Do you know any happily married people or are they all miserable?

[coachTanthony]

Yes and they are happy

No they are all miserable how did you know?

[wolfcat87]

"A recent study of Census Data, and survey conducted by Mixbook of 3,000 Americans has provided insights into how many people who are married across the U. S feel that they are happy in their relationship. The study found that overall (on average), 74%, or about 98 million Americans say they are happily married."

https://www.mixbook.com/inspiration/study-the-most-happily-married-couples-in-america-2023

I've known happily married couples. To be fair though, no one is happy all the time.

People always return to the baseline of contentment. Sometimes the baseline moves if you're too happy all the time, it becomes the norm and you have to do even more to be happy.

On top of that, everyone has some variety bad days, weeks, months, years, etc. If they didn't, then how would they be able to fully enjoy the happy days without anything to contrast them to?

The median length of first marriages is 22 years. Most people are happy in their first marriage.

There are definitely miserable people staying in marriages too though. Most for kids or money.

[Exterminatore]

I’m happily married. Marriage is really a Christian rite of passage, though other religions and the non religious marry also. It won’t work well if you don’t go about it the way God intended. Even if you do it will still probably be difficult for most. For those who don’t care about God or religion I advise against it as it probably won’t go well.


Even St. Paul said this in scripture:



“But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such people as yourselves will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭28‬ ‭NASB2020‬‬
The last sentence being the one of relevance there where St. Paul states the married will have difficulty in life, referring to the vast differences between the genders.


Jesus disciples said this:



“The disciples *said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.””
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭19‬:‭10‬ ‭NASB2020‬‬
So, can you be happily married? Sure. However if you care nothing about religion or God, save yourself the trouble and skip it.

[Bricealan]

Coach, you know it is difficult to really KNOW if couples are really happy with their marriage. The married couples I know and have been around, do not seem at all 'happy-per se, and many constantly 'bicker between each other on a regular basis. I knew a couple back 'home' in Ohio, that seemed 'happy' but found that even them bordered on divorce at one point.

[coachTanthony]

Well we can only go off of what we see so yeah deep down we might not know at all what is happening in their marriage. Perception though is our reality.

[Anonymous]

No, even at age 18, I knew marriage was an ideology and a trap.
Money, Expense Trap, for both men and women.

Marriage does not ensure someone will keep their dick in their pants! 🤦🏻‍♀️ Ladies!

Marriage and Religion are a social construct. Has nothing to do with reality and nature. You never know if he or she will cheat given the opportunity with someone of good genes or sexually attractive. You just never know. A physical interaction takes one a couple minutes to an hour. And a bit of time. Just a bit of privacy, that’s all it takes.

You just want to say “I’m married “ cause it looks good and moral on picture… to your family and friends.
It looks like someone gave your their fidelity.

Doesn’t change the fact that it’s an ideology, it is unnatural, and abnormal.

I've seen more than enough married women in their 20’s even early 30’s cheat on their husband with the Chad at my job. More than ENOUGH.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I voted yes but then you can never REALLY say, unless you with that couple 24/7…

[bros26]

You should be brand ambassador for positivity 😘

[kylee2437]

Very few are actually happy and it’s because they continued to stick around each other thick and thin through the dirt they put each other through.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

There is certainly a lot of validity in your point which notes sticking it out through thick and thin. Maya certainly has heard about some of the issues my wife and I have faced, but when you look back, there is a sense of pride for realizing your mistakes, and what you did to overcome the troubles, the relationship faced. We are definitely at a happy point right now :-)
Sometimes you have to remember to look for reasons to be happy, because if you don't want to see them, you won't.

[kylee2437]

@middleagedclimbee hey, I’m happy for you and your wife! It definitely takes putting your pride to the side for sure. What I will add is a lot of those unhappy couples don’t put pride of their side and just push everything underneath the rug and it turns into chaos eventually

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

You are wise beyond your years :-). The two of you make a wonderful couple!

[OlderAndWiser]

"they continued to stick around each other thick and thin" Yeah, that's the promise they made, but honoring the promise pays off.

[kylee2437]

@OlderAndWiser nothing in a vow says sticking through someone cheating and abusing within the relationship

[OlderAndWiser]

Agreed! But that is not the usual explanation for most divorces.

