No sex, no relationship? Once cut off, how soon until you consider them a platonic friend and move on?

[Juxtapose]

Once your partner cuts off sex, how soon until you consider them a platonic friend and move on?

I would never want to be with someone who doesn't want me as much as I want them.

[OlderAndWiser]

I assume that the sex stops because she no longer wants a relationship with me, and not because of a medical problem. If she doesn't want a relationship, then why would I want to remain in a friendship with her? I don't want to hear about the new guy she's fucking, and me trying to hang on to her would just be a roadblock to me moving forward. So, I'd have the talk to confirm that's what she wants and, if so, I'd pack my shit and get on down the road, no looking back.

[kerrylouise]

This happened to me. It was the biggest turn off unfortunately, especially after being intimate and dating for over a year.
As much as a guy or girl might think this is a power play move- it really isn't. I'd walk away right there and then. Why would anyone think this tactic is good or works to get way...
It's not worth if for the other person.

Dare I say it, but sex is pretty to obtainable. More so for women I'd say so yeah. Withhold sex and I'll move on

If the guys willing to cut of sex, then there is no relationship and there will always be someone else willing to give it

[Billlewis]

I actually prefer that she keeps me horny and sexually frustrated at all times, while she enjoys the freedom to date other guys at her convenience, and of course, they're generally permitted to enjoy the one thing I want so badly but will never be allowed to have -- intercourse with her, culminating in a bare, natural climax inside her!

[Apple1996]

Sex is important to a relationship but not always necessary. If my partner cut off sex I'd give it a year or two to see if he came back around to wanting it again. After that ask for a open relationship

[Juxtapose]

If it's after a year or two and they still don't want sex, doesn't it feel more like an elaborate friendship?

[Apple1996]

Not really since there is a emotional bond

[Juxtapose]

I have very intense emotional bonds with my friends and family that feels nearly indistinguishable from love besides the sexual component.

I would give my life for my mother and vice versa.

[Apple1996]

It's not the same as a romantic emotional bond tho. There can be romance with no sex

[Juxtapose]

What's the difference between that romantic emotional bond and a friend who would do almost anything for you?

[BoopBoopBeep]

I always remind her, "you didn't cut off sex, you cut off sex with YOU."

It was made clear before the relationship started that I'm never going to play that game. Relationship counselor after relationship counselor will point out how toxic that is. You don't want to sleep with me because I forgot to take out the trash? Okay, we won't have intimacy. Bring me some wine when you go to the store "bro."

[nonyabeez-wax]

Withholding sex in a relationship is considered an abusive form or manipulation.

If its not for a medical reason, then it's not right.

In a healthy relationship, both parties would be easily turned on by the other. If your partner isn't turned on easily, there is a problem in the relationship, or a medical problem.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

No way. The fact she wouldn't be disgusted with herself for failing to provide such a basic need of her husband is enough. A girlfriend? Fair, that's a whole other situation.

That would be as bad as a guy not giving his woman any attention.

[RoseySarah]

Seeing relationships start with no sex those go on longer then just ending sex.

The guy hops for like 6 months to a year then dumps the prude smart girl.

Couples end in like 1 to 3 months

Guys tap out way faster then the girls who usually cheat and end it soon after.

Sometimes it's a need in a relationship 😜

[Juxtapose]

Guys just want someone who is like their best friend but they fuck.

[RoseySarah]

Nah they want a hot girl who is like friends... not a best friend or you would all be gay lmao

[Briscole]

@Juxtapose

I worked with a French chef at a country club. He said that his parents had a beautiful marriage, and they never fought. His mom had two boyfriends and his dad had one girlfriend. Perfect. Sex was farmed out to third parties. I know that sounds horrible, but so does living the life of two cardboard cutouts just existing.

[Juxtapose]

My sexuality is not something I can control. I am bisexual but I am not attracted to masculine men and believe me, I have tried my damnedest to get hard for them but it just does not happen.

I need someone like my best friend but with the body of a woman. That's pretty much it.

