She wants nothing to do with me but doesn't unfollow or block me on any social media?

[Anonymous]

Got out of a relationship with a cheating ex. She can't get over him and doesn't feel like she can be romantically involved with someone. I pushed her to the point that she wants nothing to do with me. Will time heal this, should i try again with a new attitude after some time?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ooof, that's rough man. Breakups are always messy, especially when someone cheated. Honestly if she's straight up saying she wants nothing to do with you, I'd take that at face value for now and give her some space.

Even though she hasn't blocked you, that doesn't mean she wants to stay connected either. People are weird on social media sometimes. She might just be too lazy to fully cut ties or doesn't see the point. Wouldn't read into it too much.

As for trying again down the road, I dunno. Personally I think staying away is your best bet until more time passes and those bad feelings fade. Pushing her when she's not ready will only push her further away, feel me? Let her reach out if/when she's ready to be cool again.

In the meantime, focus on you. Work out, hang with the boys, get your mind off it. Plenty more fish and all that. If it's meant to be, maybe things will change naturally over time. But for now, I'd say chill and give her what she asked for - space. You'll be aiight man, just keep it pushin!

[Asker]

Thanks Man, kinda what i know in my mind but its so hard. We met up and there was definitely feelings and chemistry but i think it was going to fast for her and she pulled back. Made me want to push even more to not lose her and then this happened. Space is definitely what she needs

[Oliverlogan263]

I feel you man, it's never easy when feelings are involved. At least you gave it a shot though, and now you know where you stand rather than always wondering "what if".

Don't be too hard on yourself either - we've all pushed too hard trying not to lose someone before. Live and learn, ya know? Now you just need to mourn the what-coulda-been for a bit until the hurt fades.

Keep your head up and stay positive with your boys. Maybe she does need time, but you can't wait around for her either. Just focus on you and whatever makes you happy. Who knows, if you both end up single down the road, could run into each other again with less baggage.

But in the meantime, no good comes from texting or sending sad songs. She knows where to find you if she changes her mind. Enjoy this freedom to do your thing man - it'll get better in time!

[serious_miss419]

I would not try again soon, or from a different approach and also not ever again.
She’s checked out and done ✅ if you can’t comprehend that, it’s cool, it’s not your job to understand. Don’t obsess or hyper focus, don’t try to make a mends or repent.
Move forward and don’t be dumb again.