[kylee2437]

@olderwiser there is a variety of reasons people divorce but I overall feel like people shouldn’t have to be miserable with each other for the sake of statistics ☺️

[OlderAndWiser]

And I feel that people should promise forever and then get a divorce because they didn't think marriage would require any effort. And staying together is NOT for the sake of statistics; it is for the sale of honoring your commitment to your partner, and demonstrating to yourself that you are a person who keeps your word. No statistics involved.

[kylee2437]

@OlderAndWiser the word doesn’t end if two people don’t stay married. You are doing a disservice to your family when you stay married when you shouldn’t.

[OlderAndWiser]

shouldn't

[OlderAndWiser]

You should never get married.

[kylee2437]

@OlderAndWiser imagine thinking you have that much control over a strangers life. Thanks for your worthless opinion

[OlderAndWiser]

You have made it clear that your decision about a divorce will be made solely on the basis of "me, me, me" and you have no respect for the idea of commitment. So, you shouldn;t get married, and the problem is solved for you.

[kylee2437]

@OlderAndWiser oh yeah because me thinking about the overall family is definitely me only thinking about me for sure. You know it all so well. Once again, thank you for your worthless opinion

[OlderAndWiser]

So, if I disagree with you, I am worthless. That is why you shouldn't get married. Conflicts are inevitable in any marriage and you will be telling a husband how worthless he is. Yes, you shouldn't get married, not as long as you maintain that attitude.

[kylee2437]

@OlderAndWiser actually I’m saying you are worthless - I’m not married to you. Your ability to not understand anything beyond your own perspective makes you worthless in my eyes

[Altheavas]

I think there are still happy married couple. Just keep people useless opinion out of your marriage.
How I would approach this.


First ; We were not perfect when we started our relationship, or when we got married. We saw potential to have a great family with each other, those are still there, I’m happy about it. We wanted to complete each other at where we we lack. We’re a team. My partner is not solely responsible for my happiness, I don’t think I have that whole responsibility either. There’s still collaboration, trust, respect, and we support each other interests with our mean, we compromise, there is communication, we accepted that each other are human, and things happen in life that is out of our control. We’re not in love everyday, but we commit with each keep bringing the sparks that’ll help.


2nd: The minute there is disrespect, can’t communicate not more, and there’s is abused, I’m out the door, my patience can only hold so long before thinning out.

[nastyb]

I think that people tend to settle at some point in life. I have known plenty of married women who pay all the bills, do all the housework, cooking , child care while their husband has no other responsibilities but to watch the game after coming home from work. Yet, these women don't complain about their husbands being their "3rd child". They can say they are "happy" and will never divorce their husbands. But I think its just the fact that they have settled in life. At some point , people realize that marriage is not about happiness. It is about having someone to be there for you forever. Spending the rest of your life with someone is better than dying all alone lonely and neglected.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

We are happy :-). We certainly go through down times when other parts of life or our attitudes turn to negativity, but we come back stronger in most instances. There's really only two options: work through your differences and keep each other updated on how your individual life is going or don't communicate and let the anger build.

[sage2021]

I think most couple's want everyone to be envious of them and make people believe they are happy. Maybe there are some, but it usually doesn't last long.
I didn't vote 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Unit1]

Call me crazy but I've only known miserable married people except 1 pair. There were other married ones, that didn't seem miserable but I was unable to assess whether they are generally happy or generally miserable. Many just don't air their dirty laundry in the public.

He be fat, ugly and sometimes balding.

She be fat, ugly and sometimes acting like she is owed.

[NathanDavis]

yes, they vast majority of married people I actually are happily married or content

there's been a few who weren't but they are not married anymore, they divorced... so they're no longer unhappy with the situation

[Simslover92]

My boyfriend's friends are married and very happy. They have a baby on the way and just bought a house.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I know a couple that just celebrated their 45th or 48th anniversary that are happy as a couple pigs in mud... most of the others, yeah... pretty miserable.

[thegreenyogi]

The only people I knew of that were really happily married were my parents.

[Anpu23]

We're happy, met in high school 35 years ago, had a kid, married, divorced, started dating afain, remarried and have been together for 20 years.

[strateguy632]

the proverb, "i divorced her but as a second marriage she is good enough.

