do you.

[Screenwriter]

I'd certainly be worried if my family "hated" the man I loved and would attempt to find out why. If my family is important in my life, I wouldn't want to estrange myself from them. If anything, I'd go out of my way to smooth over any rough patch between the two entities. There has to be some compromise between the two.

But in the second case, there's no choice at all. There is no scenario where I'd marry a person my family loves, but I have no love for them. I enjoy being accepted through my partner, but not a partner that I don't accept.

[Ozanne]

Marry the person I love. You can always try to work on things for your family to come around. If not, a lot of times, families are just happy that you're happy.

If you marry someone your family wants you too, but you resent it, you're the one living with this person 100% of the time, not them. It's also not fair to the person you're with because they're truly not loved for the right reasons. Your family can't tote the excuse that it's not fair to them, because your relationship with your family is a different one.

[Finchie40]

Marry the one you love , especially if he treats you well and treats you with love and respect , your family has a choice on whether they want to accept him or not , more than likely they will eventually accept him knowing he makes you happy , but if not that’s their problem not yours

[OlderAndWiser]

Is that the choice you must make? I don't know anyone in that position.

[Ozanne]

I thought the same thing, because obviously most people wouldn't like either selection. I think that if pressed for one or the other, which one would be more meaningful?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Of course, the one I love.

It’s me, who’s going to sleep with me,

not my family.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

*sleep with him

[BadApple69]

This is an No brainer. You family doesn’t have to live with him, you do. If your family hates the guy I do suggest you step back and take a closer look… maybe there is a good reason. But I have seen very controlling families that hate a strong man coming into a daughters life because they fear loosing there control of the daughter. If your family is like that than screw them. Follow your heart and ignore their hatred

[menina]

I would marry the man I love but my family hates. It's my life, not theirs.

The decision is up to me. Plus, they would hate him anyways, so I better be with someone I'm in love with.

[ShellyB]

Prob. neither but between the two options, the one I love but my family hates is the only one that is even possible, however it's really unlikely. My family's feelings are v. important to me and also I think my parents have really good judgment and want the best for me so it is hard for me to imagine going against that permanently. JMO!

[Sweetsurprize]

Um, of course I'm going to marry the person I love and who loves me back. I am not marrying their family, or they're not marrying MY family. I'm marrying them.

That's IF I still want to get married. These days, the older I get, the less I believe I will get married. At least to someone decent lol.

I'll probably just be a single mother by choice if that's the case.

[PatientZeR0]

What the hell does your family have to with an eternal bond and commitment to another person. Yes, they should like even love a significant other but if they dislike or even hate them…tell them to kick rocks you got your own family to build then go elope in Vegas that weekend

[Jkgordon]

Marry who I love fuck the family I hate them anyway~

[jenna815]

As long as we have a legit partnership and stay/work together as a team, then screw the parents, it's just us at the end of the day and hateful people don't always deserve the win..

[TheUniqueOne96]

Would you marry the person you love.

They'd be marrying me, not my family.

[Bostonbutterfly]

If this means losing my family as in getting disowned, well then that means my family never loved me in the first place. I'd happily get rid of toxic people that were loving me base on expectations and what they wanted.

[Luopio27]

Here in Finland, the girl marries whoever she wants. She fucks whoever she wants. And she os not in our culture limited by opinions of parents.

[CatVader]

My families opinion has been irrelevant since i was a kid, since im a street rat.
so marry for love or not at all.

[slatyb]

If I have a good relationship with my family, I would want to know why they object to someone. They may be right.

[strawberrybaby3]

The man I love. Duh. Your family should not be influencing who you marry whatsoever.

[James899]

@strawberrybaby3 Can i pm you?

[JosyJosy]

Yep I don't really care about what they think. If everybody is against him, I might want to hear them out, but it's still my decision.

[Anonymous]

It very unlikely that I marry the woman my family hates. Because my family is VERY accepting. So if they don't like you then it gives me VERY good reason to be concerned.

[Nightblade23]

Well the guy I'm with he used to hangout with my brother and he told my brother about his personal life and my family doesn't like him because of his past

[Guido]

I cannot imagine anyone in their right mind marrying someone they hate. Every person, given the choice of free will, would marry the person they love. They have to live and sleep with that person.

[linka_pat307]

It's difficult but I will marry someone I love even though my family hates hima

[Akam93]

I'm not marrying the family I'm marrying him. So rather be hated. Haters gonna hate.

[007kingifrit]

don't marry for love, its a temporary emotion. marry for good values and goals and pratical things in common and connections and security

[Minahh]

Well obvi I rather marry the one I love... but its likely that he's weird if the whole family hates him in that case I wouldn't marry him

[yumzie]

Depends on th situation mostly when Im in love i almost every time go love blinded that's why I'll go with what my family decides 😉

[dudeinohio]

I wouldn't care what my family thinks.

[Nightblade23]

So you would marry the person you love even if it means losing your family over it

[Nightblade23]

I love this guy and want to marry him but my family doesn't like him and my ex is trying to get back with me but I don't love him but my family thinks we should get back together because he's saying he can't live without me and that he wants to take care of me and my son

[dudeinohio]

Yes. I'd give up my family

[driven159]

your family is not going to live with you so the one your family hates

[Lunatic1]

If they respect me and make me happy, then I don't care what others think

[JesseP1nk]

Do you live for yourself or for your family?

[bradley142]

id marry the person that had my heart and that makes and made me happy

[whereismyjohnny]

Marry the person I love.

[swettannie]

the man i love !

[swettannie]

do you wanna talk of that? my dm are open if you want

[Deformate]

Why would you be with someone you hate?

[OddBeMe]

Wow 18% of you are fcked.

[Nightblade23]

Why do you say that?

[LavLavLuv]

Marry the man I luv

[electromagnetic]

Marry whom I love.