Can stubbornness ruin a relationship?

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Hey everyone , hope you are all doing well , So my Q is Can stubbornness ruin a relationship?

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

There's nothing wrong with sticking to one's preferences. Just because you prefer a particular flavor of ice cream, that doesn't mean everyone should conform to your preference. We all have the right to maintain what works for us (as long as it doesn't negatively impact others), but no one has the right to push their agenda onto others. Generally, when people call someone stubborn, it's because they aren't getting their way. Therefore, the ones calling others stubborn are often the stubborn ones. My mother would always call me the most stubborn person she knew, because I wouldn't let her mold me into what she wanted, preferring to be true to myself.

On the other hand, when people only focus on their own perspectives and preferences, without considering the impact on others, that would be viewed as self-centered, entitled and stubborn. In a healthy relationship, both people truly care about how their choices impact their partner, so they seek out their partner's perspective and make significant decisions together.

To understand stubbornness, always determine if the stubborn person expects others to change or if that stubborn person selfishly makes unilateral decisions without even showing an interest in the other person's perspective. Both of those approaches are insensitive and dysfunctional. If, on the other hand, people are holding true to what they've discovered works best for them, without pushing that agenda onto others, the ones who call them stubborn are actually the inconsiderate stubborn ones.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

It can, depending on what it is.

If it’s about morals, values, or ethics, then it’s okay to be stubborn about those—as those should be unchanging.

Or if those change, it should only be after very careful and intentional consideration.

Like if a person’s job demands that they relocate—but they have a sick family member they want to take care of, and they value family above all else, it may not be bad to be ‘stubborn’ and decline so they can stay with their family.

But, if the stubbornness is for more arbitrary things, like just wanting to be right all the time for the sake of being right all the time, or never ever admitting wrong or apologizing, then that can be a sign of emotional immaturity and arrogance.

And emotional immaturity and arrogance can definitely ruin a relationship or at least make things unnecessarily difficult and argumentative.

They don’t need to apologize all the time, but it’s important to be with the kind of person that is humble enough to apologize when they’ve made a mistake.

cnj421 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely it can. Relationships require compromise. If you can’t do that, it won’t work.

Kelly6 · Accepted Answer

kind of , but it depends on other partner too

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes because stubbornness is equivalent to selfishness , If you are the type of person that thinks you should always get your way and you are always right and nothing is ever your fault , that makes you a selfish person , the only way a relationship will survive , is if you both choose to remove selfishness and stubbornness for each other in the relationship that you both chose to be in together , if you can’t do that for your partner , they will not be able to do it for you , it needs to go both ways or the relationship will not survive

havingfun2023 · Answer

I also think that it can and that humans are weird and moody. Like most living things. Moody. One minute they're friendly, next minute they're not. Sometimes that's down to individuals or their own insecurities generalising about "baggage" 🛄 lol 😂😆

boggboss · Answer

Ofc it can nobody wants a partner they can't communicate with or wants to be made to feel like their opinion is irrelevant

Billlewis · Answer

I don't think so. If they find it necessary to be stubborn, then the relationship was probably doomed from the beginning.

prakhindev92 · Answer

Yes , especially you know who is stunning in a relationship? , It usually is woman , and always putting on test to check if her man is loyal to her , while she post bikini pics in social media for other men to check out and like and comment and enjoy that

jshm2 · Answer

Depends what they are stubborn about. If it's putting rat poison out and not washing their hands after, then that's enough to kill any relationship - literally.

Being stubborn isn't always a bad thing though.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Yes 😂 Sometimes you need to, sometimes it's just me being incredibly stubborn about the toilet paper going under and not over.

BryanMoore · Answer

It can, whilst it's important to have boundaries, it's also important to compromise on certain things. If someone is completely inflexible this will breed resentment in the partner who is always yeilding.

Fireguy17 · Answer

yes it can. A relationship requires compromises quite often, and not always you giving in. So if he doesn't find someone that will.

serious · Answer

Depends on how the stubbornness is used in a relationship.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I thought women now preferred men who were more in touch with their feminine side.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Yes kind off but it depends on reason and multiple factors too

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, unless the other person is a pushover and a simp

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Absolutely it can nobody wants to date a person like that

ShadowwHeart · Answer

Yes for sure! Do you think it can?

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, instant dealbreaker for me.

Anonymous · Answer

personally, i don't think so.

Rapport · Answer

Yeah it can, almost ruined mines that way.

BLP11520 · Answer

Ask my wife, she has sabotaged ours

sheikalana · Answer

It can.

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