[RobT312]

Not all are happy, but most are. Feeling good that my brother, sister, and I all have happy marriages (so far!)

[DJB72]

"Happy" is such a transitory state. I have friends whose lives are so complicated by illness and accidents they make mine look easy whose life exudes Joy in spite of their circumstances.

I have friends who ended up divorced despite having everything the World says matters: six figure income, two kids, sports car and 4x4, etc.

I don't want to be "happy". I want far, FAR more than mere happiness.

[Radiate143]

Tough one. They may not be happy as in everything is perfect and their spouse is always the highlight of their day but, I can guarantee you they would be downright broken and miserable without their spouses.

Married life is a commitment and these come with challenges. Everyone is cool with suffering for invidualistic pursuits but as soon as it requires accommodating another person it's a whole problem.

[Anonymous]

it's fake happiness for social media.

i'm waiting for my friend and her spouse to get so annoyed with her attitude and be so miserable that they divorce and i can laugh and know i was right all along.

[Anonymous]

My brother and his wife are happy. They show affection when we're there, like kisses and hugging. Spend time together, laugh and such.

I have a friend I'm not that much in contact with. She got married in 2017 and still seem happy with what she's building with her husband.

My parents, my friends parents, and others in our social circle are still together and seem happy together.

So yeah, plenty in my immediate vicinity

[LiamJHayden]

I know a few, mostly much older. I had one man, no joke, tell me in all seriousness, "The first 25 years are the hardest. After that it is easy."

[bededazzle]

married with trust, support and stability. happy?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I know more happily re-married people than people who married once and stayed happy.

[Alwayreckles93]

Only christian marriages are happy abd successful. Cathlics coupleshave issues because they dont take the Lord seriously. This is why I advice christian to marry other christians. Only christians have successful marriages.

[cowboy1213]

Are you Christian?

[Exterminatore]

@always

That’s not true. There are good marriages in and outside of Christianity. What you said about Catholics is also not true. Many of them are more devout than Protestants. At least a Catholic will tell you faith without works is dead. Many, many Protestants are unfamiliar with that piece of scripture and abuse grace. They think they can live as they please without repentance and still find mercy from God. I assure you that is the fastest way to Hell.

Many, many, many claims Protestants make of Catholics are wholly inaccurate. They frequently repeat what they have heard and have never investigated the matter.

Even Martin Luther urged Protestants to not hate the Roman Catholic Church but to love it stating: “for the Church of Rome is our mother, what would we know of scripture or the sacraments or the pulpit had it not been for them.

I hear Protestants saying all the time about the Apocrypha and purgatory and prayers for the dead how they are unbiblical, yet not even one can name one reason why the apocrypha or deuterocanon as Catholics call it should not be included as canon. They are unaware it was in Protestant bibles until the mid 1600’s more that 150 years after the reformation. They are unaware like 5 ecumenical councils going back to the 300’s reaffirmed it as scripture. They don’t even know how it ever ended up in the Bible. Frankly after investigating that matter very thoroughly and am still I’m 50/50 on it. They don’t know Martin Luther also wanted to exclude other books that all Christians accept as canon like James and Esther. They just repeat what they heard with no formal inquiry. Even the best scholars who are against it very, very timidly say it should not be canon.

All this Catholic bashing gets old as most who do it are uninformed and all of us Catholics are not Roman Catholics. Some of us have the same issues with Roman Catholicism and the Vatican that Protestants do. I even explained this to you when I told you I returned to

[Exterminatore]

Catholicism. Try to be careful in making broad statements against all Catholics. Some of us are on the same page as most Protestants. There is plenty of hearsay in certain Protestant denominations also. Like speaking in tongues which is a total crock the way Pentecostals and Charismatics understand it. Yet I don’t hear any Catholics walking around going: “but the Protestants…. but the Protestants believe….. but the Protestants are evil….. but the Protestants teach falsehood. This is a one way street and it really should end. Most Protestant theology is fine, but some of it is downright blasphemy and some frankly open disobedience, like communion consisting of oyster crackers and grape juice, when scripture clearly says bread and wine for communion. Yet I hear no Catholics constantly criticizing Protestants about these matters or their complete ignorance regarding the reformation, apocrypha, and a host of other issues.

