What was your breaking point in a relationship?

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Peter_Penetrator · Accepted Answer

Before l married my ex wife, l had seen that she had accumulated some debt. I had attributed it to a single mother raising two kids.

I took on that debt with her understanding that with two incomes we could pay it off fast and start building a life together.

Was l a real dumb ass.

She refused to help pay it off. She went as far as to bounce checks left and right. The bank paid the money, but charged $29.00 per bounced check.

If wasn't long before l realized why she was really in debt. SHE didn’t pay her bills to begin with. She just racked up credit card after credit card debt.

I fought tooth and nail to get her to fulfill her end of our agreement.

Her motive was in hoping that l would get tired of fighting with her and then stop paying off her debt that was now my responsibility as well as losing a great credit score.

Had my credit gone in the shitter, there would be no building something together which would have made me a happier husband.

Turns out after 18 years of marriage, l hit the nail on the head. She came from a long line of narcissists from her dad’s side of the family. I figured it out, her dad, sister, nephew, and both of her kids all inherited that trait.

The deal breaker was learning she was a narcissist and that our marriage would never be a true marriage. She was only out for herself and her family. I was just getting in her way.

18 years of that before l divorced her.

I was 30 when we married. She was 42. I thought by that age she would have had her shit together.

WRONG!!!

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

Nothing, I've never broken a relationship. When things no longer work out, I ensure she was always in the loop.

Hence why I still get on, and even do business, with many of my ex's.

People tend to get fucking stupid and go all Hollywood when it comes to letting go of people. You are two separate individuals. You cannot expect to always be on the same level. But that doesn't mean you get all angry and dramatic.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A car accident. I was dating someone who had quite the ego. Everything I said was apparently wrong and he was right (even if he really wasn't). If I had an idea, somehow it was "his" genius idea. It started out as little things here and there, but then one day we were coming back from a date, and I was explaining on the far right lane was a turn right only lane. He refused to listen to me despite me pointing out signs and telling him the reason why the left lanes were more full of traffic.

We get to the front, light turns green, and now I'm practically screaming he must turn, but he's like no, I got this, we're fine. Well we weren't fine. The reason it said turn right only is because you literally could not go straight and we ran head first into a metal stop pole. To just wrap a bow on the situation, he jumps out and starts yelling about his now terribly damaged car, and doesn't bother to ask at any point if I'm okay. Don't date people who care more about material things and their ego, then you're actual life. I called a friend to pick me up, and I never saw him again.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

My exgf and I had been drifting apart for months.

After nearly a month without seeing each other (due to life stuff and sickness), we finally hung out.

And she spent a good twenty minutes gushing about her best (married) friend in the USA. Even said she'd move onto her property if she won the lottery.

I knew then that our relationship wouldn't work. My exgf is in love with her friend, but didn't know it consciously.

I had to let her go. I hope she does manage to have that sort of relationship she wants with her friend (my ex is ace and basically just wants to be besties with her bestie). She and I learned a lot from each other, and if I helped her uncover that she has deep feelings for someone else, I can live with that.

She and I both deserve happiness and I know mine doesn't lie with someone who wants someone else.

We said we'd be friends, but she's withdrawn completely including from our mutuals, so I don't know how that's working out, lol.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

1. My ex girlfriend’s breaking point was when she and I had been going out for five weeks never had our first kiss or even first date. We dated before but once we got official we stopped going out. I asked her out about once a week but she always shot me down I don’t know if she was scared of me or just not attracted to me.
2. My first ex boyfriend’s breaking point was when we’d been together for 5 months and he came on my hand and I freaked out.
3. My second ex boyfriend’s breaking point was when we’d been in an open relationship for 5 months and someone else wanted to be exclusive with him.
4. My breaking point with my most recent ex was we’d been together for 5 months and I was always very open about what I did and did not want and he tried to force me to have sex with him so I was like naw.

Nimitttt · Answer

The guy said me once that if his parents don’t agree for our marriage, we will court marry. Guy said that his parents said that if guy forces his parents for marraige with me, they will not deny.

now guy changes and says “ I’ll try and hope for parents to get convinced “ but I’ll not force them, guy says he is not attracted to me anymore and that his ex are better than me.

Hence it’s over :) I realised I had self respect I felt too hurt coz I went against my parents for this guy but he don’t love me although he says he does so I decided to breakup with him

Miristheiss · Answer

Disrespect. If she was talking to me with disrespect or acting entitled to different things. Taking me for granted.

I am big on boundaries with other men so even if she didn't actually cheat... having contact with men in a way I deem disloyal or too much or too close that would have been enough for me to walk out.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I've had a few people (girlfriends, normal friends both male and female) that would just really blatantly disregard my interests. Stuff like completely disregarding my time or being really insulting/dismissive of me. A really common thing has been someone saying something incredibly messed up and then throwing a little "JK" at the end, as if I'm somehow supposed to ignore the massive dump the person just took on me because they were "just kidding."

Anonymous · Answer

One day I found my self respect. Sometimes you like someone so much you miss miss all the red flags of thier toxic nature. It wasn't any ONE thing. But one day I said if she loves me then why do I feel more pain then joy around her. If this was common with my interaction with others I would think this was just a "me" problem, but that wasn't the case. So I quit her cold turkey. And she was OK with that, till she wanted to exploit me again and then I wasn't there.

Marklaw12 · Answer

We are so toxic is almost romantic. Her mom had to forcibly take her away from me.

She's always beating the shit out of me. She was always seeking compliments but I always told her the truth.

"That skirt seems like you're begging for it".

Before I even blink her shoes are hitting me in my face.

We still love each other but we are grown now. We sure did have the best sex though, she knew how to work it.

Fireguy17 · Answer

finding my 1st wife with the landlord as he was backing up into the closet and pulling up his pants, and finding a Hickey on an ex girlfriend's neck that wasn't mine after she gave me some lame excuse as to why it was there

Sweetsurprize · Answer

Wow do these people here think their shit don't stink lol.

Why does there have to be a "Breaking Point"? Are you counting down the minutes, hours, to eliminate them from your life? Jesus people are cruel just like my ex lol.

But to answer your question, anytime there is repeated disrespect and lack of effort and abuse but other than that, I WOULD try hard in that relationship, why not.

patrick994 · Answer

There are many reasons why I might break off a relationship: Character incompatibility, sexual incompatibility, incompatibility in lifestyle and passions,

Anonymous · Answer

Getting closed-fist punches to the head while sleeping. Marriage was over about 6 or 8 months later.

Finchie40 · Answer

Cheating , if a partner can cheat on you it’s over period

Anonymous · Answer

Tired of the fighting. And I began a new life.

Christoff92 · Answer

Just walk away and go on with life. No need to be in grief.

shortster · Answer

She was living with her ex fiance and the only reason they didn't get married was because his divorce hadn't been finalized. She admitted this to me when she almost got caught with me by him. Kinda got blindsided by that one.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Mine is cheating and disrespect after that won't even want to see or speak you that person anymore whats yours

Luopio27 · Answer

That I never got into one!

JonesT10Apr · Answer

being together... without see eachother for a long time in real

Anonymous · Answer

She cheated on me and I gave another chance but not changed

Anonymous · Answer

You longer get excited seeing them, only feeling ‘meh’

OddBeMe · Answer

Wet towels on the floor.

you_asked · Answer

Lack of head. You Asked.

BLP11520 · Answer

Lying and lack of attention

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Repeated dishonesty

Luckycharms12 · Answer

We you aren't happy

Fenerbahçem · Answer

Cheating

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