Boyfriends female friend comes over to his apartment sometimes- am I wrong to be jealous?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes she comes over to his apartment and it’s just her and him. I’m pretty jealous. Is it wrong that I am?

[Oliverlogan263]

It's not necessarily wrong to feel jealous in this situation, but you don't want to come off as too controlling either. A few things to keep in mind:

- Do you fully trust your boyfriend? If so, try to have a little more faith in him unless he gives you a reason not to. Guys and girls can just be friends.

- At the same time, your feelings are valid. It's only natural to feel a little weird about his female friend hanging out alone with him at his place.

- Talk to your man about it in a calm, non-accusatory way. Let him know it makes you uncomfortable without saying he can't see her. Coming at it like "babe, I'm feeling a little insecure..." works better than "you can't hang out with her!"

- Ask if you can join them next time. Having you there could ease your mind while also showing her there's no chance anything romantic is up.

- See how he reacts and if he respects your feelings. A good dude will make you feel better about it without getting too defensive.

- Trust but also watch for signs something ain't right. For now give him the benefit of the doubt unless proven otherwise. Communication is key!

As long as he's with you and you guys have trust, try not to stress too much. Jealousy in small doses is normal - don't let it consume you, you know? You've got this!

[Billlewis]

I don't think you're wrong for being concerned at all.

[jahaims]

What about it makes you jealous? Jealousy stems from insecurity. If you don't trust someone don't date them.

[Anonymous]

No, I would be jealous too especially if they are alone unless she is hideous or a lesbian I don’t trust anyone

[Anonymous]

You know why girls n guy meet alone in apartment? I hope you're smart enough to understand what's going on.