You must understand it’s frankly distressing to see Protestants constantly criticize Catholics. We even discussed recently how your pastor said Legos, Spider-Man and makeup is a sin and that to teach such is in fact not Biblical and incorrect. Ultimately it’s the duty of every Christian to study scripture and doctrine for themselves rather than just shrugging their shoulders and saying “but pastor said.” So you being a Protestant will quickly criticize Catholics, yet overlook the shortcomings of the teachers in your churches. None of this brings unity to the body of Christ. At the time the Reformation was wholly necessary. I will be very fast to say the tube has come to have a massive reformation within Protestantism as many Protestant churches have become as corrupt as the Roman Catholic Church and many have equally unbiblical teachings.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Exterminatore Look I am very sorry you feel that way and I do apologize if I offended you with my comments about catholicism Sir. But I am only speaking for what I have seen. Yes I did join the pentecostal chruch after my horrible experience with my ex husband. I will have to say, thisnchristian sisters and brothers welcome me into their congergation. I met my wonderful husband in this congergation. I do have to say pentecostal woman are very faithful andloyal to their husbands. I haveobly seen good things. The first time I step into this church the pastor waspraying he said someone here that has childhood trauma. I started crying and all that trauma I went threw horrible things that had happened to me. I had to closenall those doors. I am just speaking from my own experience.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Exterminatore My when family is catholic and it seems like the devil lives inside them including my mom she's a devoted catholic but the devil lives inside her. She is just evilike you had no idea. I have seen unfair treament in the catholic chruch.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Exterminatore I do apologize if I came off as offensive but I have no desires to return to the catholic chruch its all full of snakes the devil it self. I dont want nothing to do with it. The virgin Mary isn't real biblical Mary was Jesus Mother. Catholic people live a disorganized lifestyle drinking going out parting using profanity. Oh and forgot to mention CATHOLIC WOMAN ONLY attend to cheat on husbands.

[Exterminatore]

@always

You haven’t offended me nor angered me. I just find it upsetting to see all this division in the body of Christ. We are one family. All brothers and sisters in the Lord, all with one common father. Yet we have divorced each other over and over and over to where there are now like 50 different denominations of Christianity. Some of those denominations no longer practice sound doctrine. All of this division is not good. Much of it is not necessary. Was the reformation necessary? Certainly. At that time the Roman Catholic (RC) Church had become completely corrupt. After that time they even came up with completely unbiblical doctrines too many to mention. Was that split necessary? Yes. My church even split from the RC and the Vatican just after Vatican I as there were many, many unbiblical doctrines in that council they agreed on. A few Methodists have split from the main body of Methodists due to allowing homosexual within the church. Is this spilt necessary? Certainly. There are legit reasons to split off from a church, to separate from heretics, to split from the openly disobedient to God’s word. Yet look how many other denominations there are over very minor things. Are we not all one body? Then why do we keep serprating ourselves over small things and why do we not lovingly correct those we find in error? Where is grace? Are we not told to remove the entire plank in our eye before we say to a brother “let me help remove that sliver from your eye?” How can it be if a church may have more minor doctrinal misunderstandings can criticize another with great or small doctrinal misunderstandings? Would they not do well to straighten them selves out and examine themselves first before trying to correct others?

I don’t think Pentecostal women are any more faithful than Methodist women, or Non Denominational women, or Methodist women or Presbyterian women or Catholic women. Faithfulness to one’s husband and wife ought to be a hallmark of all true Christians

[Exterminatore]

Regardless of what church they go to, for no church that truly follows God condones adultery and all condemn it. All true Christians should have in some measure the fruit of the Spirit, 2 of which are faithfulness and self control. Yet adultery still happens. Albeit seldomly. It’s not the denomination that makes one more or less faithful, it’s the Holy Spirit and the fruit he causes us to bear by residing in our heart.

That brings me to your mom. She may well be a Catholic and may well go to church, but from all you’ve ever told me of her, she is no Christian, and does not obey God, and clearly evidences the works of the flesh. Jesus taught about such in at least 2 parables. One regarding the 2 types of fish, and one regarding the wheat and the tears. In both he made clear that within his church and his kingdom on earth there are 2 growing together. Those who are his, and those who are not his. Both in the church together. Those of true faith and those who are imposters. Those who seek to obey, and serve, and please him and those who do not. This is true of every church. There are those who are really saved and serve God, and there are those who aren’t saved and serve and worship themselves and deceive themselves.

