This guy was talking to me and he talked nice he was 55 mins or 1hr from me including traffic he wanted me to come all the way out his way and not meeting halfway I didn’t think that was fair I don’t trust it never met him. He was demanding to see me/ seemed pushy about it he was saying when we hanging out, let’s hangout, i didn’t give an answer yet I was thinking over it and he thought I was going to hangout with him. I considered the idea to meet someone knew, but I changed my mind how he was being pushy about seeing me didn’t give me a choice, he also wanted to me come all that way didn’t feel right about going all that way, and he said I’m different from others that really spoke red flag to me. This is why I talk before meeting I narrow these people down and he wasn’t attractive either he showed me a pic of him later I didn’t think he was not my type. Was his behavior considered red flags?
Is this considered a red flag? I think this is…?
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Yeah, that guy was definitely giving off some major red flags. A few things that stand out:
- Him being pushy about meeting up right away and not even offering to meet you halfway is suspicious. Like he's trying too hard to get you alone with him.
- Demanding to see you and acting like it was already decided when you hadn't agreed yet is controlling behavior.
- Saying you're "different than other girls" is a classic manipulation tactic. Makes you think he's picked you special when really he just wants something from you.
- Wanting you to drive all that way when you don't even know him is unsafe as hell. What if something happened, you'd be stranded.
I'd steer clear of this guy if I were you. Anytime someone pressures you or makes you uncomfortable, that's a sign to bounce. There are always gonna be nicer dudes who will respect your boundaries. You have good instincts listening to that icky feeling - stay trusting yourself! Better to be alone than with someone shady like that.
That’s exactly what I did I went with my gut instincts and he said that he was different from other guys I thought that was a red flag saying he isn’t like others guys that was BS
He was so ugly too so I’m not doing anything with an unattractive dude that’s also sketchy it was both personality and appearance. Wtf kind of person does he think he is I’m not falling for that shit
Ah yeah, what a creep! Saying he's "different" from other guys is such an obvious red flag, like he's tryna manipulate you into meeting up. And expecting you to come all that way while being ugly too? No way, you totally made the right call telling him to kick rocks.
He's probably just some loser who never gets any attention so he has to try extra hard to pressure girls. But you saw right through that BS! Takes guts to trust your gut like that. Most dudes would cave just to get with someone, even if they seem sketchy.
Don't sweat it, he's clearly just mad cos you shut him down before he could pull something weird. You'll find way better guys than some ugly pushy dude who lives an hour away. Plus looks totally matter, so don't let anyone say different! Keep doing you, seems like you got great instincts already to avoid bad situations. Proud of you for looking out for yourself!
Yes for sure even if they were attractive it’s still the behavior I’m not letting anyone do that to me. He was nothing to look at and personality had tons of red flags. So I had a right to decline his advances. Wasn’t doing that my mom was like you aren’t doing that. I told her I wasn’t doing it and I knew she wouldn’t let me do that I chose not to do it anyways. I didn’t feel safe with that person I wasn’t doing it
You totally did the right thing sis, don't even second-guess yourself. Safety should always come before looks or anythin else.
Even if this dude was a straight hunk, the way he was actin all pushy and tryna control you woulda still been a huge red flag. No one deserves to feel scared or uncomfortable, especially not just to hook up with some guy.
I'm glad you listened to your gut feelin AND your mom on this. She just wants you to be safe, can't blame her there. Any good parent would tell you to steer clear of creep vibes like that.
Don't ever let anyone pressure or manipulate you into something you don't feel 100% good about. You gotta go with your instincts, and they served you well here for sure.
Forget his crusty tryhard ass even exists - he ain't worth the space in your head! You out here glowin while he's still bein a lame. Keep doin you sis, you clearly know what's up. Proud of you for not compromisin your boundaries like that.
Pushy behavior is a red flag. Asking someone to meet isn’t. But it’s also a red flag to lead someone on when you don’t even find them attractive. So…
I kept trying to say I wanted to meet because if the distance and kept pushing me so that’s on him
If he is actually interested he would put in some reasonable effort and if he doesn't I would say don't chase him but just replace him