Currently married people: are you happy being married?

[OlderAndWiser]

Marriage seems to draw more criticism than anything else on this site. The criticism seems to come primarily from guys, and I suspect that they have either been indoctrinated in MGTOW philosophy from an early age or they had a marriage/relationship that failed in spectacular fashion and they have not been able to move past the emotional devastation.

I have been married before and much of the time I was happy and contented. If you are currently married, how do you feel about your marriage: good, bad, or in-between?

I am NOT currently married.

I am under age 30, currently married, and mostly happy being married

I am under age 30, currently married, and half-happy, half-unhappy being married

I am under age 30, currently married, and mostly UNhappy being married

I am age 30 or older, currently married, and mostly happy being married

I am age 30 or older, currently married, and half-happy, half-unhappy being married

I am age 30 or older, currently married, and mostly UNhappy being married

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I'm well over 30 and have been married for 20 years.

I chose the last choice, being unhappy. Although I'm not really.

It's just not worth it for men anymore. We get married in good faith, then soon after the woman focuses on getting pregnant and starting a family. This is a method of entrapment, because without the kids they have no leverage.

Once kids come into the picture, the wife usually gains weight, stops doing housework, childcare, has affairs, and then they blame their husbands for everything, especially in divorce court where they make false accusations of infidelity, child abuse, spousal abuse, etc.. to ensure custody of the children who they will raise to hate their father, whom is bled monthly for "child support" to the point that his life is reduced to poverty while she lives in style. The kids are often neglected by her in these scenarios too.

I've lost count of how many men I've seen fall victim to this over all my years, but the fact is that nearly ALL marriages end this way. Just ask any divorced man in his 30's or 40's.

Marriage is outdated and stupid. Don't do it.
That's my advice to Millenials and Gen Z.

[worldscolide]

Every marriage has ups and downs. Mine is no different, but i will make one thing clear, Emotionally i am WAY happier than i was when i was a bachelor.

[worldscolide]

Man must have had an Incel down vote me.

[DaisyAimi]

Good to hear! :)

[loves2learn]

I’m mostly happy being married. I think it’s a really good environment to raise 2 kids in a loving, married household.

[musicbrain5]

Married and happy. Of course, we have our dramatic moments, but they’re generally brief.

[TurboKid]

I'm in my 40s and extremely happy being married (for over a decade). I got one of those rare wives who almost never gets offended (laughs at feminists, e. g.). She never wants to escalate a fight. And she takes care of herself (formerly into ballet, kendo, and judo). I hit the freaking jackpot [sorry if that makes other people upset].

[TurboKid]

No one will believe how good I have it until they meet my wife. Then they can know. My closest friends know. I got the whole package: maturity, beauty, brains, charisma, everything. I don't deserve this. But I'm riding it out all happy.

[worldscolide]

my wife is the same way.. Small town conservative girl.. Best choice ever..

[TurboKid]

@worldscolide High-five! To the best of women.

[worldscolide]

Back at ya sir.

[TurboKid]

Just read back my post and it might have been kind of cringey like when I read my friends' writings about their lovers. But my wife is #1. I also love her butt. I have few things worth boasting about. She's worth boasting about. I hope everyone can find something like that. There is no one else in the world with whom I can get along so well, and we've seen each other at our very worst. I've never been very good with words but all my best wishes go to her. Damn, that's cheesy. Sorry about that. But if there's one thing I'm perfectly happy with about my life, it's her.

Of course, she does annoy me a bit. She has this habit of trying to wake me up in the mornings when we shower together by spraying cold water on me. I hate that so much. And sometimes she farts in her sleep and she's like a ginger addict. She puts ginger on just about everything including everything she cooks. So her farts smell like ginger mixed with a fart. And sometimes she farts under the blankets and I pull the blankets and it hits like a truck.

[worldscolide]

I think wives are meant to annoy us, but honestly with all of the positives, the negatives do not matter

[EmmaMary]

Extremely happily married, and thank you for asking.

[candleteabrunch]

I am not married as i voted. And the reason: even the Bible and even secular opinions always offer the fail-safe: not everyone is cut out for marriage. Some truly are better off single. And that surely is healthier for all involved. Imagine a future domestic violence or imperfect match-up. If people can foresee these things, as it says, "then better, not to marry" even Paul knew what he could see even centuries ago. Don't force people i guess and don't feel pressured to. You know... pressured, never any good comes from it 😐😑🤔

[OlderAndWiser]

If you interpreted my post as suggesting that everyone should get married, or pressuring people to get married, then yo have misinterpreted it.