The Catholic Church RC or otherwise is not necessary full of snakes and devils, though I’d suggest the Vatican surely is. There are many in the RC church who truly love God and desire to serve him, but are wholly ignorant of the official doctrines of the RC. God will probably eventually lead them out of there.

Mary was Jesus mother. That is right and a very special woman, as I can think of no higher calling for a woman than to be conceived with and give birth to the messiah. Yet I also agree she is given entirely too much attention in Catholicism and they have practically made a goddess out of her. However Mary was certainly a virgin when the Holy Spirit made him incarnate in Mary. Mary certainly did not stay a virgin as the RC teaches for scripture

[Exterminatore]

Records Jesus had earthly brothers. Mary is certainly not coredmptrix (coredeemer) with Christ, she is certainly not mediatrix (mediator) with Christ, although scripture doesn’t say or deny it I think most certainly she did not ascend into heaven alive as Jesus did or was not taken to heaven alive as Enoch and Elijah were, nor as the faithful will be at the end of the age after the dead in Christ have been first resurrected.

Yes, I’m sure there are some Catholics who are sinners. Without a doubt. As I told you scripture stated we’d fine sinners in church right along with the faithful.

You are wrong to say that Catholic women only attend church to cheat on their husbands. That is a very broad and sweeping condemnation of like 3 billion people. Catholic women who truly have the Holy Spirit in them don’t cheat any more than Protestants in the same state do.

So I am not offended but saddened. Saddened by Protestants who continually attack Catholics and the Catholic Church. I am not at all saying that the RC doesn’t need very serious reform and repentance. I am not saying the RC’s theology is very distorted in some places. I am not saying that much of the leadership in the RC no longer truly serves God, nor that they are not still very corrupt 500 + years after the reformation.

What I am saying is many Protestant churches and denominations are equally as bad if not worse with their theology. What I am saying is many Protestant churches are corrupt also. This is a universal problem within Christianity. Christ warned as soon as he ascended false teachers would invade the church.

What I am also saying is where is there grace to one another? Where is there is the love? One thinks speaking in tongues, that is, speaking in an unknown language to both the speaker, and all humans, and all spirits good and evil and one that is understood by God alone is actually a thing, fine. I know for fact it’s a misunderstanding of scripture, but so long as they believe in God and

[Exterminatore]

Obey him, though they be in error, shall we bash them even if they refuse to listen? And of the non denominational who have book stores and coffee shops in their vestibules…. didn’t Jesus make a whip and clean out the temple saying that they made his father’s house a house of merchandise? Shall we separate from them and condemn them also even if all the rest of their theology is right?

Do you see my point here? Christians are reformed sinners. We still sin, yet that should be less and less as time goes on. We still have to ask forgiveness daily as I’m sure we all commit at least one sin daily in deed, speech or thought, often without realizing it. Since a church is made up of imperfect yet reformed sinners, that is sinners who are growing in the Lord and are going through the process of sanctification and who are imperfect and but dust as was Adam, there are bound to be minor misunderstandings or disobedience somewhere, as the church it self is merely an organization made up of imperfect people who’s spirits reside in sinful flesh and are weak because of this. Certainly there is a time to separate, to rebuke, and to draw a line, however I think all of us as complete body of Christ have been a little overzealous about minor things when perhaps we should be more graceful in order to not have so much division amongst us. I’m not saying we ought to tolerate sin, or open disobedience or unscriptural teachings, but I’m also saying I think in the roughly 2000 year history of the church we, as a whole have been a bit trigger happy and over zealous on things.

That brings me to the RC’s. I hear Protestants continually bashing them, yet they don’t even know what the problems are, they know nothing of Church history, they know nothing of the various ecumenical councils throughout history and don’t even know how our Bible got to be as it is. They simply parrot what they have been told and have never investigated matters. There are 2 sides to every pancake and it is silly

[Exterminatore]

To hear only one side of an argument without investigating the other side thoroughly. Even in court both plaintiffs and defendant get to tell their side and refer to evidence and call witnesses. Yet this is not afforded to Catholics or RC’s. I ask you, is that right? To accept testimony from one without hearing the other before arriving at a conclusion?

