Myself and my partner have been together for 4 months so far. We're getting on amazingly, and I couldn't be happier.. there's just one problem, his sister. The first time I met her, she totally blanked me, and said meeting me isn't important atm, she didn't even look at me. Every time we've exchanged texts (for whatever reason), she's always been so blunt. She's recently had a baby, and I wished her well for the birth when she was going in for her elective c section, then a further text to congratulate her.. Guess what? No reply to either texts. When I was dropping off my partner to his house (lives with his sister), he asked if I could pop in to see the little one, and of course, she said no, not right now. I'm started to get extremely upset and hurt as I've done nothing wrong but actually love and protect his brother. I can't shake it out of my head that she literally hates my guts without even bothering to get to know me. My exes family didn't bother, and I don't want it to happen again with my current partner. What shall I do? Leave it, and have nothing to do with her, or text her to ask why she's not wanting to get to know me? My partner keeps telling me to give her a couple of months, yet he has said this from the VERY start of our relationship, we're now 4 months in, and she's wanting "more time".. I'm so officially done, and wouldn't even want her at our wedding (if we ever get married of course).
Oh my goodness. So what if you had a baby yourself. Pregnancy and giving birth affects everyone differently same as their hormones. FMD when I was pregnant and after I gave birth I didn't want to see or be around anyone. I was also ignoring messages and in my head I wanted people to leave me the f alone. After I gave birth especially. This was crucial time for me to try and bond with my baby since I was robbed of skin to skin contact after giving birth and I had my entire birth experience ruined and nobody respected my wishes nobody wanted to leave me alone. It contributed to me struggling to bond with my baby. I spent everyday for weeks after giving birth in tears and also battling postnatal depression and bad thoughts
she wasn't ready or wanting visitors as she wanted that time to be left alone to bond with her baby, you also ain't family so she doesn't have to let you see her baby especially if you don't get on all that well.
If I was the sister and I found out you were bitching about me not replying to your message and bitching about the fact i said no to you meeting the baby, I would never speak with you again because this shit comes across as you being pushy and not respecting someone boundaries and thinking you have the right to just invite yourself into my life.
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Probably bcs she just had a baby, her mind and hormone’s all over the place right now, she’s also preoccupied with her new born and being a mom overall. Maybe send her a small gift for her baby to try and break the ice. Also, have you ever asked your boyfriend about what his sister thinks of you?
All you can really do is get ur boyfriend to ask his sister what her problem is. she's acting like a child and you have no obligation to be nice to her.
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You’re dating your partner, not his sister, so I would treat her the same way she treats you. Ignore her. You made the first move, she turned her back on you, so just leave her alone. She’ll either start communicating with you or she won’t. But if she reaches out, I’d suggest responding. Some people just have crappy people skills, and it takes them time.
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