[candleteabrunch]

*arm up hand up* My fault. But that said, i stand by my opinion 'in general' and no reflection on you/your question, no misunderstanding intended 🤗

[candleteabrunch]

🙌🙌🙋🙋

[candleteabrunch]

Thanks for understanding 🤗👍👍👍

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, some are not well suited for marriage and should stay away from it.

[45Fstraight]

I voted 1/2 and 1/2. I've been married for a couple of decades now. I love being a wife and mother, I love family life. BUT, it has been very tough. I finally realized that I cannot make him happy no matter how good of a wife I try to be. It took 2 decades for me to realize that his mistreatment is actually not my fault. I have always been faithful AND loyal to him, but I wish I married someone who really loves me.

[Avicenna]

It's the gynocentric nature of the divorce process that turns men off. A split from a girlfriend, even if you have a child together, is usually very different than one from a wife.

[OlderAndWiser]

I hear that from many guys, but divorce law and practice in Florida apparently is much different that in other parts of the US.

[hahahmm]

Happy here. My wife is a traditional type and so am I.

[bolverk]

Not and have never been married, decided to remain single long before MGTOW ever appeared, remained single because it suits my life, I work abroad on short notice contracts I can close my flat down and be heading too an airport inside of 30 mins I would not be able to do that if married.

[Lliam]

I'm very happy with my wife of almost 25 years. :-)

[exitseven]

I am 50 and have been married 25 years. It has been mostly great. My wife has been a really good partner and we have had a happy life so far.

[mike5150]

Very happy. Been together for 7 years now. Married for 4 of them. Couldn't imagine myself single now days.

[Anonymous]

Currently married, but not for long. Wife filed for divorce last month.

[OlderAndWiser]

My condolences.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you, appreciate it. I know it's for the best because she has not been faithful and I know now she is not committed and not the woman I thought she was when I married her. But it's a panful adjustment and has been very hard on my self esteem.

[OlderAndWiser]

I hope there are no children involved. Do you already have an attorney?

[Opinion Owner]

Thankfully we do not have any children. I don't have an attorney yet but I know I need to do that. I've kind of been in denial about it, and work has been crazy busy so I just haven't done anything yet. I will though.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am a divorce attorney. I am not trying to solicit your business as I doubt you live in my area, but I can offer some advice on finding an attorney if you are interested. Feel free to DM me.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh nice, than you. I may take you up on that when I get in the right frame of mind to. Thank you very much.

[Opinion Owner]

May I ask what region you are in? I am on the west coast.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am in northeast Florida.

[Opinion Owner]

Ah, OK. Thanks again.

[Slartybartfast]

I didn't go to my divorce hearing, not going to give that misandrus kangaroo Court the legitimacy.

[BCRanger10]

I'm married and happily so (two year anniversary next week!).

[Apple1996]

I'm very happy being married 🙂

[najekim]

Just had our 23rd anniversary and still going strong! :D

[Iron_Man]

I am not currently married and never have been. Only one long-term relationship that lasted 7 1/2 years

[Anpu23]

I'm mostly happy, like all relationships we have our hiccups but all in all we're good.

[msc545]

I am not currently married but I was previously, and I will never do that again.

[KrakenAttackin]

@msc545. Yes, agreed. Never again.

[Rok4bakAR]

Marriage doesn’t really work anymore.
Women are married to Tiktok!

[Nik1hil]

😂🤣 OMG...
Married to Tik-tok...

[Rok4bakAR]

Is true! Go to Tiktok. The same girl who dress half naked and dance front of Tiktok are too busy to talk to someone beside them.
Our humanity of fked!

[OlderAndWiser]

There are many married people who disagree with your assessment of marriage.

[Rok4bakAR]

Because you don’t have observational skills and you don’t see the metaphor of what I said

[OlderAndWiser]

And you skills for diplomacy and tact are woefully deficient.

[Nik1hil]

Wow!..
😮😮
COACH Vs OLDERANDWISER!..

Two great people I idolize on Gag! Clashing 🤔😮🤔

[Asianguy123]

I want to marry to this guy in New York City. I am going to adopt a child and happily ever after

[Anonymous]

I'm very happily married. I love my husband with all my heart and he's great to me! He's also an amazing stepdad to my two girls and an amazing father to our two boys.