[RoseySarah]

@Briscole so want to hear more cause that story never ends well! Trust me my friends have tried it all!
It always ends bad usually hidden for a long time till boom

[RoseySarah]

So how are you bi?

[Juxtapose]

Without getting into details that would be uncomfortable for you, I would be all over a feminine man in a very passionate way. I have done things with men that no straight man would even think of.

[Briscole]

@roseysarah

Oh, I stand corrected. Your friends are the authority on these matters. Even though it works for the French, they are mistaken, because your friends say so. It's best to just live in a sexless marriage that 55% of the time will end in divorce.

[Juxtapose]

Ah, here comes the needless hostility out of nowhere when I was being perfectly civil.

Nice.

[RoseySarah]

Omg your right a story from a single stranger makes my friends idoits!

Dude huge reason it's sexless but they can't deal with it so they look else where that damaged part will ruin the marriage cause other things will not be talked about also.

[RoseySarah]

Lol hostility I'm being civil like you and yes you do look homeless ask a how do I look question and get the same answer!

[Juxtapose]

Don't piss on me and tell me it's raining especially when you are too much of a coward to show your own face. Passive aggressive behavior is unbecoming of a moderator and an adult in general.

[Billlewis]

@Briscole I don't think that sounds horrible at all; it sounds like heaven;)

[smilelots]

No sex no relationship sounds like a good idea unless both people are of the same mind communication is the key and most people should talk about things like that before they get serious is sex important to you is money important to you is having children important to you, etc. communication is the key and as long as people are honest with each other and themselves, you can make a better decision on what you’re gonna do in the future

[RobT312]

My guess is it would all be over in a week…. have a chat, breakup, move on

[Juxtapose]

Fair!

[Billlewis]

I'm never allowed to have intercourse with any of the women whom I date/serve, and that's been ideal for me. But obviously that wouldn't work for most guys.

[sheikalana]

Why would someone cut sex in a relationship? Sex is part of a relationship and plays an important role in your relationship too. It's how you connect with your partner on an intimate level.

[Briscole]

I waited way too long, and that will never happen again. I guess I'd give it two months.

[Juxtapose]

Yeah if they don't have their shit together in 2 months unless it's something really serious then what are they even doing with you?

[Briscole]

Her's was serious. Her bible thumping dad destroyed the lives of all of his daughters. I didn't know about that in the beginning. And I now believe that psychological therapy is a crock of shit. Some things can't be fixed. I learned that the hard way.

[Juxtapose]

Yeah, people who are really damaged almost never fully recover.

[Briscole]

I used to love to cook for us, but one day she stopped eating.


A doctor told me that anorexia only happens in rich countries. Because in poor countries, starving isn't a choice. Anorexia is about a choice. It's about feeling in control of something.

Well, that chapter is over and done. My only mistake was waiting too long to hit the eject button.
It's good to try and fix things, and guys are good at fixing things. But it's also good to know when things can't be fixed.

[Briscole]

Rosey blocked me. lol

She's about as dumb as as fence post.

[Erin2003]

When the sex stops, it’s over. When you decide to emotionally move on, that’s up to you.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No sex, until marriage for me, and relationship fine without sex. Yes sure sex is important I understand but saving for after marriage is better.

[HappyWoman34]

Good question. If I really loved someone, I could wait years for sex. But that’s just me.

[OddBeMe]

If sex is used as a weapon there’s something deeper wrong. Either fix it or dump them and move on.

Sex is always incidental to the relationship. It’s the perk not the point.

[emtyskin]

Hardly ever do it anymore maybe 3 times all summer and we work in the same place

[Juxtapose]

Why don't you find somebody else? Are you locked in with alimony?

[Pterodon]

Immediately

[Juxtapose]

Well technically that would mean as soon as she's not hopping on your dick as soon as it can get hard again then you're out of there.

How many days of waiting would you handle?

[Charliefretz329]

Maybe if she cut my actual “sex” off lol ✂️

[Christoff92]

Asexuality