I empathize with you as if you have been hurt in the past you may want to test someone to see if they will hurt you too. That being said though I think you should try to understand how you may be hurting them aswell. We are all human beings trying to find our one and only and you could end up hurting them person who you could've spent the rest of your life with. I'm trying to say that is your intention I'm positive that it's not but it is an unfortunate side effect. Also it hurts you too because you begin to feel like everyone is out to get you and you become defensive in your social life. I encourage to be more vulnerable but also try to bounce back when someone does something that would knock you down. You'll grow a stronger heart that can take the ache but also not hurt others in the process a sort of stoicism.
I think tests are way of looking for conflict. Not everyone has a good reaction when they realize they're being tested. It's ok if you want to make sure that you're secure in a relationship and your partner loves you. But like it's pointed out, you can see someone's true character and commitment by their actions, not words. I absolutely agree with that. Words can be meaningless.
I am autistic and literally cannot navigate these social games so people like this do not last long with me at all.
I had a girlfriend that said it was okay to hang out with a female friend and when I would hang out with that friend she would get mad. Even if I had her swore up and down she was okay with it and not just saying it to make me happy.
I am not a damn mind reader and I have no interest in even trying. Either be direct with me or leave me alone.
Fortunately being autistic has nothing to do with it. It's just something to expect from a normal and healthy relationship. I'm like you in my mindset that being honest and direct beats all the effort it takes in breaking down reading between the lines and secret code that people use.
well, it's not a blanket judgement on all women. it's admitting that, though i bring a lot to a relationship, i have limitations in navigating a relationship. so i'd rather be alone than put myself at risk because i choose poorly.
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