The roots of all Protestant denominations come from the RC. Yet I hear no thankfulness for what they got right as the vast majority of Protestant theology comes from the RC’s who passed down a rich history and rather thorough theology. The RC from its roots to now has existed for nearly 2000 years. Being a church is made up of those still in corrupt flesh, they’ve had way, way, way longer than any Protestant denomination to both develop theology and make errors.

Again, I’m not saying the RC doesn’t need serious repentance and not saying that even until now there aren’t serious issues with corruption, but I am saying don’t think Protestant denominations are spotless either. As an individual continually repents life long and grows in the Lord, so do churches.

I think it’s time for Protestants to stop being so harsh to Catholics and see their own errors. I think it’s time for them to return to orthodoxy. I think it’s time if they should choose to criticize the Catholics to at least come well informed on the issues as the Catholics are on their side of things and weak and lame arguments won’t be heard by them as they are way more informed than almost all Protestants. Protestants would do well to be much more thoroughly informed on the issues and I think if many of them study out the matters they will find that perhaps they are quite wrong on a number of things.

We need to love one another more and stop throwing stones in our own glass houses.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Exterminatore Yes we are saved by the grace of the Lord. Yes theirnis love when we love the Lord. Sir people can just call us christian not protestant. We focus on Jesus not saint or Mary. Saint can't save us Mary can't save us. Yes biblical Mary gave birth to Jesus but only Jesus is the only one that save us all from our sins. Yes you are correct in one way or another we sin no one is perfect only Jesus is perfect. But honestly no one told me this I've seen catholics bashing and discriminate christian.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Exterminatore I am very confuse. You teach me the word ofthe Lord. The Lord used you to get me out of that Mormon cult I am very confused and shocked you that you are actually defending the catholic church in the past you advice me not to go back to catholic church. Your a very devoted christian you had always served the Lord. I a very surprised and confuse

[Alwayreckles93]

@Exterminatore Most catholic people live a disorganized lifestyle. Look for example my ex husband new wife Janet she was catholic now mormon. So yes all catholic woman are Jezabels bow I don't want to say the S word. . Maybe I am just tired of catholics acting all like monsters.

[Alwayreckles93]

Forgot to mention even my sister being a Jehovas witness ask a cathic priest for help at her new home for a blessing the priest refuse. The priest was scare and his answer was I dont ness with that kind of stuff just throw holly water. No help nothing. My pastor still went did the blessing even knowing my sister is a jehovas witness. I help out with out a complain.

[Exterminatore]

@always

Yes, I told you not to go to a Catholic Church. They are in severe error. But that is the Roman Catholics. The current pope is a blasphemer.

However, you must understand, Protestants came out of them. The majority of Protestant doctrine came from the Catholics.

But now I look, and I see the Protestants have gone off the chains equally as bad as the RC church. We have the Methodists and Episcopalians now doing gay marriages. So both churches have split. We have the Carasmatics who are outright blasphemous. We have non denominational churches, not all but some with their rock bands for worship music, watered down gospel, oyster crackers and grape juice for communion and coffee shops and bookstores in the same buildings as churches.

At that time I thought better you did not return to the RC church, as they would have you worshiping Mary and other such things. However a lot of Protestant churches are just about as bad now, maybe even worse.

Yet one problem I see with the Protestants is they will criticize Roman Catholicism, yet have never done research. They then approach a RC and get owned because for as bizzare as a lot of RC doctrine is, they are at least familiar with the issues regarding what Protestants criticize them of.

I’ve never heard any Catholics really criticizing Protestants, yet I see it the other way often. Even my favorite preacher John MacArther does so often, and while he is probably the finest preacher alive today, he is at times wrong in his criticism and forgets the legacy the Protestants received from the Roman church.

At this point in my walk with God I feel we as Christian’s need to stop with all the modernism that has entered the church and return to orthodoxy. Feminism came in a while ago. Now the homosexuality and tranny and social justice stuff is rampant, but not so with the old school Catholics and not with the Eastern Orthodox churches. Those two groups are standing firm. This is why I returned to a Catholic Church.

