Would you be cool with it?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend left her situationship to be with me. I do know she still has feelings for him. They are still friends and meet up for coffee here and there. He doesn't even know about me. She is acting super distant lately. How would you handle this?

[HollyK21]

I wouldn’t. Here’s the thing, you can’t tell people what to do so obviously in this case you wouldn’t ask her to stop seeing this guy, but you would think that she just *would* because of their past. I’d also imagine since she still has feelings that’s even more incentive to stay away, but one on one dates? This to me is inappropriate and taking advantage of your trust. I wouldn’t be with someone like her, who couldn’t be bothered with my peace of mind.

[Asker]

Thank you. I feel validated.

[HollyK21]

No worries! Don’t let her gaslight you into thinking what she’s doing is ok, it’s not.

[OlderAndWiser]

You should engage in a long period of introspection and determine why you allowed yourself to get into such a stupid situation. Then act like a man and tell her to GTFO.