My boyfriend states that he doesn't want anymore cats after my current two would pass and is saying that it could possibly be a requirement for marriage. But then again states it's an open topic but each time I try to discuss it and figure out a way that cats would be okay (as I have borderline personality disorder and anxiety and depression and chronic complex post-traumatic stress disorder and cats are actually therapeutic for me and I need them around the house) he comes off as either a television commercial for a medication that lists all the side effects super fast or a contract that has like five pages. Where he had a condition where he wants to get married in a church and I am not a fan of organized religion personally, I'm not against it, to each their own, I just did not want to be married in a church. We could easily get married outside and his religion could be included and there would be no issues. But I said I would compromise and get married in a church and completely give up what I want for a ceremony as long as I don't have to join that religion because that would be a lie. Why is it that I am willing to make compromises and give up on what I want with a simple condition while he is having so many terms and conditions? Do you think it's fair that I have explained to him over and over how much they helped me and I have told him I'm willing to show him the research that they help with my mental status and he still seems like he will not budge even though he claims that the topic is open?
I would not marry him, if the cat has medical benefits and he is not allergic, he should value you enough to consider that your needs outweighs his desires. He does not sound like somebody who believes in playing fair and that is disastrous for a long term relationship.
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Anonymous
(25-29)
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Well did he tell you why he diesnt want cats? Is it they smell, he doesn't want to feed them, they cost too much, they break the furniture, they watch you while you are intimate, he has to take care of them most, he’s an owl person and gets irritated when they wake him up at 4 am because they slept enough and are ready to eat? Although it isn’t the same, My dad didn’t want a cat at home, we discussed, he agreed if we take care of him ( he had previous bad experience as he had to take care for a dog he didn’t want) and now he's the biggest fan of our cat.
Doesn't really sound like a healthy relationship, what about a dog? Dogs can also relieve stress, would this also work for you? If so then you can ask him if he's ok with it. If not, I'd start thinking if this is the relationship for you. Marriage, shouldn't be a contract (maybe a prenup). If you need terms and conditions to stay together, that isn't a marriage. That's a workplace
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Anonymous
(36-45)
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2 cats max, no more and no cats in bedroom, only in living room. Your mental stuff, would be huge issue. Church marriage, I don't care I'm not religious. Going to church after big NO, I have more interesting stuff to do, she can do whatever, just don't advertise it or make me villain because of it later or think, that I will be taking you there.
Cats can live up to 15 years so he has a long wait if not having cats is a requirement of marriage. Just tell him he will have a pussy sitting on his face every night if he allows you to have them.
You're boyfriend is telling you that he might end the relationship over you getting cats? Because that is what I am understanding from this post. He doesn't seem very empathetic to your situation, nor is je understanding. I wouldn't proceed any further with someone who blatantly disregards my health and my concerns because it makes him "uncomfortable" or for small comforts like cats. Is he allergic? Is that what it is?
People with strong religious feelings will rarely compromise. Their beliefs won't let them. Marriage ceremony will be a certain way. Kids will be brought up in a certain way and as a certain religion.
That is pretty sad. He's made it out to seem like he can't wait till your beloved cats die too. I'd say that isn't a negotiable thing. If you want cats you can get cats he can't stop you from adopting more.
Boy, sounds like you two are made for each other! I've been in that exact same scenario. It's hard, for sure, but give him lots of sex and he'll come around.
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Anonymous
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let me guess he's muslim or paki or indian. why are you even bothering for? if the douchebag can't compromise then you shouldn't either. stick to what makes you healthy mentally and ditching that loser sounds like it would make you healthier overall.
Muslims pakis and indians are allowed to raise cats prick lol if u wanna be racist and islamophobic maybe get an education first, there’s a whole sahabi (companion) of prophet muhammed (pbuh) who is called abu hurayrah huryrah stands for hera in arabic which means cat and he was named that because he loved cats so much and he always had them around mosques... but ok if u wanna be an uneducated loser lol
@frenchfriesnoketchup if i wanted to be racist i would of called him a fucking sandnigger. such pricks as your worthless boyfriend are proving my point already
@frenchfriesnoketchup my point exactly with your last reply. have fun dealing with the fucking paki or indian or fucking muslim and when the piece of shit's family hates your guts for not converting your religion to their fucked up shit don't come crying on here especially come that bullshit ramadan
I don't know what kind of unrelated question you would have but you could message me yourself also you have a completely blocked where people can't message you