[Exterminatore]

Many, but not all Protestant church’s are nearly now more degenerate than the RC church itself. Everything must be made cool to appeal to the dumbed down youth who are more interested in an emotional experience than hearing God’s word. The hymns have been replaced by Christian rock music. The gospel they preach never mentions repentance and living a holy life. Many allow women as members of the clergy. Social inclusion has replaced calling homosexuality sin. Social justice has replaced personal responsibility. Coffee shops and book stores are added for those who need to be entertained and need their flesh appealed to, right along with their rock bands for worship music.

At this point I don’t even know who’s worse. The Roman Catholics or the many Protestant denominations who have turned from truth to error.

What I do know is this. A lot of the old school Catholics will at least still live holy lives as misguided as they may be.

This is why I left Protestantism for Catholicism. Yet I am not a Roman Catholic, yet I’ll also not worship in a place where a lot of the things I just started are going on and it is very wide spread.

You just gotta be careful with what you say about Catholic women. The ones you’re describing are not Christians at all but imposters, but I tell you truthfully the same kind of women you are describing are all through Protestant churches also. It’s not just a Catholic thing.

We are in very dark times spiritually. Modernism has corrupted churches along with liberal political doctrine.

Just be careful how you criticize the Catholics though. Thought the RC is in tremendous error, many RC’s at least have holy outward conduct and the unholiness that is in many Protestant churches has become plain for both them and myself to see. Do not forget the legacy of the Roman church. A vast majority of Protestant theology was developed by them over the centuries. Our attitude towards all these wayward churchs ought to yes, be one of rebuke, but

[Exterminatore]

In the spirit of love.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Exterminatore I just can't understand you are orbwere very string in yournfaith with the Lord. I wonder what made you live a christian church. Did something happend? I tough the husband was the leaderofthe house hold. So why diffend catholic woman that well not sorry howto discrive it, well have a mind of theirbown lets just say that.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Exterminatore Janet was a catholic and shebwear short clothing. My mom. My stepdad who didhourble thingsbto me. Lets see people at my church. Family forced catholicism done my throte it was horrible dont get me strated on that creepy statues. Catholics put theirbfaith on statues saints I am award the Lord isn't okay with that it has been said I am a jelous God.

[Alwayreckles93]

And what makes you think cathlic woman live a christian standers?

[Exterminatore]

Because the lack of orthodoxy is the problem in Protestantism. We need to return to strictness.

Again, those women you’re describing are not Christians. They may be in a church and sit in the pews and hear sermons, but their behavior shows who they really are. A leopard can’t change his spots.

There is nothing wrong with iconography.

My faith as not changed for the worst but for the better. I cannot tolerate the modernism that has found its way into Protestant churches. It is the spirt of the Antichrist. So I will go where that spirit has had the least influence which is to a hardcore traditional form of worship and church. I refuse to listen to Christian rock in church or hear a watered down message. A return to the way things always were is now required.

We already had the Protestant reformation. It was necessary. Now they need a reformation of their own. Just about all their churches are compromised and I’ll not worship in a place like that where there is no fear of God nor reverence to him. This is what you’re having trouble understanding. Go to a RC church. You will still find reverence there, then go to a Protestant church and you can’t find it. Jesus is treated like everyone’s beer drinking buddy instead of the almighty and most high God. I’m fed up with it. It’s all I see in the vast majority of Protestant churches.

There needs to be a return to orthodoxy. We need to go like 1300 years backwards. When worship was centered on God, not on men. When there was reverence and holiness in the church. I hate modernism and the influence it’s had on the church.

Why attack Catholic women? Why? You act like they are the devil themselves. At least they generally seem to know what reverence is.

I tell you, Protestantism needs very serious reform.

[Exterminatore]

I don’t think you are getting it. Why do I see people in Protestant churches gently swaying their hips to the music being played by a rock band holding their hands in the air with their palms facing away from them like this: 🤲 ? Sure looks like they’re having a good ole time. Is that why we’re in church now? To be entertained?

Why do I see a light display in some of these church’s to accompany the music? Am I now going to be told that the lights are to edify God? Why stop there? Why not get a smoke machine too. Why not have a fireworks display also?

Why do I see book stores and coffee shops in the church buildings? What? Is this house of worship or a store?

Why do I see pastors who are leading the worship wearing jeans and a collard shirt? What? Are we in some trade show?

Why do I see stadium style seating? Looks like a movie theater to me? Why not have a guy going through the isles selling beer and hotdogs if that’s how it’s gonna be.

All this stuff = a LACK OF REVERENCE. I’m fed up with seeing it and I dispise it. It’s as if we’ve made church into an entertainment venue.

I tell you assuredly I’ll never step foot into a Protestant church again. I will worship in a reformed Catholic Church or Eastern Orthodox Church only, where these things and the dumbed down crowed who require novelty are not found.

And you mention statutes. Is this the church a house of God and worship or a venue for a business conference? I can’t find one object in half these churches that even reflect God or his might or holiness.

Even MANY of the RC laymen want to return to the Latin mass. Why? Most don’t understand Latin? I’ll tell you why. They look over at the Protestants and see this nonsense I’m mentioning now and are reviled by it as I am. They see the antidote as returning to a more traditional way of worship and they are in fact right to feel that way.

Meanwhile I see the Protestants criticizing the RC and I’m like:

[Exterminatore]

“Really? Get out of my face with your light shows and church rock bands.” At least the RC has some reverence for God, you people have taken away his holiness and dumbed down your worship to degenerate level.”

I tell you assuredly, Hell itself will freeze over before I ever worship in another Protestant church.

Reformed Catholic or Eastern Orthodox for me only from now on. The Protestants can take their modernism in their worship and step off with it so far as I’m concerned.

I mean what an unholy way to treat the omnipotent God.

I’m just waiting for them to add a laser light show to their worship.

Are you understanding where I’m
Coming from now?

[Alwayreckles93]

@cowboy1213 Yes I am.

[WindAtMyBack]

The large majority are happy. Although in some cases it's their third or even forth try. But they finally got it right. I don't know any that are downright miserable, but I know some where there is tension.

[TonyMetal___86]

Yes and they are happy, especially older couples...

[JacobJordan]

Yes. Both my wife and I are very happy we are currently writing this together

[Anonymous]

Here's the problem with this: people tend to get more miserable as the get out of their youth. And they also tend to get married at the end of their youth. I think it's the lack of youth and transition into full adulthood that tends to make people miserable REGARDLESS of whether they marry or not. For the ones in good marriages, it probably helps. For the ones in bad ones it no doubt makes things worse.

[madhatters4]

it's say most of the married couples i know are happy. it's definitely the minority of couples that are unhappy, in circle of friends and family

[molonski2]

Virtually NONE are happy , some try and " play " as if they are , its just a system that is a complete joke , it doesn't work.. its 80% failure rate in real terms.

[mobiusforniner]

Happiness is a choice. Marriage is an effort that requires two people collectively work together, getting past differences, enduring hardship, while both being committed to that choice.

[SolitarySolace]

My dad and step mom appear to be happily married. My sister and her husband so far seem to be. My grandpa and step grandma seem to be too. I don’t have many family members who are married. They’re either divorced or widowed.

[Sparkie460]

Yes I know several happily married couples, I'm one of them

[Anemone978]

Yes my grandparents are happily married and my sister seems happy.. though it seems like she kisses her husbands ass LOL

[RingOfFire]

Love stinks but its better than the alternative.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/E0LAs7X5ybE

[Nikki1989]

Yes, they are all happy. I saw most of them just last night.

[Joshydavid25]

Oh, yeah I know and have encountered Couples seem to enjoy each other's company that's been married longer than I've been alive..

[dolemite58]

i know a handful of couples id call a happy/good to each other, the other 95% are miserable. if you told me my parachute will only open 5% of the time i wouldn’t go skydiving 😂

[jamesgoldman]

The married ones are happy, the divorced ones are happy once I pay them

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't no nor does anyone else unless you live in that house or they actually tell you.

[Anonymous]

All of the dudes are miserable unless they’re married to prostitutes

[Anonymous]

If married couple is happy that's means they have secret sexual relationship with someone else... otherwise no chance.

[Anonymous]

All of my siblings are happily married.

[Libarena]

My siblings are happily married.

[exitseven]

iam happily married.

[admles]

My parents.

My wife and myself.

[Joker_]

I know some